Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Social faux-pas of the gravest sort, OP.
Communal gifts should never single out anyone in particular.

You are free to thank individual staff members with a small gift card, email, etc. When my son graduated from middle school, I CC-ed the Principal on the thank you emails I sent to individual teachers who had gone above and beyond to cater to his special needs.

So just reach out to school secretary and leave the boxes anonymously? Hmm can I say they are from a thankful kindergarten parent without mentioning names? I plan to do a gift to individual teacher around the holidays or chip in for a class gift. This would be a morning pick me up kind of thing. I used to be a teacher in a different school and it meant a lot when appreciation gifts like this came in. It’s very different from the administration treating us to donuts.

I think you're confusing two things OP. No, you can write a note that says "Thank you teachers, especially these three teachers and the librarian" <-- that would be super rude.

You can, however, give a gift to everybody and sign it with your name. That's fine.

See, two separate things.

You can obviously buy donuts for the teachers and staff and give your name. What you can't do is say "these donuts are specifically for Mrs. Smith, Mrs. Lane, and Mr. Johnson because they've helped my daughter."

You'll have the opportunity to give those individuals gifts during the holiday time. But you know what they'll appreciate the most? An emailed thank you note with their principal and AP cc'd.

It’s a nice idea, but I don’t go in the teachers lounge. More than half of the teacher at my school don’t eat lunch in there either. I would not know if there was food left.

The best thing to do is send an email to the individual teachers or send a card. I would skip the food or if you really want to send something, at least make it non perishable like chocolate or tea. They can give it away if they don’t want it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teachers don’t want this crap. Too much sugar. We are also trying to eat healthy. Give Amazon gift cards or Barnes and noble. Nobody needs any more cheap baked goods.

Speak for yourself. I definitely want a donut.

Exactly. I personally do not eat the treats brought in because I’m counting calories, but most of the staff at my school wants it and appreciates it.

Anonymous wrote:It’s perfectly fine to put a general note on a treat basket you are sending in to school. When I taught elementary, parents often sent in goodies for the staff with a note like, “Thanks for all you do! Enjoy the treats! Love, the x family”.

This sounds like a good option.

Anonymous wrote:Teachers don’t want this crap. Too much sugar. We are also trying to eat healthy. Give Amazon gift cards or Barnes and noble. Nobody needs any more cheap baked goods.

Speak for yourself. I definitely want a donut.

Teachers don’t want this crap. Too much sugar. We are also trying to eat healthy. Give Amazon gift cards or Barnes and noble. Nobody needs any more cheap baked goods.

Anonymous wrote:I’m thinking of sending donuts and coffee or maybe a big basket of individual snack bags at my son’s school. Would it be too showy to include a card that says thank you to everyone for all you do but especially to Larlo’s teachers Mrs. X, helper Ms. Y and a couple of their people (Librarian and PE teacher)? Or do I need to send this stuff in anonymously? I do really like that his teachers have helped him feel so comfortable at school because we are new and I want to recognize them.

School Librarian here...

I suggest you send Mrs. X/Helper Y/Librarian/PE Teacher etc emails the night before and tell them you're dropping off a special treat at school for all the teachers but you wanted to make sure they knew you were thinking specifically of the help that particular teacher has given Larlo. The note is what would mean the most to me, not the donut. With this method, I also get a heads-up about the donuts so I can go early and grab one before my favorite flavor is gone! Leave a general note of thanks from your family.

If you really want to thank these teachers specifically, a note to the principal about how much they've done for Larlo goes a long way. (Forward the note to the teachers individually afterward.) If you really want to do food, put something in small paper bags and ask the secretary to put it in the teachers' mailboxes. Then email the teachers so they know to go check their boxes before the day's over.

This year has been rough on all of us so I'm sure any gesture - no matter how small - will be much appreciated!

Anonymous wrote:Best thing to ever show up in a teachers lounge was homemade caramels. No card, no note, nothing showy, just pure deliciousness.

Yes. That is perfect.

Best thing to ever show up in a teachers lounge was homemade caramels. No card, no note, nothing showy, just pure deliciousness.

Nobody wants to spike their blood sugar and then have a crash mid to late morning from eating donuts.

It’s perfectly fine to put a general note on a treat basket you are sending in to school. When I taught elementary, parents often sent in goodies for the staff with a note like, “Thanks for all you do! Enjoy the treats! Love, the x family”.

Anonymous wrote:I once was in our teacher lunch room. It was full of baked goods and candy gift items teachers had not taken home...and a table of mugs and other small gifts. It was truly startling how much was there. I have never given a teacher food again. It was in December so I am sure it is not like that year round.

I really don’t understand this either. Write a nice note. Teachers don’t want more stuff or gift cards. Why all the compulsive teacher gift giving?

Anonymous wrote:If you want to thank specific teachers, write a nice note to them.

If you want to do something nice for all the teachers, talk to the PTO.

This. What you are proposing is obnoxious

I once was in our teacher lunch room. It was full of baked goods and candy gift items teachers had not taken home...and a table of mugs and other small gifts. It was truly startling how much was there. I have never given a teacher food again. It was in December so I am sure it is not like that year round.