Anonymous wrote:My DD always has shampoo residue in her hair. I don’t know how she lathers in the shampoo - that may be part of the problem, but any suggestions on more effective techniques for rinsing.

Teach her to put a dry washcloth over her eyes and stick her head completely underwater. Tell her to hold cloth with one hand and run her other hand through her hair while she rinses. Teach her to move her head around so she gets left and right side. Left 20s middle 20s right 20s while moving the hair around should work. Count it out for her until she gets used to it. Can teach her to peek under the washcloth and see if all the soap is gone by her feet.

Teach her to put the shampoo on her hands and rub them together before she puts it on her head (only works with a thick shampoo). Can also put it in a Dixie cup and she scoops it out into her head in different places. Teach her to just focus on the top of her head and underneath hair near the scalp. You can also water down the shampoo and make a spray bottle that she (or you) sprays on in the shower. Or you can put the shampoo on her dry hair and rub it in before she gets in the shower. Or get a water bottle and dampen the hair then rub in shampoo and put her in the shower. Sometimes turning the water off helps too, wet hair and body, turn off water, soap and shampoo, water on and rinse. Try baby shampoo too if she doesn’t like it in her eyes. You can skip conditioner if she has oily hair, use detangler o leave in conditioner instead. A shower wand might help too. Sorry no dry shampoo recs but I’ve showered a lot of SN kids so one of these ideas might help.

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Would a shampoo bar work? She'd lather in her hands then rub through hair. It would eliminate the one spot blob of shampoo.

Blow drying at the roots does help with oily hair but, if like mine, still only barely decent the second day.

My dd does a little better shampooing if she is sotting down in the tub using the handheld shower wand. Do you have a shower with a detachable spray wand?

My DD always has shampoo residue in her hair. I don’t know how she lathers in the shampoo - that may be part of the problem, but any suggestions on more effective techniques for rinsing.

Anonymous wrote:I prefer the powder kind over the spray. It’s more effective and doesn’t choke you with the smell. Acure makes a good one and you can buy it on Amazon.

Lush's powder one is really good!

This isn't dry shampoo but if you want to try to help get between washes longer, can't recommend this enough -- https://www.amazon.com/Paris-Extraordinary-Rebalancing-Shampoo-Packaging/dp/B01LY961X1/ref=asc_df_B01LY961X1/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312049381675&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=18226564566655446271&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9061285&hvtargid=pla-649026258917&psc=1

Makes a HUGE difference.

Anonymous wrote:It would be best to find someone to teach her proper hair washing techniques rather than compensating for hair now and allowing her to think greasy hair is appropriate.

Well these things don’t happen overnight so I think OP is doing the right thing to keep her DD from being teased for her hair.

On shampooing, might not work depending on how bad the sensory issues are but have you tried something like this:https://www.amazon.com/Massager-Updated-Shampoo-Massage-Silicon/dp/B07CWQ5CZ4

My kid has mild sensory issues but will use it to help spread shampoo over her scalp. I think it helps get hair cleaner; I have started using one myself! Also my DD loves “fancy “ things and is very motivated by fancy shampoo, soap etc. I let her use my nice stuff pretty regularly!

Also can emphasize showers can be very fast. Just shampoo and soap and out in 3 minutes. Leave in conditioner has come a long way since I was little!

It would be best to find someone to teach her proper hair washing techniques rather than compensating for hair now and allowing her to think greasy hair is appropriate.

Batiste (I love the smell). I like batiste blond and one of my kids uses batiste brunette but there’s a non-colored one, too. The plain ones work on my blind hair but tend to look gray on my child’s brown hair, so you may want a colored one if your child is not blond. Pssst is also very good and available at cvs.

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Anonymous wrote:Would it help if you washed it for her in a sink vs the shower? Amazon has a bunch of options for “portable salon” set ups.

Thanks! I was reluctant to say this on DCUM because I was afraid to get blasted, but I give her a bath once a week. I know she's old for it, and it's one of the (many) things I feel I'm probably doing wrong, but she likes it and we have our best conversations at bath time, so her hair gets really clean once a week.

Good for you for doing what works! You sound like a really wonderful mom.

Oh thank you. She’s still 14 so she’s pretty nasty to me most of the time but I do love it when she says “will you give me a bath mama?” It just feels a little weird because she’s a fully developed 14 year old - went through puberty at 10 so basically has an adult woman’s body. She’s very smart so we have pretty sophisticated intellectual conversations but her behavior is more like a 8-9 year old most of the time.

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Anonymous wrote:Would it help if you washed it for her in a sink vs the shower? Amazon has a bunch of options for “portable salon” set ups.

Thanks! I was reluctant to say this on DCUM because I was afraid to get blasted, but I give her a bath once a week. I know she's old for it, and it's one of the (many) things I feel I'm probably doing wrong, but she likes it and we have our best conversations at bath time, so her hair gets really clean once a week.

Good for you for doing what works! You sound like a really wonderful mom.

I have very oily hair and don’t find the powder ones helpful at all. If anything the next day is worse. I only use sprays but have not found one that smells decent yet. I googled before writing this and saw Oribe makes one and they are my go to brand so I’m going to try that next.

I have a friend who swears by turning her head upside down and blasting the roots with a hair dryer. It doesn’t do much for me because my hair is heavy but you could try if she wouldn’t mind the noise. I also love my revlon hair tool and that’s a bit quieter than the regular dryer.

I would increase the bath to twice a week at least. I feel for both of you but dry shampoo just isn’t going to cut it. Her hair needs a good washing more than once a week at this age.

That said I like the Klorane non-aerosol. Or just a bit of corn starch.