Tell her you want to double check and make sure you got the registry info correct because the one you looked at had a lot of items for girls, and see what her reaction is.

Anonymous wrote:I think you’re spending a lot of time thinking about your co-workers registry— have you thought at all about your co-worker other than this? I think it’s in poor taste to mention a registry but I also think spending time calling a woman trashy on the internet is in poor taste so…it’s going around?

Identify where OP used the word trashy. It was a simple question about current norms, not a ruminating indictment. You're spending a lot of time pointing self-righteous fingers when it's not warranted.

I think you’re spending a lot of time thinking about your co-workers registry— have you thought at all about your co-worker other than this? I think it’s in poor taste to mention a registry but I also think spending time calling a woman trashy on the internet is in poor taste so…it’s going around?

Anonymous wrote:OK, so coworker is having 3rd child. First two kids are under 4.

She has created a registry for gifts for 3rd child, a boy, and current registry has items which are for girls (pink sheets, flowery comforter, girls room decor) and other older toddler items. These things are clearly for her other kids.

Is this the new normal? Why would anyone buy gifts for her other two children when we already bought her gifts for them when they were born?

Well registering for a 3rd is a no. Registering for siblings gifts is a no. That said, my sister demanded we bring her older daughter a big sister gift at her shower for her second. Some people just operate under a totally different set of social rules and norms.

Anonymous wrote:Listen, 20 years ago stuff like this was taboo. But the way i see it now is.... lots of people want to buy gifts for baby - even third babies. It kind of just makes sense to put a registry out there and let people choose. The gifts for other kids stuff is weird. But i'm in a new stage of life of not assuming the worst in people. Nobody i know with a third baby is some money/gift grubbing jerk. They're just trying to stay above water. Assume the best.

DP, I agree with this. People can be so nasty. You don’t want to get a gift, don’t get one. But don’t get a gift and call them tacky.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK, so coworker is having 3rd child. First two kids are under 4.

She has created a registry for gifts for 3rd child, a boy, and current registry has items which are for girls (pink sheets, flowery comforter, girls room decor) and other older toddler items. These things are clearly for her other kids.

Is this the new normal? Why would anyone buy gifts for her other two children when we already bought her gifts for them when they were born?

Having a registry for a third child is already beyond tacky, so why not go all the way?

So I think including things for her older kids is strange, but I think baby registries for each kid make things simple. I’ve gotten gifts off of registries for several friends having their second children. I don’t understand why it’s not tacky to have a registry for your first but it is for your second. I have zero issues with it. Simplifies gift giving and you know it’s something the people need/want, or will be able to return at their convenience if they change their mind.

Listen, 20 years ago stuff like this was taboo. But the way i see it now is.... lots of people want to buy gifts for baby - even third babies. It kind of just makes sense to put a registry out there and let people choose. The gifts for other kids stuff is weird. But i'm in a new stage of life of not assuming the worst in people. Nobody i know with a third baby is some money/gift grubbing jerk. They're just trying to stay above water. Assume the best.