Anonymous wrote:OP, some pretty bad responses here so I will avoid calling you a bad parent or diagnosing whether you ADHD and just answer from what I have seen. I have known two kids that went this route and both were children of very close friends so we watched the whole thing unfold. For both is was a monetary decision and both regret the decision of not heading to JMU, CMU non-engineering Tech and focusing on UVA. One is now enlisted in the Military and the other entered a trade. While both were good high school students the factors of being at home and hanging out with all of their non-college friends, not having the drive to grind at school and the allure of decent pay and independence was just too much so they tapped out.

*CNU not CMU

OP, some pretty bad responses here so I will avoid calling you a bad parent or diagnosing whether you ADHD and just answer from what I have seen. I have known two kids that went this route and both were children of very close friends so we watched the whole thing unfold. For both is was a monetary decision and both regret the decision of not heading to JMU, CMU non-engineering Tech and focusing on UVA. One is now enlisted in the Military and the other entered a trade. While both were good high school students the factors of being at home and hanging out with all of their non-college friends, not having the drive to grind at school and the allure of decent pay and independence was just too much so they tapped out.

It's an EXCELLENT idea...had you laid it all out for her during the college search.

I still can't quite believe you are proposing to have her go to 3 different colleges for undergrad. It's not good for making friends, and credits might be lost in the transfers.

The larger issue here is your lack of planning, OP. It's not your fault you didn't save enough, perhaps. But it's hard to excuse the messy and belated thought process! You must have some sort of ADHD, probably, but as one ADHD person to another, please, this was a priority! I hope you develop a better plan for younger siblings, if there are any.

Anonymous wrote:No, if this is really a concern have her take a gap year, apply to JMU and Tech and any of the other very good in state options we have in Virginia and let her have a good college experience.

Plus, I know of enough kids who “planned” to do the guaranteed transfer and didn’t get the GPA they needed for all kinds of reasons. It’s pretty arrogant to assume that a kid who couldn’t cut it in high school is going to be in the top of the class at NOVA.

Also you are really terrible for just now springing this on her. That’s really bad.

What was wrong with the other Virginia publics? Why could she only go to UVA or W&M? You think there aren't plenty of kids of her caliber (e.g. top 15 percent at a good DMV public) at Tech or JMU? You wouldn't be in this position if you weren't a college snob.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here: She is committed for the freshman year. We are looking to change course after her freshman year and/or encourage our other kids differently.

Troll.

Why would you say that? I am the OP and I am asking an honest question. I swear....people on this forum can be so incredibly rude.

Because either this is not true or you are a very bad person. This was a thought process years ago. You are a bit late to this. She is already in and about to go and you are now focused on cost -- yes bad person.

Anonymous wrote:No, if this is really a concern have her take a gap year, apply to JMU and Tech and any of the other very good in state options we have in Virginia and let her have a good college experience.

Plus, I know of enough kids who “planned” to do the guaranteed transfer and didn’t get the GPA they needed for all kinds of reasons. It’s pretty arrogant to assume that a kid who couldn’t cut it in high school is going to be in the top of the class at NOVA.

Also you are really terrible for just now springing this on her. That’s really bad.

OP said top 15% - her kid is not someone who couldn’t cut it in HS

Anonymous wrote:UVA has a high transfer acceptance rate-maybe 40%? I’m
assuming W&M does too. Have her apply freshman year.

This…and suck up the cost differential between NOVA and UVA/W&M for sophomore year.

Aside from whether this is a good idea, what you're suggesting isn't really possible if you look at the specifics of the GAA. You have to take specific courses and gets specific grades *at NVCC* to meet the requirements, and the last 45 credits have to be taken at NVCC. So your child would spend a year at a 4-year college, move home, and spend 3 semesters at NVCC, minimum. They would probably have to repeat courses to get the required NVCC classes done. And if they don't get a required grade in a required class, the GAA doesn't apply. Some classes require an A for this agreement; they can't have anything below a B in any required class.

Far better to have them transfer to an in-state 4-year school after one or two semesters.

As none of the high achievers go to community college, its just not the intellectual or social environment i would want for my child. Its like putting them in class with bottom 25% of high school graduates, doesn't make sense to me.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here: She is committed for the freshman year. We are looking to change course after her freshman year and/or encourage our other kids differently.

Troll.

Weird thing to troll about

i agree but this is dcum. all kinds of weirdos come out to play and it's not even full moon

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here: She is committed for the freshman year. We are looking to change course after her freshman year and/or encourage our other kids differently.

Troll.

Weird thing to troll about

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here: She is committed for the freshman year. We are looking to change course after her freshman year and/or encourage our other kids differently.

Troll.

Why would you say that? I am the OP and I am asking an honest question. I swear....people on this forum can be so incredibly rude.

OP don't feed yhe troll. Your question is a good one. Just respond to those helping out and ignore the idiots.

Have you already paid the fall tuition? If not, take some time a apply to your other state schools. Maybe you could receive a January start??

I agree with what others have said about it being a bad idea. Staying at the same school all four years is worth a lot; I attended two schools for two years each and have only one friend from both together twenty years later. Splitting the experience into three parts would be really bad.

Help your other kids fall in love with some of the other fine in-state schools if that's all you can afford. Or tell them now that they'll need to start at community college if they want to go anywhere else.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here: She is committed for the freshman year. We are looking to change course after her freshman year and/or encourage our other kids differently.

Troll.

Why would you say that? I am the OP and I am asking an honest question. I swear....people on this forum can be so incredibly rude.

Because it’s august. You’re seriously going to have your kid go out of state for a year and then transfer to a community college and then transfer again?? Who would do that to their kid?

And furthermore, I know that this is a troll because kids themselves can only take out five thousand a year on loans. You referred to HER going into debt. It won’t be her. It will be you, with parent plus loans. And if this was a true story you would know that.

And if you had these thoughts, you would have had them all year and in the spring, not just started thinking about it in august. Unless you’re a total idiot.

I agree with this. And if you are legit, why didn’t you consider all of this earlier? What a terrible thing for your daughter.