Anonymous
11/26/2022 20:24
Subject: How long does hospice last?
Anonymous wrote:My mother who had dementia was on hospice for 3 years.
NP but How old was she when she passed? And how long had she had dementia? My MIL is only 71 but she is in an advanced state of dementia now after having had it for almost 7 years. She is now sometimes refusing to eat/drink and she sleeps about 16-18 hrs a day.
I know no one can really predict this but we’re wondering if she needs to go into hospice care soon and will talk to her drs about it this week.
Anonymous
11/26/2022 20:07
Subject: How long does hospice last?
Some patients can be in hospice care for a while but if he is not eating I would expect him to pass within a couple of weeks. Hospice care will keep him comfortable. I can’t say enough about Capital Care hospice and the care they provided two of my family members over the last few years.
Have the DNR handy as well as the hospice number to call.
Sorry you are dealing with this.
Have the DNR handy as well as the hospice number to call.
Sorry you are dealing with this.
Anonymous
11/26/2022 19:46
Subject: Re:How long does hospice last?
My dad in his 90s was under hospice care for 15 months - he had to be extended a few times to keep their services - Im convinced my moms doting and loving care kept him alive.
Anonymous
11/19/2022 21:08
Subject: How long does hospice last?
My mother who had dementia was on hospice for 3 years.
Anonymous
11/04/2022 20:12
Subject: How long does hospice last?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There’s a fine line between “palliative” care and “healing” care. If a given condition is causing pain, discomfort or distress, it should be ameliorated even if that can only be done at a hospital. There’s also a fine line between letting nature take its course and hurrying things along. Not everybody in the end of life business is as sensitive as they should be to those distinctions.
You just revealed that you have no real experience or training in hospice care.
No, the hospice patient doesn’t go to the hospital - PERIOD. Pain, discomfort and distress are treated in situ at the hospice facility or in the home if they are in home based hospice. Provision of morphine for these issues is standard in hospice care. Hospice patients DO NOT GO TO THE HOSPITAL BECAUSE THEY DO NOT WISH TO DIE IN THE HOSPITAL. Period.
I have been working hospice for 8 years now. I have had a number of elderly patients who were on hospice status for more than a year before passing away, it is not unusual because unlike hospice patients with cancer or some other terminal illness, they can take a long time to succumb to CHF or whatever other end of life issues they are suffering from.
“You just revealed that you have no real experience or training in hospice care.”
And you just revealed that you are a one-trick morphine pushing pony who has no idea how many other options there are out there. This is a common problem with well-intentioned but quite frankly brainwashed self-appointed arbiters of life and death.
Anonymous
11/04/2022 19:00
Subject: Re:How long does hospice last?
If he’s not eating, I don’t think it will be much longer (weeks).
My sibling was unable to eat or drink and died in hospice seven days after leaving the hospital. Didn’t show active signs of dying until about 2 days before.
The hospice folks were better about telling us signs of getting closer to dying than the doctors. Of course they can’t tell you specifically when anyone will die, but they have seen the process many times. We did inpatient for my sibling as couldn’t manage the pain meds on our own. Sibling never regained consciousness after leaving the hospital.
I’m sorry OP, wishing you peace. If your father is conscious and you still have anything to say to him, go sooner rather than later. I visited my sibling in the hospital about two weeks before she passed and it was the last time I saw her open her eyes. At the time my kids were 2, 4, and 6 years, I worked FT, and and it was a huge inconvenience to go. I understand it’s disruptive, but I went then, and spent the whole last week she was in hospice with my sibling. I am thankful every day I took the time.
My sibling was unable to eat or drink and died in hospice seven days after leaving the hospital. Didn’t show active signs of dying until about 2 days before.
The hospice folks were better about telling us signs of getting closer to dying than the doctors. Of course they can’t tell you specifically when anyone will die, but they have seen the process many times. We did inpatient for my sibling as couldn’t manage the pain meds on our own. Sibling never regained consciousness after leaving the hospital.
I’m sorry OP, wishing you peace. If your father is conscious and you still have anything to say to him, go sooner rather than later. I visited my sibling in the hospital about two weeks before she passed and it was the last time I saw her open her eyes. At the time my kids were 2, 4, and 6 years, I worked FT, and and it was a huge inconvenience to go. I understand it’s disruptive, but I went then, and spent the whole last week she was in hospice with my sibling. I am thankful every day I took the time.
Anonymous
11/03/2022 02:35
Subject: How long does hospice last?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There’s a fine line between “palliative” care and “healing” care. If a given condition is causing pain, discomfort or distress, it should be ameliorated even if that can only be done at a hospital. There’s also a fine line between letting nature take its course and hurrying things along. Not everybody in the end of life business is as sensitive as they should be to those distinctions.
You just revealed that you have no real experience or training in hospice care.
No, the hospice patient doesn’t go to the hospital - PERIOD. Pain, discomfort and distress are treated in situ at the hospice facility or in the home if they are in home based hospice. Provision of morphine for these issues is standard in hospice care. Hospice patients DO NOT GO TO THE HOSPITAL BECAUSE THEY DO NOT WISH TO DIE IN THE HOSPITAL. Period.
I have been working hospice for 8 years now. I have had a number of elderly patients who were on hospice status for more than a year before passing away, it is not unusual because unlike hospice patients with cancer or some other terminal illness, they can take a long time to succumb to CHF or whatever other end of life issues they are suffering from.
My loved one was in hospice care for the first time in at least a year. They pulled out as she improved because of their support and they could not justify it to medicare any longer. As soon as they pulled out, she declined quickly and passed (we tried to bring them back but by the time they got set up again she passed). End of life looks different for everyone. We initially thought it was the end but it was quality of care that was initially the issue. I wish she passed in a hospital as she would have gotten better care.
She might have gotten better medical care at a hospital but she was probably more comfortable at home (if that's where she was). My mom has spent a LOT of time in hospitals, like weeks and months at a time, and it's horrible. Much better at home, if that's where your loved one was. Don't beat yourself up.
She was at a nursing home that ignored her. My spouse basically lived there for the last two weeks.
Anonymous
11/02/2022 21:19
Subject: How long does hospice last?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There’s a fine line between “palliative” care and “healing” care. If a given condition is causing pain, discomfort or distress, it should be ameliorated even if that can only be done at a hospital. There’s also a fine line between letting nature take its course and hurrying things along. Not everybody in the end of life business is as sensitive as they should be to those distinctions.
You just revealed that you have no real experience or training in hospice care.
No, the hospice patient doesn’t go to the hospital - PERIOD. Pain, discomfort and distress are treated in situ at the hospice facility or in the home if they are in home based hospice. Provision of morphine for these issues is standard in hospice care. Hospice patients DO NOT GO TO THE HOSPITAL BECAUSE THEY DO NOT WISH TO DIE IN THE HOSPITAL. Period.
I have been working hospice for 8 years now. I have had a number of elderly patients who were on hospice status for more than a year before passing away, it is not unusual because unlike hospice patients with cancer or some other terminal illness, they can take a long time to succumb to CHF or whatever other end of life issues they are suffering from.
My loved one was in hospice care for the first time in at least a year. They pulled out as she improved because of their support and they could not justify it to medicare any longer. As soon as they pulled out, she declined quickly and passed (we tried to bring them back but by the time they got set up again she passed). End of life looks different for everyone. We initially thought it was the end but it was quality of care that was initially the issue. I wish she passed in a hospital as she would have gotten better care.
She might have gotten better medical care at a hospital but she was probably more comfortable at home (if that's where she was). My mom has spent a LOT of time in hospitals, like weeks and months at a time, and it's horrible. Much better at home, if that's where your loved one was. Don't beat yourself up.
Anonymous
10/27/2022 16:02
Subject: How long does hospice last?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There’s a fine line between “palliative” care and “healing” care. If a given condition is causing pain, discomfort or distress, it should be ameliorated even if that can only be done at a hospital. There’s also a fine line between letting nature take its course and hurrying things along. Not everybody in the end of life business is as sensitive as they should be to those distinctions.
You just revealed that you have no real experience or training in hospice care.
No, the hospice patient doesn’t go to the hospital - PERIOD. Pain, discomfort and distress are treated in situ at the hospice facility or in the home if they are in home based hospice. Provision of morphine for these issues is standard in hospice care. Hospice patients DO NOT GO TO THE HOSPITAL BECAUSE THEY DO NOT WISH TO DIE IN THE HOSPITAL. Period.
I have been working hospice for 8 years now. I have had a number of elderly patients who were on hospice status for more than a year before passing away, it is not unusual because unlike hospice patients with cancer or some other terminal illness, they can take a long time to succumb to CHF or whatever other end of life issues they are suffering from.
My loved one was in hospice care for the first time in at least a year. They pulled out as she improved because of their support and they could not justify it to medicare any longer. As soon as they pulled out, she declined quickly and passed (we tried to bring them back but by the time they got set up again she passed). End of life looks different for everyone. We initially thought it was the end but it was quality of care that was initially the issue. I wish she passed in a hospital as she would have gotten better care.
Anonymous
10/27/2022 15:58
Subject: How long does hospice last?
Anonymous wrote:There’s a fine line between “palliative” care and “healing” care. If a given condition is causing pain, discomfort or distress, it should be ameliorated even if that can only be done at a hospital. There’s also a fine line between letting nature take its course and hurrying things along. Not everybody in the end of life business is as sensitive as they should be to those distinctions.
You just revealed that you have no real experience or training in hospice care.
No, the hospice patient doesn’t go to the hospital - PERIOD. Pain, discomfort and distress are treated in situ at the hospice facility or in the home if they are in home based hospice. Provision of morphine for these issues is standard in hospice care. Hospice patients DO NOT GO TO THE HOSPITAL BECAUSE THEY DO NOT WISH TO DIE IN THE HOSPITAL. Period.
I have been working hospice for 8 years now. I have had a number of elderly patients who were on hospice status for more than a year before passing away, it is not unusual because unlike hospice patients with cancer or some other terminal illness, they can take a long time to succumb to CHF or whatever other end of life issues they are suffering from.
Anonymous
10/27/2022 15:39
Subject: Re:How long does hospice last?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Hi OP. I am a hospice chaplain. I've worked in hospice for almost 20 years. I'm happy to answer any questions you have, non-medical of course. In order for a patient to qualify for hospice care, a physician must certify that given a normal progression of the disease, death is likely within 6 months. That does not mean the patient will die in six months. Doctors can re-certifiy every six months assuming the patient continues to decline. I've seen people on hospice for three years or more.
There are signs that occur when a patient begins the active dying process. They will stop eating and drinking. They aren't hungry or thirsty. Our bodies know how to die. We don't need food or liquids once we start dying. Pushing fluids can actually cause a lot of discomfort in a dying patient. Another sign is sleep. Patients begin to sleep most of the time. Sometimes they can be awakened, but for the most part they are sleeping. Breathing changes. Skin color changes. They may begin seeing deceased loved ones.
The reason they don't want you to go to the ER is because once a patient is on Hospice, we take over. If pain is not being controlled or your dad seems anxious, you'll call your hospice nurse. We don't want patients to deal with the trauma of an ER visit. It's just not necessary. Most patients want to die at home, but that's not always possible. If caring for your dad becomes difficult at home, he can be transferred to an inpatient facility.
Hospice care is about living, not death. We want patients to be as comfortable as possible so that they can spend time with the people that they love. I think our doctors, nurses, pharmacists, and CNAs do an amazing job of getting and keeping patients comfortable. Hospice is a team effort. You'll have all the medical folks involved plus social workers, grief counselors, chaplains, and volunteers. Please let them help. Take advantage of the resources available. Oftentimes Hospice care is a marathon, not a sprint.
I'm sorry about your dad. It's hard to lose a loved one no matter how old they are. Wishing you peace as you begin this journey.
OP here - thank you for this. My father is actually in memory care at an ALF. My mother lives at the ALF in an independent apartment, so she gets to see him frequently. I and my siblings unfortunately do not live locally and are managing this remotely for the most part. I have a full time job and school-aged children which makes it difficult. I appreciate you illuminating that it is a multi-faceted team effort. We're just getting started on this process, and don't know how much time we have left to fully engage on all of these services but I appreciate the information.
My mom has been on hospice in a memory care unit since february. when she was first evaluated, she met most of the end-of-life signifiers (dry, cold skin, significant pallor, reduced movement, lost >10% body weight in a month, refusing food), but still took water and still had bowel movements. When I moved her to a different facility they started taking better care of her, and she now will eat food, and babble, can sit up in a wheelchair, and no longer has the severe pallor. When she first went on hospice, i wasn't sure if she'd survive the month. Currently she's still eligible for hospice, in that they still think she is likely to pass within 6 months, but as long as she's still taking in food and water it's pretty indefinite.
Anonymous
10/27/2022 09:58
Subject: Re:How long does hospice last?
Anonymous wrote:Hi OP. I am a hospice chaplain. I've worked in hospice for almost 20 years. I'm happy to answer any questions you have, non-medical of course. In order for a patient to qualify for hospice care, a physician must certify that given a normal progression of the disease, death is likely within 6 months. That does not mean the patient will die in six months. Doctors can re-certifiy every six months assuming the patient continues to decline. I've seen people on hospice for three years or more.
There are signs that occur when a patient begins the active dying process. They will stop eating and drinking. They aren't hungry or thirsty. Our bodies know how to die. We don't need food or liquids once we start dying. Pushing fluids can actually cause a lot of discomfort in a dying patient. Another sign is sleep. Patients begin to sleep most of the time. Sometimes they can be awakened, but for the most part they are sleeping. Breathing changes. Skin color changes. They may begin seeing deceased loved ones.
The reason they don't want you to go to the ER is because once a patient is on Hospice, we take over. If pain is not being controlled or your dad seems anxious, you'll call your hospice nurse. We don't want patients to deal with the trauma of an ER visit. It's just not necessary. Most patients want to die at home, but that's not always possible. If caring for your dad becomes difficult at home, he can be transferred to an inpatient facility.
Hospice care is about living, not death. We want patients to be as comfortable as possible so that they can spend time with the people that they love. I think our doctors, nurses, pharmacists, and CNAs do an amazing job of getting and keeping patients comfortable. Hospice is a team effort. You'll have all the medical folks involved plus social workers, grief counselors, chaplains, and volunteers. Please let them help. Take advantage of the resources available. Oftentimes Hospice care is a marathon, not a sprint.
I'm sorry about your dad. It's hard to lose a loved one no matter how old they are. Wishing you peace as you begin this journey.
OP here - thank you for this. My father is actually in memory care at an ALF. My mother lives at the ALF in an independent apartment, so she gets to see him frequently. I and my siblings unfortunately do not live locally and are managing this remotely for the most part. I have a full time job and school-aged children which makes it difficult. I appreciate you illuminating that it is a multi-faceted team effort. We're just getting started on this process, and don't know how much time we have left to fully engage on all of these services but I appreciate the information.
Anonymous
10/26/2022 17:03
Subject: Re:How long does hospice last?
Anonymous wrote:Hi OP. I am a hospice chaplain. I've worked in hospice for almost 20 years. I'm happy to answer any questions you have, non-medical of course. In order for a patient to qualify for hospice care, a physician must certify that given a normal progression of the disease, death is likely within 6 months. That does not mean the patient will die in six months. Doctors can re-certifiy every six months assuming the patient continues to decline. I've seen people on hospice for three years or more.
There are signs that occur when a patient begins the active dying process. They will stop eating and drinking. They aren't hungry or thirsty. Our bodies know how to die. We don't need food or liquids once we start dying. Pushing fluids can actually cause a lot of discomfort in a dying patient. Another sign is sleep. Patients begin to sleep most of the time. Sometimes they can be awakened, but for the most part they are sleeping. Breathing changes. Skin color changes. They may begin seeing deceased loved ones.
The reason they don't want you to go to the ER is because once a patient is on Hospice, we take over. If pain is not being controlled or your dad seems anxious, you'll call your hospice nurse. We don't want patients to deal with the trauma of an ER visit. It's just not necessary. Most patients want to die at home, but that's not always possible. If caring for your dad becomes difficult at home, he can be transferred to an inpatient facility.
Hospice care is about living, not death. We want patients to be as comfortable as possible so that they can spend time with the people that they love. I think our doctors, nurses, pharmacists, and CNAs do an amazing job of getting and keeping patients comfortable. Hospice is a team effort. You'll have all the medical folks involved plus social workers, grief counselors, chaplains, and volunteers. Please let them help. Take advantage of the resources available. Oftentimes Hospice care is a marathon, not a sprint.
I'm sorry about your dad. It's hard to lose a loved one no matter how old they are. Wishing you peace as you begin this journey.
Thank you PP for your generous service to others. Your post warmed my heart that people like you exist.