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Anonymous wrote:I explicitly ask my clients not to share my contact information on Facebook/parenting groups. The one time someone shared my info on Facebook, I had dozens of people contact me and it led to zero actual clients, but wasted at least a dozen hours of my time. So many people who were really flaky or were "outraged" at my market-rate prices. I don't want to deal with that again, I am referral only and those referrals must be vetted.

OP here - thank you for sharing, seriously. I can see I dodged a bullet.

And FYI, if most people can't afford your prices, you're not market-rate. You're an elitist who chooses to work with the wealthiest families. This is unethical, because all kids deserve a chance to do activities or have a tutor. It's a free market, so you choose the prices you set - just be honest and own your choices.

As a parent, I've had several experiences with teachers who only work with the "right" families. I naively thought that elite / expensive = better, but I've learned my lesson and now I steer clear.

DP. Wow, you have quite a sense of entitlement. What job do you do for less than market rate to ensure everyone has equal access to your services?

Ask your child’s teacher or school for tutor recommendations.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure , it’s resource guarding, and happens in parent groups as much as it does is feral dogs and rats. If a good teacher’s contact information gets out to the general public, it gets harder and more expensive to book sessions, not to mention they’re just not such a Special secret any more.

As far as giving info to friends, you could maybe ask if the person would give your info to the teacher if they are uncomfortable giving out the teachers credentials without their permission, but I don’t think that’s the case.

Yep. When I find a good teacher/tutor, babysitter, etc. I don’t share it with random Facebook people. It is hard to find good services and quality instruction, for anything. The more people you share with, the harder it is to schedule appts or get the schedule you want for yourself

no, that is a shameful attitude. People with an ounce of kindness share regularly share resources with each other and with anyone who is looking.

I agree. I think the people who hoard are pathetic. I have a kid with sns and one of the moms I helped the most and directed to good tutors refused to share the name of the executive functioning coach she found. I stopped talking to her and think of her as a jerk. Some people are selfish and are more comfortable with taking.

Wow, OP. Sounds like you're a little bit crazy and that's why the woman you tried to get tutor / teacher info from wouldn't share it.

Any independent tutor has a right to ask the price she'd like for her services. I'll bet they're far less than the hourly rate you or your spouse receive for your labor.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I explicitly ask my clients not to share my contact information on Facebook/parenting groups. The one time someone shared my info on Facebook, I had dozens of people contact me and it led to zero actual clients, but wasted at least a dozen hours of my time. So many people who were really flaky or were "outraged" at my market-rate prices. I don't want to deal with that again, I am referral only and those referrals must be vetted.

OP here - thank you for sharing, seriously. I can see I dodged a bullet.

And FYI, if most people can't afford your prices, you're not market-rate. You're an elitist who chooses to work with the wealthiest families. This is unethical, because all kids deserve a chance to do activities or have a tutor. It's a free market, so you choose the prices you set - just be honest and own your choices.

As a parent, I've had several experiences with teachers who only work with the "right" families. I naively thought that elite / expensive = better, but I've learned my lesson and now I steer clear.

I don't think you understand - PP doesn't want people with ridiculous expectations wasting her time. There's nothing wrong with that. I don't share our tutors' information with strangers either. I did share my child's tutor information with a couple close friends, one of whom started using her. I 100% understand why the woman on Facebook wouldn't share with you - she doesn't know you, you could be crazy!!

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Anonymous wrote:I explicitly ask my clients not to share my contact information on Facebook/parenting groups. The one time someone shared my info on Facebook, I had dozens of people contact me and it led to zero actual clients, but wasted at least a dozen hours of my time. So many people who were really flaky or were "outraged" at my market-rate prices. I don't want to deal with that again, I am referral only and those referrals must be vetted.

OP here - thank you for sharing, seriously. I can see I dodged a bullet.

And FYI, if most people can't afford your prices, you're not market-rate. You're an elitist who chooses to work with the wealthiest families. This is unethical, because all kids deserve a chance to do activities or have a tutor. It's a free market, so you choose the prices you set - just be honest and own your choices.

As a parent, I've had several experiences with teachers who only work with the "right" families. I naively thought that elite / expensive = better, but I've learned my lesson and now I steer clear.

NP but if people are willing to pay her prices, then she is, in fact, market rate. I have had friends express shock that I pay $15/hour for a teenaged babysitter, but that's because they haven't ever tried to hire a baby-sitter before and they're expecting to pay $5/hour like they were paid when they were teens. Same with someone who moved here from the midwest and expects to pay $30 for a 30 minute lesson, when the going rate here is $50-75 for a 30 a minute lesson. Market-rate is what the market tolerates. Just because random people on the internet are outraged at those prices, doesn't mean she's ripping someone off or that she's an elitist. I don't begrudge anyone who doesn't want their time wasted, especially if it sounds like they are not lacking for students.

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Anonymous wrote:Sure , it’s resource guarding, and happens in parent groups as much as it does is feral dogs and rats. If a good teacher’s contact information gets out to the general public, it gets harder and more expensive to book sessions, not to mention they’re just not such a Special secret any more.

As far as giving info to friends, you could maybe ask if the person would give your info to the teacher if they are uncomfortable giving out the teachers credentials without their permission, but I don’t think that’s the case.

Yep. When I find a good teacher/tutor, babysitter, etc. I don’t share it with random Facebook people. It is hard to find good services and quality instruction, for anything. The more people you share with, the harder it is to schedule appts or get the schedule you want for yourself

no, that is a shameful attitude. People with an ounce of kindness share regularly share resources with each other and with anyone who is looking.

…even when that’s explicitly not what the tutor/trainer/coach has asked for?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I explicitly ask my clients not to share my contact information on Facebook/parenting groups. The one time someone shared my info on Facebook, I had dozens of people contact me and it led to zero actual clients, but wasted at least a dozen hours of my time. So many people who were really flaky or were "outraged" at my market-rate prices. I don't want to deal with that again, I am referral only and those referrals must be vetted.

OP here - thank you for sharing, seriously. I can see I dodged a bullet.

And FYI, if most people can't afford your prices, you're not market-rate. You're an elitist who chooses to work with the wealthiest families. This is unethical, because all kids deserve a chance to do activities or have a tutor. It's a free market, so you choose the prices you set - just be honest and own your choices.

As a parent, I've had several experiences with teachers who only work with the "right" families. I naively thought that elite / expensive = better, but I've learned my lesson and now I steer clear.

This is so entitled I can’t believe you’re serious. Your child has plenty of opportunity to do activities for an affordable price in this area, that’s what Rec activities are for. Your child does not “deserve” whatever tutor you want at whatever price you want to pay— unless you think the tutors children are supposed to go without so your child can have more?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure , it’s resource guarding, and happens in parent groups as much as it does is feral dogs and rats. If a good teacher’s contact information gets out to the general public, it gets harder and more expensive to book sessions, not to mention they’re just not such a Special secret any more.

As far as giving info to friends, you could maybe ask if the person would give your info to the teacher if they are uncomfortable giving out the teachers credentials without their permission, but I don’t think that’s the case.

Yep. When I find a good teacher/tutor, babysitter, etc. I don’t share it with random Facebook people. It is hard to find good services and quality instruction, for anything. The more people you share with, the harder it is to schedule appts or get the schedule you want for yourself

no, that is a shameful attitude. People with an ounce of kindness share regularly share resources with each other and with anyone who is looking.

No, it really isn't. After multiple instances of sharing a resource only to have the person I shared it with treat me as if I were their employee when they had issues with that service, nope! I have several ounces of kindness, I assure you.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure , it’s resource guarding, and happens in parent groups as much as it does is feral dogs and rats. If a good teacher’s contact information gets out to the general public, it gets harder and more expensive to book sessions, not to mention they’re just not such a Special secret any more.

As far as giving info to friends, you could maybe ask if the person would give your info to the teacher if they are uncomfortable giving out the teachers credentials without their permission, but I don’t think that’s the case.

Yep. When I find a good teacher/tutor, babysitter, etc. I don’t share it with random Facebook people. It is hard to find good services and quality instruction, for anything. The more people you share with, the harder it is to schedule appts or get the schedule you want for yourself

no, that is a shameful attitude. People with an ounce of kindness share regularly share resources with each other and with anyone who is looking.

I am kind and I will happily share my recommendation with friends and members of the community that I know personally. I will not share them with people I don't know - a few people that are actually service providers have posted why. I don't want someone terrible to say "well Sarah recommended you" and then my baby-sitter is like "Sarah recommended an insane lady and now I don't trust her judgment and don't want to work for her anymore."

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure , it’s resource guarding, and happens in parent groups as much as it does is feral dogs and rats. If a good teacher’s contact information gets out to the general public, it gets harder and more expensive to book sessions, not to mention they’re just not such a Special secret any more.

As far as giving info to friends, you could maybe ask if the person would give your info to the teacher if they are uncomfortable giving out the teachers credentials without their permission, but I don’t think that’s the case.

Yep. When I find a good teacher/tutor, babysitter, etc. I don’t share it with random Facebook people. It is hard to find good services and quality instruction, for anything. The more people you share with, the harder it is to schedule appts or get the schedule you want for yourself

no, that is a shameful attitude. People with an ounce of kindness share regularly share resources with each other and with anyone who is looking.

Sorry. They just aren’t enough excellent teachers and babysitters for everyone. Not sharing

I'm really confused with all of these babysitter comments. I found two amazing ones as soon as I moved here, no Facebook recommendations needed.

Anonymous wrote:I explicitly ask my clients not to share my contact information on Facebook/parenting groups. The one time someone shared my info on Facebook, I had dozens of people contact me and it led to zero actual clients, but wasted at least a dozen hours of my time. So many people who were really flaky or were "outraged" at my market-rate prices. I don't want to deal with that again, I am referral only and those referrals must be vetted.

OP here - thank you for sharing, seriously. I can see I dodged a bullet.

And FYI, if most people can't afford your prices, you're not market-rate. You're an elitist who chooses to work with the wealthiest families. This is unethical, because all kids deserve a chance to do activities or have a tutor. It's a free market, so you choose the prices you set - just be honest and own your choices.

As a parent, I've had several experiences with teachers who only work with the "right" families. I naively thought that elite / expensive = better, but I've learned my lesson and now I steer clear.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure , it’s resource guarding, and happens in parent groups as much as it does is feral dogs and rats. If a good teacher’s contact information gets out to the general public, it gets harder and more expensive to book sessions, not to mention they’re just not such a Special secret any more.

As far as giving info to friends, you could maybe ask if the person would give your info to the teacher if they are uncomfortable giving out the teachers credentials without their permission, but I don’t think that’s the case.

Yep. When I find a good teacher/tutor, babysitter, etc. I don’t share it with random Facebook people. It is hard to find good services and quality instruction, for anything. The more people you share with, the harder it is to schedule appts or get the schedule you want for yourself

no, that is a shameful attitude. People with an ounce of kindness share regularly share resources with each other and with anyone who is looking.

Sorry. They just aren’t enough excellent teachers and babysitters for everyone. Not sharing

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure , it’s resource guarding, and happens in parent groups as much as it does is feral dogs and rats. If a good teacher’s contact information gets out to the general public, it gets harder and more expensive to book sessions, not to mention they’re just not such a Special secret any more.

As far as giving info to friends, you could maybe ask if the person would give your info to the teacher if they are uncomfortable giving out the teachers credentials without their permission, but I don’t think that’s the case.

Yep. When I find a good teacher/tutor, babysitter, etc. I don’t share it with random Facebook people. It is hard to find good services and quality instruction, for anything. The more people you share with, the harder it is to schedule appts or get the schedule you want for yourself

no, that is a shameful attitude. People with an ounce of kindness share regularly share resources with each other and with anyone who is looking.

Anonymous wrote:Sure , it’s resource guarding, and happens in parent groups as much as it does is feral dogs and rats. If a good teacher’s contact information gets out to the general public, it gets harder and more expensive to book sessions, not to mention they’re just not such a Special secret any more.

As far as giving info to friends, you could maybe ask if the person would give your info to the teacher if they are uncomfortable giving out the teachers credentials without their permission, but I don’t think that’s the case.

Yep. When I find a good teacher/tutor, babysitter, etc. I don’t share it with random Facebook people. It is hard to find good services and quality instruction, for anything. The more people you share with, the harder it is to schedule appts or get the schedule you want for yourself