Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update, I called Costco and they said I couldn't order a cake over the phone, I need to come in and order in person, then it will be ready in 24 hours. Looks like that is what I will be doing on my lunch break.
I live in Bowie and go to Giant, pick out a cake on display and they will write the happy birthday message I request and I walk out minutes later. Same with Wegmam’s in Crofton.
Anonymous wrote:Thank you all, I just wanted to update that Costco came through with the cake, although it was a madhouse going to Costco on a Saturday, OMG. I'm recovering now, there were like 20 kids here and about 15 parents/neighbors/friends It was kind of a stimulation overload after no parties for so long during covid. It was good though and I couldn't believe the entire Costco cake was eaten. Everyone loved it! When I picked it up it was so much bigger than I expected and I thought it was way too much cake, but no leftovers thankfully. Son had a good time after a few episodes of locking himself in his room to just have some quiet tiine and decompress from all the noise and kids running around. LoL, I'm sleeping in late tomorrow morning before continuing clean up. Just wanted to update that the whole filling out an order form on paper and dropping it at the box at Costco worked out perfectly. 🙂
Anonymous wrote:I feel like I got a bit more than I bargained for clicking this link. OP, I hope your son has a happy birthday. I’m sorry that you are ill. What you say about your husband may be true, but it’s a good thing he will be there for your son. I’m sure he is also affected by your illness. So sorry you are going through all this, truly. Soak up the sweet moments with your kids and they will remember you fondly.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Thank you all, ugh, my husband hasn't worked in years and was supposed to take care of this but looks like I will be taking off work early today to get things ready. I generally work long hours and was depending on him for this. I don't generally depend on him or ask him for anything, but this is our son and he said he was handling everything. Sigh. I asked at the local grocery store I went to last night but it's a small store and they said they don't do cakes themselves. I'm going to call Costco now.
And yet you’ve stayed with him. Sigh.
Sigh again, yes, unfortunately I have because his self-employed business crashed during Covid lockdown and shortly after that I got a terminal medical diagnosis. He is waiting for my life insurance money and my 401K. I know this deep in my heart and can hardly stand him. However, do I want to subject my children to going through a trauma like divorce while knowing I may pass away before it's even concluded or shortly after? I have agonized over this decision and the answer is no. I also can't afford divorce as we are barely making it on my under $90K salary and I need to stay employed for medical insurance not just for me but for my kids too...and him I guess, and to keep paying the mortgage. I can't pay him child support nor alimony on my salary as it would bankrupt us, and I would never be able to afford childcare for my kids while I'm working in the office. At least he provides that. I do realize I will be pretty much working until I die to keep the family afloat and I'm okay with it now. I just want to minimalize the hurt to my kids and give my youngest a good birthday tomorrow. I'm not going to put them through a high conflict divorce (because, believe me it would be).
I did order the cake at Costco but I'm stressed that it won't be ready in time. I just filled out a paper and dropped it in the order box. I would have felt better about it if I could have actually spoken to someone there about it. I will go to Giant if it doesn't work out. I'm not very close to Wegmans unfortunately.
Anonymous wrote:The cake will be ready. Don't worry. If not grocery stores always have cupcakes and other cakes ready. It doesn't have to be a sheet cake.
Thanks all!Anonymous wrote:How will he support the kids when you’re gone?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update, I called Costco and they said I couldn't order a cake over the phone, I need to come in and order in person, then it will be ready in 24 hours. Looks like that is what I will be doing on my lunch break.
I live in Bowie and go to Giant, pick out a cake on display and they will write the happy birthday message I request and I walk out minutes later. Same with Wegmam’s in Crofton.