Anonymous wrote:If you’re not pregnant after 1-2 months does that mean you have a problem?

No, the average time to get pregnant is actually 9-10 months. People on here are just crazy and like to age-shame older moms.

Anonymous wrote:I had multiple miscarriages before conceiving, both at 33 and 36. Even though I did ultimately have a live birth both times, the losses were hard and I wish people were more upfront about the likelihood of more emotionally difficult losses in this age range.

I'm very sorry for your losses but some of us can't be up front about that because it never happened to us. I got pregnant about two months after we started trying when I was 35 and I had the baby at 36, and the same when I was 38/39. It was easy peasy, no fertility struggles. I feel the opposite of you -- the internet tells you it will be so hard, you're so old, blah blah but I and my good friends had no trouble at all having babies at 35+ The struggles are a lie. Your miscarriages are just genetics, PP. Again, very sorry for your losses.

2 months at 36 and 2 months at 39

I had multiple miscarriages before conceiving, both at 33 and 36. Even though I did ultimately have a live birth both times, the losses were hard and I wish people were more upfront about the likelihood of more emotionally difficult losses in this age range.

1st try, 41.

4 months at 36, with a chemical on month 1. Cycle 2 our timing wasn’t great.

Had conceived on first try at 34 for first kid.

3 months trying isn’t much. I wouldn’t worry yet.

Me - immediately.
Sibling - multiple miscarriages before throwing money at IVF.

4 months at 37. 1 month at 39 (while still breastfeeding, which supposedly lowers fertility). I know I'm an outlier, and I think these are some things that helped:

- I had a vegetarian diet and ate soy products a few times a week, and I didn't eat much junk food.
- I used to exercise vigorously when I was in my late 20s-mid 30s (ran marathons, etc) but had injuries and reduced intensity for a year prior to TTC. I was still active for about an hour a day in the year before I TTC, just at a much more relaxed pace (yoga, walking, jogging).
- I was 10 lbs heavier than when I exercised vigorously, but still in the normal BMI range.
- I had a low stress job and not much personal drama.
- When I got pregnant a second time, I was still taking prenatals because I was nursing my first child.

2 weeks at 38.

Get tipsy. One night, not a recurring thing. It’ll happen.

2 years. Get tested now. It’s just bloodwokd.

First pregnancy at age 39, it took one month.

Second pregnancy, at age 40, it took 4 months.

We never used BC after the pregnancy at age 40, and I didn't conceive at all in four years. I was told I had secondary infertility.

1st try at 37 (baby #4). Babies #1 and #3 took longer, 2 and 3 months respectively.

If you’re not pregnant after 1-2 months does that mean you have a problem?

Pregnant on first try at 37 for first pregnancy. I had subsequent miscarriages but was over 40 when we tried again and my OB has told me 40+ is a totally different ballgame than 35-39. She doesn't view 35-38 as an AMA pregnancy unless there is a history of fertility issues (beyond additional screening that they recommend for everyone 35+).