Anonymous wrote:I don't mention it to DH, because he'll get excited, join in, drop weight way faster, and then I'll feel bad.

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I talk to absolutely NO one about weight loss efforts or anything medical. I find it super depressing to hear all the quack suggestions and misinformed advice, especially from DH and family. I feel isolated and alone when confronted with so much well-intended stupidity and get angry with myself for being irritable.

Yes!!

DH never liked to hear my fitness goals either. Just dull to him. He did not and does not care how fast I can run or if I can do a pull up.

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I talk to absolutely NO one about weight loss efforts or anything medical. I find it super depressing to hear all the quack suggestions and misinformed advice, especially from DH and family. I feel isolated and alone when confronted with so much well-intended stupidity and get angry with myself for being irritable.

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Anonymous wrote:I just posted on my FB feed (to a limited group of people, removing anyone who might have a negative comment), looking for friends with apple watches. I might not talk to them about my weight loss goals, but at hopefully we can close some rings together.

I'd love to friend some people here, but I don't want to post my digits.

Ok I'll post mine. Age 53, height 5'7, back at the beginning of May 167 lbs, today 146.5 lbs
Aiming for 135 but may just end up leveling off around 140

Oh, I meant my phone digits, so I can add friends on my Apple watch.

You are doing great! I'm working on the same 25 pounds that I lose every few years. This time, ZERO diets. All activity. It will be slower, but hope that I will eventually get there.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t talk about it. For some reason, when I have in the past, it seems like DH (who is stick thin by nature) doubles down on sugary desserts, chips, ice cream, etc. which makes it hard for me to stay on track with all those easy quick foods in the kitchen.

It works better now that it is my “secret”.

Except for the fact that my DH isn't stick thin, or thin at all, all of this sound like my situation.

I mean, I'm fine, I'm internally motivated most of the time, but apparently I'd like more than nothing in terms of support (and certainly not hostility toward my goals), but maybe I'll just have to assume I won't get it.

Pp with stick thin DH here…
Weight Watchers has a very supportive online community. Have you tried anything like that?

No, I won't do that, most likely. I just feel like I'm "hiding" something from my family, y'know? Like my goal to lose 10 pounds is shameful or something.

It's not shameful but I think the PP who said it's boring to other people probably has it right. Your husnand probably doesnt notice, and if he notices probably doesn't care (outside of the fact that you care), and I am certain he's not thinking about a tight waistband for five hours a day like we might be. I think you need to find support elsewhere and ask him for behavior rather than interest - please don't bring brownies home, etc. I think on balance, it's probably better for him not to be invested with your weight than it is for him to care too much, if those are the options?

I've asked at other times that processed foods not be brought home, but DH is like "they(meaning storebough cookies or whatever) are fine" ... I guess we differ on that assessment. So, I think you are right, it is better that he is not invested or even notice what I'm doing. I know that trying to lose 10 pounds isn't shameful, but that is the vibe I get from my family ... Well, I must have internalized that feeling somehow.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t talk about it. For some reason, when I have in the past, it seems like DH (who is stick thin by nature) doubles down on sugary desserts, chips, ice cream, etc. which makes it hard for me to stay on track with all those easy quick foods in the kitchen.

It works better now that it is my “secret”.

Except for the fact that my DH isn't stick thin, or thin at all, all of this sound like my situation.

I mean, I'm fine, I'm internally motivated most of the time, but apparently I'd like more than nothing in terms of support (and certainly not hostility toward my goals), but maybe I'll just have to assume I won't get it.

Pp with stick thin DH here…
Weight Watchers has a very supportive online community. Have you tried anything like that?

No, I won't do that, most likely. I just feel like I'm "hiding" something from my family, y'know? Like my goal to lose 10 pounds is shameful or something.

It's not shameful but I think the PP who said it's boring to other people probably has it right. Your husnand probably doesnt notice, and if he notices probably doesn't care (outside of the fact that you care), and I am certain he's not thinking about a tight waistband for five hours a day like we might be. I think you need to find support elsewhere and ask him for behavior rather than interest - please don't bring brownies home, etc. I think on balance, it's probably better for him not to be invested with your weight than it is for him to care too much, if those are the options?