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Anonymous wrote:Also men don’t care about age. They care about sexiness. Younger men hitting on you means nothing more than they find you attractive. It does NOT mean they assume you are their age, lol.

In fact, and I hate to say this because it’s mean, but they may be doing it because they know you are older and more of a sure thing (desperate cougar stereotype).

But honestly who cares? If two adults are having fun, what’s the big deal? Most men are a “sure thing” at any age.

Personally, I don’t care. Have at it. Get it girl. I’m just saying because this is usually the first line of defense with these deluded types. “I’m 54 but I look 34! Younger men hit on me all the time.” Correlation /= causation in this case.

Anonymous wrote:Also men don’t care about age. They care about sexiness. Younger men hitting on you means nothing more than they find you attractive. It does NOT mean they assume you are their age, lol.

In fact, and I hate to say this because it’s mean, but they may be doing it because they know you are older and more of a sure thing (desperate cougar stereotype).

It’s also just what many men are into.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I look in my 20’s but I’ve been mistaken to be a younger person many times.

I’m 54 and people assume I’m in my 30’s.

I don’t see it personally.

But you don’t remember all the times people accurately pegged your age, or didn’t comment at all. You’re reassigning the outliers as the median.

Anonymous wrote:Also men don’t care about age. They care about sexiness. Younger men hitting on you means nothing more than they find you attractive. It does NOT mean they assume you are their age, lol.

In fact, and I hate to say this because it’s mean, but they may be doing it because they know you are older and more of a sure thing (desperate cougar stereotype).

But honestly who cares? If two adults are having fun, what’s the big deal? Most men are a “sure thing” at any age.

Some women think they are being hit on when men are merely polite to them.
My SIL feels the need to post on Facebook every time a man speaks to her in public. "Can't even enjoy a day at the beach without being hit on. It never fails."
Extremely embarrassing and self-involved. Much like taking a selfie. Even if you are beautiful I find it weird to post a photo of yourself in your car or the bathroom.

Also men don’t care about age. They care about sexiness. Younger men hitting on you means nothing more than they find you attractive. It does NOT mean they assume you are their age, lol.

In fact, and I hate to say this because it’s mean, but they may be doing it because they know you are older and more of a sure thing (desperate cougar stereotype).

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I've noticed similar in that age bracket.

+1

Insecurity, but they think they have "healthy" self esteem. When someone is so far off the mark, it borders on mental illness.

I wondered if mental illness is involved too, and what illness it would fall under. Like how can you look in the mirror and see something so different from the reality of what's there? And then be brazen enough to say it aloud. Like even if I thought it, humility would kick in and keep my mouth shut. It's the combination of fallacy and audacity that is the most striking aspect. It's fascinating, honestly.

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I’ve noticed the same. I don’t think they are lying that people have told them this, because people have told ME that I look 28 and I’m 44. I think I look…about 43 after a good night’s sleep. I’m slim and have decent skin but otherwise I definitely look much older than my 28 year old self. But some people believe these compliments and have a distorted picture of themselves. That said, many (most?) men truly don’t mind a woman’s age. It’s sad that society insists otherwise. I wish it wasn’t such a “compliment” to insist that someone looks younger than they are.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I've noticed similar in that age bracket.

+1

Insecurity, but they think they have "healthy" self esteem. When someone is so far off the mark, it borders on mental illness.

I wondered if mental illness is involved too, and what illness it would fall under. Like how can you look in the mirror and see something so different from the reality of what's there? And then be brazen enough to say it aloud. Like even if I thought it, humility would kick in and keep my mouth shut. It's the combination of fallacy and audacity that is the most striking aspect. It's fascinating, honestly.

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Anonymous wrote:Some have really hood self esteem. Is that a crime? Im 46 and look maybe 10 years younger, except when my grays show.

Sorry no. It’s delusion. Nicole Kidman looks her age, if you see photos of her that aren’t photoshopped. So does Kate Middleton. You know what the tells are? Hands, neck, and lack of pliancy in the skin. It’s ok.

Looking your age /= tight grey curls like in our grandmas’ time. It’s ok to look your age.

+1

I am 48 and look 48 and even if I thought I looked younger and young guys were hitting on me I would have enough self-awareness to realize that’s at best a boring self-involved topic of conversation for others and at worst, a mortifying and possibly delusional thing to say.

The types of people that say things like this, it’s a symptom of a larger problem which is their clueless and cringe personality.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it hurting you? No? Then who cares.

People are criminally offended when women actually like and value themselves. You never see equivalent threads about why women have such low self-esteem.

I see a problem with with the idea that looking younger, men hitting on them, etc. means these women like and value themselves. It equates a woman's worth with male attention and looking young. I get it, I'm 39 and have an extensive anti-aging skincare routine, but the whole thing is messed up.

How is it messed up? What’s wrong with them having fun and feeling attractive?

This board is exhausting.

I know, it can be exhausting to use your brain.

I don't know how you interpreted my comment as saying that it's wrong to have fun and feel attractive. What is wrong is the broader idea that we place more value on women who look younger and are more desirable to men. (And you're the one who used the term value, not me)

I don’t think I look in my 20’s but I’ve been mistaken to be a younger person many times.

I’m 54 and people assume I’m in my 30’s.

I don’t see it personally.

Anonymous wrote:Some have really hood self esteem. Is that a crime? Im 46 and look maybe 10 years younger, except when my grays show.

Sorry no. It’s delusion. Nicole Kidman looks her age, if you see photos of her that aren’t photoshopped. So does Kate Middleton. You know what the tells are? Hands, neck, and lack of pliancy in the skin. It’s ok.

Looking your age /= tight grey curls like in our grandmas’ time. It’s ok to look your age.

How many of these young, hot men are tagging along to your get togethers? If the answer is NONE, there's your answer.