Anonymous
Post 09/01/2022 13:33     Subject: DS refusing to consider anything other than the south, southeast, TX and CA
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m very pro choice and the Supreme Court opinion is appalling. I would never expect (or want, although it’s their decision) my kids to factor that decision into college choice. I’m hoping they practice safer sex and if not, I’ll be happy to get anyone where they need to go for health care if it becomes necessary.


I expect my daughter to factor it in. It's not just about BC -- there are medical emergencies that don't give you enough time to get to another state. BC fails sometimes, and ectopic pregnancies can go south very quickly.


You make valid points and I completely understand why families are making this a factor in college decisions. But I hope people are putting the risks in perspective. For example, there is a MUCH greater risk of a female college student getting killed in a car accident than getting pregnant while practicing safe sex/using birth control and then developing an ectopic pregnancy, or some similar condition, that requires immediate emergency treatment. And even if a state were to outlaw Plan B, have your kid take a supply with them -- no one's going to search their dorm room.


This would be relevant if states were legislating car accidents.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2022 13:28     Subject: DS refusing to consider anything other than the south, southeast, TX and CA
Anonymous wrote:I’m very pro choice and the Supreme Court opinion is appalling. I would never expect (or want, although it’s their decision) my kids to factor that decision into college choice. I’m hoping they practice safer sex and if not, I’ll be happy to get anyone where they need to go for health care if it becomes necessary.


That’s assuming you know about it. My daughter would tell me. But would my son tell me? It’s different bc I don’t know if the young woman would want me to know, and that should be respected. It’s just easier if college students can easily get the health care they need where they are.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2022 13:26     Subject: DS refusing to consider anything other than the south, southeast, TX and CA
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I get it- we are in New England and winter sucks big time. But makes me sad to think he will be far away and a long drive or flight. But he is adamant that he doesn't want to be anywhere where there is cold and snow during a typical winter. He also wants a completely different experience from his white, UMC high school which he will def get at the schools he is considering.


He'll get a different experience alright, but there are a number of schools in those states with a predominantly white UMC student body.


What!!! Stopppp
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2022 13:25     Subject: DS refusing to consider anything other than the south, southeast, TX and CA
Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the question. Is there a point to this post?


Yes, the point is you are a better person and the sole arbiter of what is worth posting about and seeking feedback on. Congrats!
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2022 13:21     Subject: Re:DS refusing to consider anything other than the south, southeast, TX and CA
Cheapest way to live on the coast of California is in the dorms at UC-Santa Barbara. If I could do it all over again....

Love the Southeast.

Grad school / Professional school is more important.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2022 13:13     Subject: Re:DS refusing to consider anything other than the south, southeast, TX and CA
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Doesn't take long for the "abortion is birth control" crowd to chime in.


+1. Their obvious jealousy is astounding.


Jealous of what?
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2022 13:11     Subject: DS refusing to consider anything other than the south, southeast, TX and CA
Anonymous wrote:I’m very pro choice and the Supreme Court opinion is appalling. I would never expect (or want, although it’s their decision) my kids to factor that decision into college choice. I’m hoping they practice safer sex and if not, I’ll be happy to get anyone where they need to go for health care if it becomes necessary.


To me it's also about giving money to those states.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2022 13:10     Subject: DS refusing to consider anything other than the south, southeast, TX and CA
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Point out to him which states don't allow abortion. Is that a state he wants to support? Something both my sons have talked about a lot in the last couple of months.


Maybe more to the point, make sure he understands that if he impregnantes his girlfriend in one of those states, he's going to be a father with everything that entails in terms of his life plans.


I agree those states are terrible, but don't you think a typical college student (and her family) will find the resources to end the pregnancy if that is desired?


Not all college students have a relationship with their family that is supportive, either emotionally or financially, and not all college students have the finances to travel.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2022 13:09     Subject: Re:DS refusing to consider anything other than the south, southeast, TX and CA
I get it, I’m also in New England and see a lot of kids leave and just go as far as they possibly can to the most different climate available. We have loads of kids who head for Florida, Arizona, Colorado, Montana etc. And some of those kids are perfectly happy with where they land. But it does seem to me a lot of them end up coming back after a bit to be closer to home. If you can support his choice financially I would certainly let him take the lead on this one but realize he may not be gone for as long as he originally plans to be.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2022 13:07     Subject: DS refusing to consider anything other than the south, southeast, TX and CA
Anonymous wrote:I get it- we are in New England and winter sucks big time. But makes me sad to think he will be far away and a long drive or flight. But he is adamant that he doesn't want to be anywhere where there is cold and snow during a typical winter. He also wants a completely different experience from his white, UMC high school which he will def get at the schools he is considering.


He'll get a different experience alright, but there are a number of schools in those states with a predominantly white UMC student body.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2022 13:03     Subject: DS refusing to consider anything other than the south, southeast, TX and CA
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m very pro choice and the Supreme Court opinion is appalling. I would never expect (or want, although it’s their decision) my kids to factor that decision into college choice. I’m hoping they practice safer sex and if not, I’ll be happy to get anyone where they need to go for health care if it becomes necessary.


I expect my daughter to factor it in. It's not just about BC -- there are medical emergencies that don't give you enough time to get to another state. BC fails sometimes, and ectopic pregnancies can go south very quickly.


You make valid points and I completely understand why families are making this a factor in college decisions. But I hope people are putting the risks in perspective. For example, there is a MUCH greater risk of a female college student getting killed in a car accident than getting pregnant while practicing safe sex/using birth control and then developing an ectopic pregnancy, or some similar condition, that requires immediate emergency treatment. And even if a state were to outlaw Plan B, have your kid take a supply with them -- no one's going to search their dorm room.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2022 12:26     Subject: DS refusing to consider anything other than the south, southeast, TX and CA
Anonymous wrote:I’m very pro choice and the Supreme Court opinion is appalling. I would never expect (or want, although it’s their decision) my kids to factor that decision into college choice. I’m hoping they practice safer sex and if not, I’ll be happy to get anyone where they need to go for health care if it becomes necessary.


I expect my daughter to factor it in. It's not just about BC -- there are medical emergencies that don't give you enough time to get to another state. BC fails sometimes, and ectopic pregnancies can go south very quickly.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2022 12:24     Subject: DS refusing to consider anything other than the south, southeast, TX and CA
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Point out to him which states don't allow abortion. Is that a state he wants to support? Something both my sons have talked about a lot in the last couple of months.


Maybe more to the point, make sure he understands that if he impregnantes his girlfriend in one of those states, he's going to be a father with everything that entails in terms of his life plans.


I agree those states are terrible, but don't you think a typical college student (and her family) will find the resources to end the pregnancy if that is desired?


Maybe. Maybe they live in that state, too, and the hurdles to travelling to a state where it's legal can be pretty high in terms of money and time. A student might come from a family with fewer resources --be on scholarship, or have tuition be stretching their budget to the max.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2022 12:21     Subject: Re:DS refusing to consider anything other than the south, southeast, TX and CA
I am absolutely making abortion access a factor on where my DD goes to college.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2022 12:16     Subject: Re:DS refusing to consider anything other than the south, southeast, TX and CA
I’m glad that my kid’s school in North Carolina has shuttle busses to DC over breaks