Anonymous wrote:My 7 year old just helped himself to a dump while I was in the shower.

Brings back memories of being a teenager and my youngest sibling by 10 years, who couldn't hold it, was always barging in to poop while I showered. And had the gall to ask me to stop showering so I could help wipe. And I wasn't allowed to lock the door.

By age 4 they can be trained to give you some space. Start by keeping the door open but telling them not to come in. I told them that poop and pee smells are harmful to breathe in. Then let the door get closer and closer to being fully closed.

Mind you, they will still stand right outside and tell you all the inane stuff they have to tell you.

I had 2 under 2 so going to the bathroom was the only private time I had for years. I never gave that up! When the youngest was very little, I would leave the toddler in the childproof area of the house, drop the baby in the bassinet in the master bedroom and use that bathroom in peace and quiet. When they were older, they would both wait outside the bathroom for me.

Both were able to be potty trained fairly easily without watching me.

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I want to avoid the whole open doors thing. I've toilet trained plenty of kids as never used the toilet in front of them so I don't think that's a requirement.

I think op is right I have to get comfortable with her being upset
I rush to soothe her over any fussing. DH has pointed this out to me

Op the reason you “potty trained” a ton of kids without using the bathroom in front of them. Is because their parents used the potty in front of them. Kids are visual learners, that said. Stepping out and coming back is fine. Helps with seperation anxity, you leave and come back. Then leave and come back over and over again until the 1000% sure you will come back.

I pee with my kid all the time but I also never worried about just locking her out for a moment or leaving her in the pack and play. It’s okay if they’re upset for a few minutes.

My almost 4 year old still comes in. He often likes to go potty the same time as me. If I shut the bathroom door, he comes running.

My 7 year old just helped himself to a dump while I was in the shower.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did you do it?
My daughter is 13 months and gets upset if I'm out of sight even for me to go potty.
I bring in with me, but I realize as she is becoming more mobile this isn't practical.
I have a pack n play but she hated it.
So what do you do with your crying toddlers when you need to use the bathroom?

I never took them to bathroom with me. I believe everyone an absolute right to privacy in a bathroom.

Then how did you go anywhere in public? Did you leave a one year old alone outside the bathroom stall and just hope they stay put? Or did you limit your life so that you never went anywhere outside your house for more than 3 hours for 3 years? Ridiculous.

Anonymous wrote:How did you do it?
My daughter is 13 months and gets upset if I'm out of sight even for me to go potty.
I bring in with me, but I realize as she is becoming more mobile this isn't practical.
I have a pack n play but she hated it.
So what do you do with your crying toddlers when you need to use the bathroom?

I never took them to bathroom with me. I believe everyone an absolute right to privacy in a bathroom.

My daughters are 10 and 12 and still come in the bathroom with me and vice versa. I still do the same with my mom and sister. My son is 4 so I expect it will stop in the next year or two with him. Dh has wanted privacy from the girls since around 12 mos but he will still shower with ds. It’s really what you and they are comfortable with.

Anonymous wrote:My kids still come running into the bathroom while I’m using it to ask me questions or show me something. Oldest is 12 years old so......I have no idea when it will stop.

I agree with the previous poster that during potty training and leading up to potty training it helps for them to watch.

If your child is double digits or less you need to start locking the bathroom door and or asking them to knock before barging in on you. We all need boundaries. Nothing is so important that they can’t wait til you’re done.

2 years old at the very oldest. I’m not that shy, but bathroom stuff doesn’t need to be shared. It’s okay if your kids are upset. It’s okay for them to cry. You don’t have to be end over backwards to avoid tears. Crying doesn’t damage them.

Never.

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I want to avoid the whole open doors thing. I've toilet trained plenty of kids as never used the toilet in front of them so I don't think that's a requirement.

I think op is right I have to get comfortable with her being upset
I rush to soothe her over any fussing. DH has pointed this out to me

I am so confused.

You say "OP here" and then "I think OP is right". Are you Elmo?

If the kids you toilet trained weren't your kids, I am guessing their parents used the toilet in front of them.

Wife lets our toddlers wander in, I don't really care for our daughters to start observing male parts. I did have to pee after changing my oldest in a family bathroom at an airport one time and made her stand behind me. She kept laughing at me going That's Silly!