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Anonymous wrote:now that I'm 50+ I'm SO THANKFUL that i don't have a young child.
I felt like I was 20 years old until I was about 47. Then age really caught up with me. Many of my friends feel the same way--late 40s is hard on women. Aging accelerates.

This - I’m 45 and am really starting to feel my age. I’m so glad to no longer be parenting little kids because I couldn’t do it at this age. I’m sure everyone is different but I’m shocked how exhausted I am.

I'm 43 with a 4 year old and it's not that tiring IME. I don't think extreme exhaustion is normal aging for mid 40s.

I was 42 when I had my only child. No IVF, uneventful pregnancy, easy c-section birth. Healthy child. I’m in my 50’s now and don’t feel any differently than my friends in their 40’s.

My younger siblings were born when my mom was 43 & 47 (my dad is a few years older), and the rest of us were teenagers. Nothing is perfect, but no major issues, & everyone is glad we have them.

Anonymous wrote:now that I'm 50+ I'm SO THANKFUL that i don't have a young child.
I felt like I was 20 years old until I was about 47. Then age really caught up with me. Many of my friends feel the same way--late 40s is hard on women. Aging accelerates.

This - I’m 45 and am really starting to feel my age. I’m so glad to no longer be parenting little kids because I couldn’t do it at this age. I’m sure everyone is different but I’m shocked how exhausted I am.

Anonymous wrote:My neighbor had a child at 46 - her first. So, she's 54 with a 2nd grader and will be 64 when that child is a senior in high school. While they are happy, those numbers would make me think hard about the long-term implications of your deicsion to have a baby at 43.

This. My dad was dead at 67

Anonymous wrote:FWIW, my practice says no kids after 40

Wait...what? Your OBGYN practice says that? In this area???

Way too old dam

FWIW, my practice says no kids after 40

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Anonymous wrote:^ Or rather 61!

You might have thought differently if you could only have one at age 43

Fair but OP has two already

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Anonymous wrote:I just can't help but look around the dinner table thinking ... we're not all here yet.

If that makes ANY sense at all.

I get this OP. Though in full transparency I'm 31 and debating number 3. Part of me is like ok my current two will both be in college by the time DH and I are 46. I have older parents and it bummed me out a lot.

I had my first at 31. Personally I think kids make you feel younger and a few young moms seemed older when their kids were older.

Anonymous wrote:^ Or rather 61!

You might have thought differently if you could only have one at age 43

I wonder if it’s less your age in your 40s than the age of your kids.

I started in my twenties so my oldest is going to be a sophomore. I cannot imagine at 44, having a toddler. I don’t think it’s that I’m less active or energetic than other people in their early/mid forties, but my stage in parenting. I am just exhausted! I need my sleep more than ever, probably because it was deprived for so long with three kids.

^ I hope you’re the same person who keeps posting this theme over and over. As a 42-year old, I just don’t want it to be true!

now that I'm 50+ I'm SO THANKFUL that i don't have a young child.
I felt like I was 20 years old until I was about 47. Then age really caught up with me. Many of my friends feel the same way--late 40s is hard on women. Aging accelerates.

Anonymous wrote:I just can't help but look around the dinner table thinking ... we're not all here yet.

If that makes ANY sense at all.

I get this OP. Though in full transparency I'm 31 and debating number 3. Part of me is like ok my current two will both be in college by the time DH and I are 46. I have older parents and it bummed me out a lot.