Anonymous wrote:I have three kids. I "parented" the third one way less. She seems to be the most well-adjusted and easiest kid, which I especially see now that they are all older. So I think because I was more hands off with her, she turned out better. That's my conclusion.
Anonymous wrote:There's way too much yelling in our house, us at our kids, our kids at us. There's anxiety and depression and reactivity and it's not good. Lots of parenting fails. OP, your concerns seem big but in a few years, you won't even remember them.
Anonymous wrote:You’ve got the right attitude OP! It’s hard. Really hard. The urge to compare your parenting to the Joneses who seem to always be put together with perfectly behaved children that only eat organic kale is strong. But everyone has bad days and fails. Stay away from those who offer unsolicited advice. Ask yourself what you intuitively think is right before googling advice. Your gut is the best guidepost.
As for fails, my kids had too much screen time in the toddler/preschool years. Like, waaay over the recommended amount. I just couldn’t deal with them on so many occasions… it was my escape valve. Now that they’re elementary school age I’ve got it together. We have a whole strict screen time system in place, it’s limited, and they’re fine. Thriving academically and socially. I guess dumb singsongy YouTube videos didn’t fry their brains after all.
Anonymous wrote:Almost none of that stuff matters. Stop reading parenting blogs or books or whatever that give that kind of advice. People have been raising healthy kids for thousands of years in a wide variety of ways; there can't be just one right way or the human race would be defunct already.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I let all my kids use a pacifier until age 3. Only my youngest ended up with teeth in the shape of a pacifier. (He was going to need braces anyway after inheriting his father's mouth.)
Ha! Ty. My kid is almost 4 and still uses one at night. My friends can tease me all they want but my kid sleeps! They have all had various levels of sleep issues when they took there's away from the kid.
Teeth are great. Although most kids these days will have braces regardless. They ain't going to high school with it, I'm done worrying.