I’m not sure when it will end, but I love watching my kid play. It hear it’s over before you know it.

Anonymous wrote:Like PP, we have really great coaches and really great team parents but I still hate it. We were late-comers to travel sports -- did rec through middle school and I was generally opposed to the whole idea of travel sports. But my kid really wanted to play in HS, seems to really love it, and apparently you can't play on the varsity HS team unless you do travel in the off-seasons (of which there are 2-3, not just one off-season!).

Actually one of the most toxic people we encountered was the rec commissioner!

But the cycle of tournaments and practices that are not conveniently located and everything else is just beyond exhausting. But my kid has struggled with depression so I can't really make them quit something that is giving them joy/direction and keeping them off the internet crazy sites. Sigh.

This is us, but the worst is what they do to student athletes pulling them in different directions with the Club travel coach and high school coach vying for 109% loyalty or taking punitive action. We made the mistake of leaving a team where the coach/club were very understanding of kids during high school season and didn’t bench them for missing a practice to play in a high school game. A few kids on my child’s team missed 2 practices per week during high school season and the coach did not hold game play time against them. Now we are in a situation with my kid breaking his back to please 2 coaches at once and the Club coach being a complete d@ck about the ones playing high school—even though kids still make it to more practices than sons of the kids not even playing high school this season.

Since you have to play $3500 for August-June there isn’t an option of not playing Fall season and if you drop Club than the high school doesn’t want you.

It is such a disappointment to see adults do this to kids. I kick myself for not knowing the new club would be like this.

Like PP, we have really great coaches and really great team parents but I still hate it. We were late-comers to travel sports -- did rec through middle school and I was generally opposed to the whole idea of travel sports. But my kid really wanted to play in HS, seems to really love it, and apparently you can't play on the varsity HS team unless you do travel in the off-seasons (of which there are 2-3, not just one off-season!).

Actually one of the most toxic people we encountered was the rec commissioner!

But the cycle of tournaments and practices that are not conveniently located and everything else is just beyond exhausting. But my kid has struggled with depression so I can't really make them quit something that is giving them joy/direction and keeping them off the internet crazy sites. Sigh.

Omg this could be me. We have great coaches and decent parents, but I just want my like back!

Anonymous wrote:I personally get a kick out of parents strutting around because their kid got recruited to play D1 at some no name place with a 97%age acceptance rate and a 10% graduation rate. 4 yrs of D1 ball followed by a career in bar tending.

Da troof right here

I personally get a kick out of parents strutting around because their kid got recruited to play D1 at some no name place with a 97%age acceptance rate and a 10% graduation rate. 4 yrs of D1 ball followed by a career in bar tending.

Anonymous wrote:Be weary of the team managers. They are always self serving back stabbers.

Serious. We have one that bad mouths the other player that plays his kid’s position to the coach. He has a direct line. Not the first club it’s happened.

Anonymous wrote:It’s worse of you played the sport yourself at a high level. I’m convinced. It’s better if your kids are in a sport you know little about.

Yeah, I’m the PP who said nobody cares (and thinks the alcohol-drinking parent is crazy, even if she now claims she was exaggerating) and maybe it was all not a big deal for me because I knew nothing about my kid’s sport and didn’t therefore care that he was on lower level teams for years. Idk where my kid got his interest in this sport but it’s carried him all the way to college so 🤷‍♂️

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry OP. Thank you to the reminder to keep my kid playing rec level.

Put them in an individual sport with a clock. No disputing times. Team sports are highly subjective.

Or wrestle and pin someone.

Yeah there isn't the same rec vs travel dynamic with winter swim. We love it. It's character building with less drama.

+100
The $ involved in team travel sports is a breeding ground for leeches. Individual is the way to go.

Be weary of the team managers. They are always self serving back stabbers.

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Anonymous wrote:Um.. you could just end it now. Kids don't need travel sports

Tell that to kids that don’t want to give up and give 100%, as a parent I just keep my mouth shut and let them deal. I’m not sure what it will take for them to say enough BS. The junior is getting recruited (no thanks to any of these a-holes) and just want the final confirmation so I can finally tell them all what I think.

Recruited wheee?

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Anonymous wrote:Um.. you could just end it now. Kids don't need travel sports

Tell that to kids that don’t want to give up and give 100%, as a parent I just keep my mouth shut and let them deal. I’m not sure what it will take for them to say enough BS. The junior is getting recruited (no thanks to any of these a-holes) and just want the final confirmation so I can finally tell them all what I think.

Nobody is going to care what you think. I’m sorry, but the idea that anyone should care what some random parent thinks is so precious that it makes me think that your real issue here is that you aren’t getting the attention you think you deserve.

That’s what they love to throw around. It’s just not true. My kid got so effed over over the years and he’s playing D1 now. We went through so much BS and it always is : must be a p@sped off parent. The cream will rise to the top. It sounds like that is starting to happen with your junior and recruiting. The daddy politics begin to not be effective by the end of HS and daddy can’t pave the way anymore. He hits a wall.

If the kid loved the sport, they will persevere and come out of it with a reason and a vengeance which funnels into their play. Grit.

It’s always the douchey parents (usually the brown nosers) that blame the parent.

It worked out for my kid and like you I just let them deal as painful as it was to watch. I drank A LOT of wine the last few years. GL

I’m the one who said nobody cares and my kid is at the same level as yours in college. I just cannot imagine caring this much about travel sports. I would have pulled my kid years ago if I was drinking because of travel sports. Seriously, nothing is worth that. If you are becoming an alcoholic because of your child’s travel sports, you should have stopped years ago.

Christ- it’s an exaggeration. I’m just saying I understand the frustration. My kids are college post-college and as 4.5 gpa students that was always way more important to us than the sport they loved.

Sure it was

It’s worse of you played the sport yourself at a high level. I’m convinced. It’s better if your kids are in a sport you know little about.

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Anonymous wrote:Um.. you could just end it now. Kids don't need travel sports

Tell that to kids that don’t want to give up and give 100%, as a parent I just keep my mouth shut and let them deal. I’m not sure what it will take for them to say enough BS. The junior is getting recruited (no thanks to any of these a-holes) and just want the final confirmation so I can finally tell them all what I think.

Nobody is going to care what you think. I’m sorry, but the idea that anyone should care what some random parent thinks is so precious that it makes me think that your real issue here is that you aren’t getting the attention you think you deserve.

That’s what they love to throw around. It’s just not true. My kid got so effed over over the years and he’s playing D1 now. We went through so much BS and it always is : must be a p@sped off parent. The cream will rise to the top. It sounds like that is starting to happen with your junior and recruiting. The daddy politics begin to not be effective by the end of HS and daddy can’t pave the way anymore. He hits a wall.

If the kid loved the sport, they will persevere and come out of it with a reason and a vengeance which funnels into their play. Grit.

It’s always the douchey parents (usually the brown nosers) that blame the parent.

It worked out for my kid and like you I just let them deal as painful as it was to watch. I drank A LOT of wine the last few years. GL

I’m the one who said nobody cares and my kid is at the same level as yours in college. I just cannot imagine caring this much about travel sports. I would have pulled my kid years ago if I was drinking because of travel sports. Seriously, nothing is worth that. If you are becoming an alcoholic because of your child’s travel sports, you should have stopped years ago.

Christ- it’s an exaggeration. I’m just saying I understand the frustration. My kids are college post-college and as 4.5 gpa students that was always way more important to us than the sport they loved.

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Anonymous wrote:Um.. you could just end it now. Kids don't need travel sports

Tell that to kids that don’t want to give up and give 100%, as a parent I just keep my mouth shut and let them deal. I’m not sure what it will take for them to say enough BS. The junior is getting recruited (no thanks to any of these a-holes) and just want the final confirmation so I can finally tell them all what I think.

Nobody is going to care what you think. I’m sorry, but the idea that anyone should care what some random parent thinks is so precious that it makes me think that your real issue here is that you aren’t getting the attention you think you deserve.

That’s what they love to throw around. It’s just not true. My kid got so effed over over the years and he’s playing D1 now. We went through so much BS and it always is : must be a p@sped off parent. The cream will rise to the top. It sounds like that is starting to happen with your junior and recruiting. The daddy politics begin to not be effective by the end of HS and daddy can’t pave the way anymore. He hits a wall.

If the kid loved the sport, they will persevere and come out of it with a reason and a vengeance which funnels into their play. Grit.

It’s always the douchey parents (usually the brown nosers) that blame the parent.

It worked out for my kid and like you I just let them deal as painful as it was to watch. I drank A LOT of wine the last few years. GL

I’m the one who said nobody cares and my kid is at the same level as yours in college. I just cannot imagine caring this much about travel sports. I would have pulled my kid years ago if I was drinking because of travel sports. Seriously, nothing is worth that. If you are becoming an alcoholic because of your child’s travel sports, you should have stopped years ago.