Anonymous
Post 02/15/2023 22:40     Subject: Re:6 weeks pregnant
Anonymous wrote:After having a 14 week loss and was going to announce it, I have no interest in telling anyone pretty much ever if I ever stop losing pregnancies (on loss #4)


I'm sorry. Re
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2023 22:00     Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
At around four months. Before that things are too risky.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2023 09:30     Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
When I was younger, I told people early, probably as soon as we confirmed the heartbeat around 8 weeks.

But now in my 40s, after a recent miscarriage, no, I am not telling anyone. I will call my two best friends if I'm in the throes of another miscarriage, and they will support me. But if the pregnancy progresses, people will just see the bump. I plan on terminating if there are chromosomal abnormalities, which is also a factor. I don't need people's judgment.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2023 08:54     Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:when do we tell people? its 6 weeks too early?



I'm in the same boat, currently 4 weeks and so far we have told our parents, my best friend, and 2 other close couple friends. We probably would have waited to tell the couples, but we had a pre planned weekend away and they would have noticed I wasn't drinking. They are very very close friends and both told us at around 5 weeks pregnant so we felt comfortable sharing the news with them. If we hadn't we would have just made up an excuse as to why I wasn't drinking.

We've decided until we see a heartbeat we will only tell people if we see them in person and they are people we would lean on if we had a loss. After that we will reevaluate when we want to share the news.


Great approach. Some people need to be told since they could notice all this: weight gain, changes in food consumption [what is eaten and how much] , the nausea, any vomiting, change in sleep-mood. One of my pregnancies meant pulling over the car to puke - cut out highway driving for awhile unless I was the passenger. Friend with me in the car deserved to know.


I'm the PP: thanks! We ended up having a chemical that cycle and were so happy that we really hadn't told people since having to tell those that did know really sucked. We got pregnant again the next month and are currently 7w but are waiting to tell people until we see a heartbeat.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2022 06:14     Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:when do we tell people? its 6 weeks too early?



I'm in the same boat, currently 4 weeks and so far we have told our parents, my best friend, and 2 other close couple friends. We probably would have waited to tell the couples, but we had a pre planned weekend away and they would have noticed I wasn't drinking. They are very very close friends and both told us at around 5 weeks pregnant so we felt comfortable sharing the news with them. If we hadn't we would have just made up an excuse as to why I wasn't drinking.

We've decided until we see a heartbeat we will only tell people if we see them in person and they are people we would lean on if we had a loss. After that we will reevaluate when we want to share the news.


Great approach. Some people need to be told since they could notice all this: weight gain, changes in food consumption [what is eaten and how much] , the nausea, any vomiting, change in sleep-mood. One of my pregnancies meant pulling over the car to puke - cut out highway driving for awhile unless I was the passenger. Friend with me in the car deserved to know.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2022 12:23     Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
I waited until 22 and 25 weeks with my two pregnancies. my mom knew at the first positive test but we did IVF and i couldn't bear telling everyone and then something going wrong.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2022 08:32     Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
Anonymous wrote:when do we tell people? its 6 weeks too early?



I'm in the same boat, currently 4 weeks and so far we have told our parents, my best friend, and 2 other close couple friends. We probably would have waited to tell the couples, but we had a pre planned weekend away and they would have noticed I wasn't drinking. They are very very close friends and both told us at around 5 weeks pregnant so we felt comfortable sharing the news with them. If we hadn't we would have just made up an excuse as to why I wasn't drinking.

We've decided until we see a heartbeat we will only tell people if we see them in person and they are people we would lean on if we had a loss. After that we will reevaluate when we want to share the news.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2022 04:41     Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
Anonymous wrote:I had multiple miscarriages in a row. Support turns to pity quickly. I tell my closest supports immediately, but we wouldn’t tell anyone else until much later.


That part.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2022 09:22     Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would only tell the people you would lean on for support if something were to go wrong.


+1.

Congrats OP!

Mom with history of miscarriages here.

With my DD (successful pregnancy) I told my best friend, mom and sister as soon as I tested positive. I told other close family (in-laws, etc. not random cousins) after the 7 or 8-week dating ultrasound, where they found a heartbeat. It was not guaranteed at that point but my other miscarriages were earlier than that so I felt a bit safer. I told the rest of the world at 14 weeks (after the NIPT screening came back negative).

With my other pregnancies I regretted telling before at least seeing a heartbeat -- even family members.

It's a very personal choice.


You can see a heartbeat, multiple times before you don't. NIPT was clear too.


PP: Yes, the risk is never zero, but I felt comfortable with the stats at that point. I was under 30 and low risk
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2022 07:29     Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
Anonymous wrote:when do we tell people? its 6 weeks too early?



I would wait until 12 weeks at least
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2022 07:26     Subject: 6 weeks pregnant
Anonymous wrote:Only tell those you’d be comfortable sharing a loss with. For me, I told my best friend immediately. Didn’t tell parents until 16 weeks. Told everyone else after 20-wk anatomy scan.


I should add that I told earlier in a previous pregnancy that ended in miscarriage (after seeing a strong heartbeat). I regretted sharing that soon.