Hotel, 100%

Just stay with aunt. No big deal.

I can’t believe the aunt told you she is planning on sleeping on the sofa. There is some kind of interesting family dynamic going on with this family. Check back after the holiday and tell us how it went. And yes, I would stay at a hotel.

Anonymous wrote:I would just got a hotel. Your aunt means well but inviting her 2 adult daughters and your family of 4 to stay with her with only 3 bedrooms available for the 8 of you was never a good plan. And I’ll be honest, as an adult I would have been like WTF if I was going to spend Christmas at my mom’s house and was told I had to share a bed with my sister because my cousin’s family was planning to stay there too.

Typo, meant to say 6 of you.

I would just got a hotel. Your aunt means well but inviting her 2 adult daughters and your family of 4 to stay with her with only 3 bedrooms available for the 8 of you was never a good plan. And I’ll be honest, as an adult I would have been like WTF if I was going to spend Christmas at my mom’s house and was told I had to share a bed with my sister because my cousin’s family was planning to stay there too.

Just graciously reiterate that you really don’t want your kids keeping everyone up and that she doesn’t need the added stress of making up the living room as a bed each day so you all are more than happy to spread out at a hotel. Pacify her by saying the kids will nap at her place.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When we had a baby, we took over the master at my parents house. You would not be the first. It can be hard to pack up the little ones to a hotel at the end of the day, and there is no kitchen at the hotel. How long is the stay? For one or two nights, maybe take over the master. If you are there for a week then get a hotel.

This.

That was your mom.

Hotel or don't go.

If your aunt is typically reasonable and not a martyr who will be all "ow, my back.... oh no, the couch is fine, really...", and you were happy to stay in the full house otherwise, I would go ahead and stay in the master.

My mom had slept on the couch in her own apartment so the kids could have a room, sometimes people are truly fine with it.

That said, there's nothing wrong with the hotel either if that's your current preference.

I wouldn’t even sleep in a queen with my 10 yr old DD.

Anonymous wrote:When we had a baby, we took over the master at my parents house. You would not be the first. It can be hard to pack up the little ones to a hotel at the end of the day, and there is no kitchen at the hotel. How long is the stay? For one or two nights, maybe take over the master. If you are there for a week then get a hotel.

This.

I don’t think you should go to a hotel if you are doing it to keep your relative from giving up her room. If you want to go to a hotel, then you should feel free to do so. But if she would really rather you stay with her, then don’t do her the “favor” of staying elsewhere. I personally don’t think sleeping on the couch is a big deal and wouldn’t mind giving up my bedroom if the house was full.

When we had a baby, we took over the master at my parents house. You would not be the first. It can be hard to pack up the little ones to a hotel at the end of the day, and there is no kitchen at the hotel. How long is the stay? For one or two nights, maybe take over the master. If you are there for a week then get a hotel.

What would be great is if you arrive before the sisters. Take one of the guest rooms and let them duke it out—either they figure out how to share the bed, or they flip a coin to see who gets the couch.

Anonymous wrote:Personally my sister and I would just share a bed so the family could take the other room but I do understand as an adult that gets less comfortable. But I can’t believe they would make their mom sleep on the couch as an alternative instead of them sharing a bed (since it’s important to your aunt). That would never ever be something my sister and I would consider

I also think a lot of people responding don’t understand the situation. There are two sisters, coming to their moms house for thanksgiving. They are single in 20s and 30s. There are two spare bedrooms. One option would be that the single sisters share a bed and the visiting cousin, her spouse and child sleep in the other spare. The other is that each sister take a spare room and in this case the aunt who wants the cousin to be able to stay is saying she will sleep on the couch so they can have the master which of course op is rightly saying she wouldn’t be comfortable with. And I don’t think op is asking the cousins to share, her family is.