Anonymous wrote:If it's just once or twice a year, you just deal with it. It's called being hospitable. Guests make messes, you clean them up.

This. Don’t start the day off like some unhinged shoe Karen.

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Anonymous wrote:My mom goes berserk when someone asks her to take off her shoes. She goes on and on about how dirty bare feet are and how disgusting it is to be putting bare feet on floors and getting the floors dirty. She also complains about how my family's bare feet track crumbs everywhere in her house whereas shoes wouldn't.

Its november. Who is running around in shoes with no socks?

This is the DC area and isn't that cold. I rarely wear socks, especially in my heels or shoes I wear to work. Walking the dog or going to the bus stop I just have boots I slip on with no socks.

I'm trying to picture a large family gathering with 30+ pairs of shoes by the door and everyone walking around in bare feet.

Anonymous wrote:My mom goes berserk when someone asks her to take off her shoes. She goes on and on about how dirty bare feet are and how disgusting it is to be putting bare feet on floors and getting the floors dirty. She also complains about how my family's bare feet track crumbs everywhere in her house whereas shoes wouldn't.

So crumbs from food is worse than dirt, grime, and more from the streets that are also getting the floor dirty if she wears outdoor shoes indoors? So, her way means even more crud on the floors.

If it's just once or twice a year, you just deal with it. It's called being hospitable. Guests make messes, you clean them up.

Anonymous wrote:My mom goes berserk when someone asks her to take off her shoes. She goes on and on about how dirty bare feet are and how disgusting it is to be putting bare feet on floors and getting the floors dirty. She also complains about how my family's bare feet track crumbs everywhere in her house whereas shoes wouldn't.

Its november. Who is running around in shoes with no socks?

Anonymous wrote:My mom goes berserk when someone asks her to take off her shoes. She goes on and on about how dirty bare feet are and how disgusting it is to be putting bare feet on floors and getting the floors dirty. She also complains about how my family's bare feet track crumbs everywhere in her house whereas shoes wouldn't.

We keep a set of indoor shoes for frequent visitors (family members). I don’t like walking barefoot either and I wear supportive slippers inside because my feet hurt otherwise.

Anonymous wrote:We take off our shoes inside but when I host a big gathering, I do not insist on shoes off. I just clean afterwards. I think leaving shoes off keeps the house much cleaner, but it is not like we are going to keel over if shoes are worn occasionally.

I have never had issues with scuff marks...are your floors very light OP? Are these boots terribly dirty?

Same. We are shoes off for ourselves, but I never ask guests to remove their shoes. I clean after they leave. I do have shoes covers that I offer trades people since they are usually in boots and it’s more effort to take them off.

I’m having a hard time picturing boots that scuff floors. I know someone who keeps a basket of slippers by their door for guests and someone who gives footie-style slippers to people, which they take home. It’s up to you, OP, but I think that if you want to train your family to go shoes off in your house, it’s done better over time, so people know your position on shoes inside, instead of at a big family gathering.

My mom goes berserk when someone asks her to take off her shoes. She goes on and on about how dirty bare feet are and how disgusting it is to be putting bare feet on floors and getting the floors dirty. She also complains about how my family's bare feet track crumbs everywhere in her house whereas shoes wouldn't.

We take off our shoes inside but when I host a big gathering, I do not insist on shoes off. I just clean afterwards. I think leaving shoes off keeps the house much cleaner, but it is not like we are going to keel over if shoes are worn occasionally.

I have never had issues with scuff marks...are your floors very light OP? Are these boots terribly dirty?

Anonymous wrote:I have foot and ankle issues and it’s painful for me to go barefoot. Please don’t prioritize scuffs on your floors over your guests health.

Then bring other shoes to change into.

I didn’t realize many people still wore shoes in the house in 2022. Although, we’ve been a shoe free house for 18 years and my in-laws, every time they come over, ask “should we take our shoes off?” (hoping they don’t have to.) “Yes Janet, just like every visit with us since 2004.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate shoes of households with the fury of a thousand burning suns. If you don’t want to clean your floors after people leave don’t have people over.
Send your family to my house where we don’t worry about this ridiculous sh!t.

That's precisely the grossness, you don't worry about shit all over your floors. Nasty.

Life’s too short to worry about sh!t on your floors. C’mon over and I’ll make you a mimosa.

Anonymous wrote:Why do westerns even wear shoes in the house? Just take them off like billions of other sane people do in the cultures. Yournrelatives can stay outside and not eat turkey if they have problems with taking their shoes off. Shoes in the house is gross.

People do. The same reason some people don’t wear shoes, some people choose to wear shoes. That is their home culture.

Op, as far as your dilemma, become a shoeless household even for just Thanksgiving. Put a note on the door asking people to remove their shoes or send out a message before dinner. Buy a package of socks in case people feel uncomfortable about their socks or aren’t wearing any. Make sure your floors are super clean so that people feel comfortable walking around in their socks.

Anonymous wrote:I hate shoes of households with the fury of a thousand burning suns. If you don’t want to clean your floors after people leave don’t have people over.
Send your family to my house where we don’t worry about this ridiculous sh!t.

That's precisely the grossness, you don't worry about shit all over your floors. Nasty.