Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:YouTube is their teacher nowadays. Show him some videos about black fashion, then about cultural appropriation. Some neutral, thoughtful ones.
Tell him some people are crazy and may accuse him of the latter.
Try to find out the appeal. Is it the aesthetic or is it that he perceives people wearing it as cool? Then play it by ear.
Full disclosure: I would be a little upset if my kid wanted to wear black fashion just because it’s not quite my cup of tea, but if he still wanted to wear it after the above I would let him.
Disclaimer: I am not racist, I just want to steer clear of any possible accusations plus it’s a matter of personal taste.

Yes, saying you don’t like the fashion of an entire race of people as if it’s a monolith is racist. All black people don’t wear the same thing.

I think you should educate yourself on what black fashion actually is… then MAYBE you will understand that yes, not all black people wear it… jeez

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:YouTube is their teacher nowadays. Show him some videos about black fashion, then about cultural appropriation. Some neutral, thoughtful ones.
Tell him some people are crazy and may accuse him of the latter.
Try to find out the appeal. Is it the aesthetic or is it that he perceives people wearing it as cool? Then play it by ear.
Full disclosure: I would be a little upset if my kid wanted to wear black fashion just because it’s not quite my cup of tea, but if he still wanted to wear it after the above I would let him.
Disclaimer: I am not racist, I just want to steer clear of any possible accusations plus it’s a matter of personal taste.

Yes, saying you don’t like the fashion of an entire race of people as if it’s a monolith is racist. All black people don’t wear the same thing.

Anonymous wrote:YouTube is their teacher nowadays. Show him some videos about black fashion, then about cultural appropriation. Some neutral, thoughtful ones.
Tell him some people are crazy and may accuse him of the latter.
Try to find out the appeal. Is it the aesthetic or is it that he perceives people wearing it as cool? Then play it by ear.
Full disclosure: I would be a little upset if my kid wanted to wear black fashion just because it’s not quite my cup of tea, but if he still wanted to wear it after the above I would let him.
Disclaimer: I am not racist, I just want to steer clear of any possible accusations plus it’s a matter of personal taste.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The original poster goes into a clothing store with her son, where everyone is black, and she observes it is mostly or solely black kids wearing these clothes. She wants to make sure that he doesn't offend when wearing said clothes. Asks for advice.

Then she's attacked. OMG what are black clothes? As if there aren't brands that certain races favor. GTFO.

We're doomed as a society.

No - we aren't doomed. OP assumes we all live in areas where the black kids are wearing "black teen fashion". We don't. If you are in DC or certain parts of MoCo or in PG, you might see it. But I'm Black and the Black kids at my kid's school (Robert Frost Middle School in Rockville) are all wearing the same stuff that the white and Asian kids are wearing. When someone mentioned DTLR, I remembered seeing this store in Wheaton Mall and recalled some of the styles in the store. However, noone is wearing that where I live and I honestly have no idea what Black kids are wearing at other schools. So, yes, it sounds odd. Don't get defensive.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re concerned that this is going to come off as cultural appropriation, I would hire a stylist.

Hahahahahaha!

Anonymous wrote:YouTube is their teacher nowadays. Show him some videos about black fashion, then about cultural appropriation. Some neutral, thoughtful ones.
Tell him some people are crazy and may accuse him of the latter.
Try to find out the appeal. Is it the aesthetic or is it that he perceives people wearing it as cool? Then play it by ear.
Full disclosure: I would be a little upset if my kid wanted to wear black fashion just because it’s not quite my cup of tea, but if he still wanted to wear it after the above I would let him.
Disclaimer: I am not racist, I just want to steer clear of any possible accusations plus it’s a matter of personal taste.

Anonymous wrote:If you’re concerned that this is going to come off as cultural appropriation, I would hire a stylist.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The original poster goes into a clothing store with her son, where everyone is black, and she observes it is mostly or solely black kids wearing these clothes. She wants to make sure that he doesn't offend when wearing said clothes. Asks for advice.

Then she's attacked. OMG what are black clothes? As if there aren't brands that certain races favor. GTFO.

We're doomed as a society.

I see no attacks.

What do you think SMH and troll mean, exactly?
Are these compliments? More importantly, are they helpful? Or is it not about being helpful? Is it about feeling cool because you put another person down?
Y'all are actually wondering what black fashions could possibly be?

Anonymous wrote:The original poster goes into a clothing store with her son, where everyone is black, and she observes it is mostly or solely black kids wearing these clothes. She wants to make sure that he doesn't offend when wearing said clothes. Asks for advice.

Then she's attacked. OMG what are black clothes? As if there aren't brands that certain races favor. GTFO.

We're doomed as a society.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The original poster goes into a clothing store with her son, where everyone is black, and she observes it is mostly or solely black kids wearing these clothes. She wants to make sure that he doesn't offend when wearing said clothes. Asks for advice.

Then she's attacked. OMG what are black clothes? As if there aren't brands that certain races favor. GTFO.

We're doomed as a society.

No, OP, it was just a ridiculous question.

Anonymous wrote:If he likes it, that’s fine and I am ok with buying but I think he should be aware should someone say something to him and he isn’t prepped. So we go in to the store, my kid is clueless that he and me are the only white people in store so that didn’t work. He’s too small for the clothes anyway but how do I have this conversation?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The original poster goes into a clothing store with her son, where everyone is black, and she observes it is mostly or solely black kids wearing these clothes. She wants to make sure that he doesn't offend when wearing said clothes. Asks for advice.

Then she's attacked. OMG what are black clothes? As if there aren't brands that certain races favor. GTFO.

We're doomed as a society.

I see no attacks.