Anonymous wrote:I don't think so. My mom married someone 12 years older (second marriage) and now she's 70 and he's 82. She wants to stay active and he likes sitting around the house. He also retired way before she did.

Retirement can work out well though. I planned to work to 70, she planned to work to 55, so we'd be retiring together.

5 yes, but 10 years? No, unless you are older. There is a huge difference between a 20 year old woman and a 30 year old man, but not so much between a 50 year old woman and a 60 year old man.

I wanted to settle down and have kids young (for DC, ie not at 40) and all the men my age wouldn't have been ready for that for another 10 years. I met DH when I was 26 and he was 32 and his light was on. It worked out great for us.

I don't think so. My mom married someone 12 years older (second marriage) and now she's 70 and he's 82. She wants to stay active and he likes sitting around the house. He also retired way before she did.

Anonymous wrote:Divorce rates are lowest for couples who are the same age. It goes up for every year of age difference.

Yep this is pretty solidly confirmed by data

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Anonymous wrote:As a man in his 50s, I'd say my sex drive better matches someone who is 10-15 years younger.

For the life of me I can’t understand why old men think the string of women they’re casually banging without commitment is relevant to sex inside marriage. It’s like they have something to prove!

I have had long-term relationships in my 50s with frequent, excellent sex. I hoped one of those was going to turn into a marriage. Some women, even in their second marriage, enjoy sex with their husband.

Anonymous wrote:As a man in his 50s, I'd say my sex drive better matches someone who is 10-15 years younger.

Sure, whatever you say.

Better universally? No. Can it work? Yes

Anonymous wrote:They’ll be dead before you and you can move in with your besties golden girls style.

Unless they aren’t, then you spend your golden girl years as an adult day care. Getting old can be very difficult on the healthy spouse.

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Anonymous wrote:As a man in his 50s, I'd say my sex drive better matches someone who is 10-15 years younger.

For the life of me I can’t understand why old men think the string of women they’re casually banging without commitment is relevant to sex inside marriage. It’s like they have something to prove!

Maybe b/c you usually date someone before marrying?

A man who makes it to 50 without knowing that sex drive before marriage is no indication of how frequently sex is had within marriage certainly is oblivious. But most 50 year olds do know that, they just reeeeally need us to know they still “got it” when it comes to younger women.

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Anonymous wrote:As a man in his 50s, I'd say my sex drive better matches someone who is 10-15 years younger.

Even though younger, attractive female finds aging, balding, low tested middle age man disgusting and unattractive?

My T is still normal, as is my hair. I have dated women 30 years younger than me, and I was attractive enough that they O'ed a bunch.

LOL! No. Not really, troll.

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Anonymous wrote:As a man in his 50s, I'd say my sex drive better matches someone who is 10-15 years younger.

For the life of me I can’t understand why old men think the string of women they’re casually banging without commitment is relevant to sex inside marriage. It’s like they have something to prove!

Maybe b/c you usually date someone before marrying?

Anonymous wrote:As a man in his 50s, I'd say my sex drive better matches someone who is 10-15 years younger.

For the life of me I can’t understand why old men think the string of women they’re casually banging without commitment is relevant to sex inside marriage. It’s like they have something to prove!

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Anonymous wrote:As a man in his 50s, I'd say my sex drive better matches someone who is 10-15 years younger.

Even though younger, attractive female finds aging, balding, low tested middle age man disgusting and unattractive?

My T is still normal, as is my hair. I have dated women 30 years younger than me, and I was attractive enough that they O'ed a bunch.

If you are a woman who is looking to settle down, yes.

I have so many women friends who hit 30 and their long term boyfriend breaks up. They were expecting to get married and have kids soon, but then suddenly find themselves single and living with a roommate.