Anonymous
08/10/2022 13:17
Subject: Wedding gift for niece
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is a cultural thing. Normally range from $250 - $500 for friends. 1K-5K to kids of relatives.
I actually made the check out to my BIL, whose son was getting married. In the memo, I wrote "Congratulations to Larlo and his bride on their wedding". The amount was for 10K. There was no need to give it to my nephew because he did not pay for the wedding. My BIL paid for the wedding and so as a close relative we pitched in.
This is odd.
Not at all. Bil can give the money to the son or he can use the money for the wedding cost. It is cultural.
Anonymous
08/10/2022 13:11
Subject: Wedding gift for niece
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:$500
Bull unless you're bringing home 7 figure income annually. $200 is more than enough for a relative and $100 for mon relative. It is gauche to ask for cash but manners no longer matter.
Are you serious? I got married 20 years ago and most people gave more than $100!
I got married in 2009. We received multiple gift cards of $100 from groups of more than 10 people.
People put in $10 each????
Some less than $10 because the groups of people giving $10 had more than 10 people in them.
Oops. Some of the groups of people giving $100 (not $10)
Anonymous
08/10/2022 13:10
Subject: Wedding gift for niece
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:$500
Bull unless you're bringing home 7 figure income annually. $200 is more than enough for a relative and $100 for mon relative. It is gauche to ask for cash but manners no longer matter.
Are you serious? I got married 20 years ago and most people gave more than $100!
I got married in 2009. We received multiple gift cards of $100 from groups of more than 10 people.
Your friends are either very cheap or very poor.
It was mostly friends of our parents and retirees who, I assume, were freaked out by the 2008 stock market crash?
Anonymous
08/10/2022 13:08
Subject: Wedding gift for niece
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:$500
Bull unless you're bringing home 7 figure income annually. $200 is more than enough for a relative and $100 for mon relative. It is gauche to ask for cash but manners no longer matter.
Are you serious? I got married 20 years ago and most people gave more than $100!
I got married in 2009. We received multiple gift cards of $100 from groups of more than 10 people.
People put in $10 each????
Some less than $10 because the groups of people giving $10 had more than 10 people in them.
Anonymous
08/09/2022 21:44
Subject: Re:Wedding gift for niece
Anonymous wrote:Same situation, but nephew. Their registry is a multitude of options and is very confusing. They had a "fund our honeymoon" option as well as "fund our future house". I think we may donate to the latter. How much depends on what you're comfortable with. I am doing $200. There is some travel involved with this wedding, so I'm trying to weigh that in as well. Basically whatever you're comfortable with.
Gross.money-grab.
Anonymous
08/09/2022 21:44
Subject: Wedding gift for niece
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:$500
Bull unless you're bringing home 7 figure income annually. $200 is more than enough for a relative and $100 for mon relative. It is gauche to ask for cash but manners no longer matter.
Are you serious? I got married 20 years ago and most people gave more than $100!
I got married in 2009. We received multiple gift cards of $100 from groups of more than 10 people.
Your friends are either very cheap or very poor.
Anonymous
08/09/2022 21:43
Subject: Wedding gift for niece
Anonymous wrote:It is a cultural thing. Normally range from $250 - $500 for friends. 1K-5K to kids of relatives.
I actually made the check out to my BIL, whose son was getting married. In the memo, I wrote "Congratulations to Larlo and his bride on their wedding". The amount was for 10K. There was no need to give it to my nephew because he did not pay for the wedding. My BIL paid for the wedding and so as a close relative we pitched in.
This is odd.
Anonymous
08/09/2022 21:42
Subject: Wedding gift for niece
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:$500
Bull unless you're bringing home 7 figure income annually. $200 is more than enough for a relative and $100 for mon relative. It is gauche to ask for cash but manners no longer matter.
Are you serious? I got married 20 years ago and most people gave more than $100!
I got married in 2009. We received multiple gift cards of $100 from groups of more than 10 people.
People put in $10 each????
Anonymous
08/09/2022 21:41
Subject: Re:Wedding gift for niece
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I got married in 2018, coworkers gave $250. Extended family gave between $400-$1500. Here in DC.
Unless the coworker gift was a group gift, you're not a fed. This leads me to assume you're in a more lucrative field.
Not fed, didn't realize that was mentioned in OPs post.
It wasn't, but there are rules about how much feds can give to each other and $250 is well above the limit.
Anonymous
08/09/2022 17:29
Subject: Wedding gift for niece
It is a cultural thing. Normally range from $250 - $500 for friends. 1K-5K to kids of relatives.
I actually made the check out to my BIL, whose son was getting married. In the memo, I wrote "Congratulations to Larlo and his bride on their wedding". The amount was for 10K. There was no need to give it to my nephew because he did not pay for the wedding. My BIL paid for the wedding and so as a close relative we pitched in.
I actually made the check out to my BIL, whose son was getting married. In the memo, I wrote "Congratulations to Larlo and his bride on their wedding". The amount was for 10K. There was no need to give it to my nephew because he did not pay for the wedding. My BIL paid for the wedding and so as a close relative we pitched in.
Anonymous
08/09/2022 17:20
Subject: Re:Wedding gift for niece
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I got married in 2018, coworkers gave $250. Extended family gave between $400-$1500. Here in DC.
Unless the coworker gift was a group gift, you're not a fed. This leads me to assume you're in a more lucrative field.
Not fed, didn't realize that was mentioned in OPs post.
Anonymous
08/09/2022 17:19
Subject: Re:Wedding gift for niece
Anonymous wrote:I got married in 2018, coworkers gave $250. Extended family gave between $400-$1500. Here in DC.
Unless the coworker gift was a group gift, you're not a fed. This leads me to assume you're in a more lucrative field.
Anonymous
08/09/2022 14:56
Subject: Re:Wedding gift for niece
I got married in 2018, coworkers gave $250. Extended family gave between $400-$1500. Here in DC.
Anonymous
08/09/2022 12:02
Subject: Wedding gift for niece
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:$500
Bull unless you're bringing home 7 figure income annually. $200 is more than enough for a relative and $100 for mon relative. It is gauche to ask for cash but manners no longer matter.
Are you serious? I got married 20 years ago and most people gave more than $100!
I got married in 2009. We received multiple gift cards of $100 from groups of more than 10 people.
Anonymous
08/08/2022 22:21
Subject: Wedding gift for niece
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:$500
Bull unless you're bringing home 7 figure income annually. $200 is more than enough for a relative and $100 for mon relative. It is gauche to ask for cash but manners no longer matter.
Are you serious? I got married 20 years ago and most people gave more than $100!