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Anonymous wrote:Do any of your Nannies have kids? How do they balance taking their own kids to practices? Do your kids take precedence since you have more money?

Our nanny’s kids are all grown. But what’s your point? A woman can work when she has children but a nanny can’t? What about teachers whose kids are taught by other teachers?

Extra curricular activities are called that because they occur outside of the school day, but before bed time. If the nanny is taking your kids to practices during that time, she isn’t taking her own. If you are consistently working later than 5:00 and you can’t take your kids to their extra curricular activities, you are saying your children’s needs outweighs your nanny’s kids needs. Or that your children need more extra curricular activities than the nannies. Of course they do in your mind, but overall in society it is an interesting point of view. Hopefully you pay your nanny enough that she can do that.

The point you’re missing is that a nanny is a WOHM like the rest of us. NP here and your insinuation is obscene! I’m a doctor who has to care for other people’s children when my own kids are home sick sometimes. That’s life. Our nanny is older and doesn’t have kids but if she did I would respect her enough to work it out.

+1. When I’m at a restaurant I don’t ask waitresses who is feeding their kids at home. It’s a job. People deal. My neighbors are a two lawyer family with 4 kids and none of those teenage kids are allowed to do extracurriculars that involve a parent driving them around during the week. Are these kids underprivileged?

Yes. They are a little underprivileged. ECs and sports are a huge draw for the top colleges. A kid in my little sister’s graduating class had a 1600 and perfect grades but nothing else and got rejected at Stanford.

There are a lot of activities that can be done through the school that don't involve driving all around town. Tons of sports, school plays, clubs, etc.

Not at our school until 7th grade. That’s been a problem for us. And music lessons aren’t offered at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Do any of your Nannies have kids? How do they balance taking their own kids to practices? Do your kids take precedence since you have more money?

Our nanny’s kids are all grown. But what’s your point? A woman can work when she has children but a nanny can’t? What about teachers whose kids are taught by other teachers?

Extra curricular activities are called that because they occur outside of the school day, but before bed time. If the nanny is taking your kids to practices during that time, she isn’t taking her own. If you are consistently working later than 5:00 and you can’t take your kids to their extra curricular activities, you are saying your children’s needs outweighs your nanny’s kids needs. Or that your children need more extra curricular activities than the nannies. Of course they do in your mind, but overall in society it is an interesting point of view. Hopefully you pay your nanny enough that she can do that.

The point you’re missing is that a nanny is a WOHM like the rest of us. NP here and your insinuation is obscene! I’m a doctor who has to care for other people’s children when my own kids are home sick sometimes. That’s life. Our nanny is older and doesn’t have kids but if she did I would respect her enough to work it out.

+1. When I’m at a restaurant I don’t ask waitresses who is feeding their kids at home. It’s a job. People deal. My neighbors are a two lawyer family with 4 kids and none of those teenage kids are allowed to do extracurriculars that involve a parent driving them around during the week. Are these kids underprivileged?

Yes. They are a little underprivileged. ECs and sports are a huge draw for the top colleges. A kid in my little sister’s graduating class had a 1600 and perfect grades but nothing else and got rejected at Stanford.

There are a lot of activities that can be done through the school that don't involve driving all around town. Tons of sports, school plays, clubs, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Do any of your Nannies have kids? How do they balance taking their own kids to practices? Do your kids take precedence since you have more money?

Our nanny’s kids are all grown. But what’s your point? A woman can work when she has children but a nanny can’t? What about teachers whose kids are taught by other teachers?

Extra curricular activities are called that because they occur outside of the school day, but before bed time. If the nanny is taking your kids to practices during that time, she isn’t taking her own. If you are consistently working later than 5:00 and you can’t take your kids to their extra curricular activities, you are saying your children’s needs outweighs your nanny’s kids needs. Or that your children need more extra curricular activities than the nannies. Of course they do in your mind, but overall in society it is an interesting point of view. Hopefully you pay your nanny enough that she can do that.

The point you’re missing is that a nanny is a WOHM like the rest of us. NP here and your insinuation is obscene! I’m a doctor who has to care for other people’s children when my own kids are home sick sometimes. That’s life. Our nanny is older and doesn’t have kids but if she did I would respect her enough to work it out.

+1. When I’m at a restaurant I don’t ask waitresses who is feeding their kids at home. It’s a job. People deal. My neighbors are a two lawyer family with 4 kids and none of those teenage kids are allowed to do extracurriculars that involve a parent driving them around during the week. Are these kids underprivileged?

Yes. They are a little underprivileged. ECs and sports are a huge draw for the top colleges. A kid in my little sister’s graduating class had a 1600 and perfect grades but nothing else and got rejected at Stanford.

Do you know and people who are actually poor? There are a lot worse things than not being allowed to do an extra curricular that involves having your working parent drive you somewhere during the work day. And PS-hardly anyone is getting into HyPS, even if you adjust your work day to take Larlo to Fencing practice.

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Anonymous wrote:Do any of your Nannies have kids? How do they balance taking their own kids to practices? Do your kids take precedence since you have more money?

Our nanny’s kids are all grown. But what’s your point? A woman can work when she has children but a nanny can’t? What about teachers whose kids are taught by other teachers?

Extra curricular activities are called that because they occur outside of the school day, but before bed time. If the nanny is taking your kids to practices during that time, she isn’t taking her own. If you are consistently working later than 5:00 and you can’t take your kids to their extra curricular activities, you are saying your children’s needs outweighs your nanny’s kids needs. Or that your children need more extra curricular activities than the nannies. Of course they do in your mind, but overall in society it is an interesting point of view. Hopefully you pay your nanny enough that she can do that.

The point you’re missing is that a nanny is a WOHM like the rest of us. NP here and your insinuation is obscene! I’m a doctor who has to care for other people’s children when my own kids are home sick sometimes. That’s life. Our nanny is older and doesn’t have kids but if she did I would respect her enough to work it out.

+1. When I’m at a restaurant I don’t ask waitresses who is feeding their kids at home. It’s a job. People deal. My neighbors are a two lawyer family with 4 kids and none of those teenage kids are allowed to do extracurriculars that involve a parent driving them around during the week. Are these kids underprivileged?

Yes. They are a little underprivileged. ECs and sports are a huge draw for the top colleges. A kid in my little sister’s graduating class had a 1600 and perfect grades but nothing else and got rejected at Stanford.

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Anonymous wrote:Do any of your Nannies have kids? How do they balance taking their own kids to practices? Do your kids take precedence since you have more money?

Our nanny’s kids are all grown. But what’s your point? A woman can work when she has children but a nanny can’t? What about teachers whose kids are taught by other teachers?

Extra curricular activities are called that because they occur outside of the school day, but before bed time. If the nanny is taking your kids to practices during that time, she isn’t taking her own. If you are consistently working later than 5:00 and you can’t take your kids to their extra curricular activities, you are saying your children’s needs outweighs your nanny’s kids needs. Or that your children need more extra curricular activities than the nannies. Of course they do in your mind, but overall in society it is an interesting point of view. Hopefully you pay your nanny enough that she can do that.

The point you’re missing is that a nanny is a WOHM like the rest of us. NP here and your insinuation is obscene! I’m a doctor who has to care for other people’s children when my own kids are home sick sometimes. That’s life. Our nanny is older and doesn’t have kids but if she did I would respect her enough to work it out.

+1. When I’m at a restaurant I don’t ask waitresses who is feeding their kids at home. It’s a job. People deal. My neighbors are a two lawyer family with 4 kids and none of those teenage kids are allowed to do extracurriculars that involve a parent driving them around during the week. Are these kids underprivileged?

10 years and counting. Kids are both in full time elementary school now and our needs are fewer, but it was priceless to have a nanny through the CoViD 19 virtual learning years, endless days home due to CoVID exposure and just more generally to help the kids shuffle around to various activities after school and do other personal assistant type of chores.

I had a nanny until very recently, but we parted ways when the youngest turned 4. However, I hired someone to just drive kids around to activities.

Our neighbors kept their nanny thru kids-in-college when she became chief dog-walker and errand-runner (we share their cleaning lady). Family plans to keep her until they all retire. Nanny was kids soccer coach at younger age too. Everyone loves her.

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Anonymous wrote:We still have our nanny for our 13 and 15 year olds! She’s more of a house manager now but my kids love sports and there was no other way to get them to after school practices and piano lessons without a trusted nanny. Plus she still handles all the kids laundry, errands, lunch and snack groceries and packs lunches.

+1. Same with 11 and 9 year old. I don’t know how other parents handle after school sports/activities as well as sick days without keeping their nanny. My kids would miss out on so much.

PP, but the answer is flexible jobs, but I agree if one or both parents have a demanding job it's awesome to have this kind of help.

My one kid does a lot of soccer, but practice starts at 5:30 right near our house so not a big deal. As they get older, seems like a lot of activities are at school so they stay later and we sort out carpools or I just pick her up, and build it into my schedule. DH has a slightly less flexible job, but still has some flex so between the two of us we get it done.

Agree that in the old days of traditional 5 days a week commute into the city, that would be hard. But fortunately I've always had remote options.

We stopped when my youngest started K but I had a really flexible job. The nanny went to work for a teacher so we were super lucky to get her the following summer which helped the transition.

This was pre COVID, but I had regular WFH days so we switched to the after care program at the elementary school for a few days a week. When my oldest hit middle school, she did a lot of activities at the school and walked home after (though they do have an activity bus) and she did have one activity that had a van that picked up kids from local schools and I would go get her at the end of my workday once a week.

For summer, we did/do a mix of camps and visits with grandparents and just letting the kids be home while we work some days and go to the pool or hang out with friends (with COVID, I'm home most days except a few days a year and DH is home 3 days a week so always someone here, though now the kids are getting older anyway).

Anonymous wrote:You can keep her as long as you want. I have three kids and a demanding job but never had one. Totally your call.

+1 but with two kids. Never had one, many people don’t, but if you choose to then keep them as long as it makes sense for you. I don’t know why people are so obsessed about this topic, but it always seems to be coming up.

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Anonymous wrote:Do any of your Nannies have kids? How do they balance taking their own kids to practices? Do your kids take precedence since you have more money?

Just stop, PP. You want to make an issue out of something where it doesn’t exist. I don’t have a nanny but I know one of my kid’s daycare teachers has a child in another class. She’s teaching my kid while someone else is teaching hers. What’s the difference?

Day care ends at a shift time, usually 6:00. She gets a tuition cut while working there. She is helping a group of kids vs just a couple of kids in a family. She gets benefits and retirement and the possibility of moving to director position if she wants. Her child gets to be in a preschool setting while she works. To me? Lots of differences.

The point is that maybe the nanny has to hire or find someone to take her kids to sports while it’s her job to take her charges. Because It’s Her Job.

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Anonymous wrote:Do any of your Nannies have kids? How do they balance taking their own kids to practices? Do your kids take precedence since you have more money?

Just stop, PP. You want to make an issue out of something where it doesn’t exist. I don’t have a nanny but I know one of my kid’s daycare teachers has a child in another class. She’s teaching my kid while someone else is teaching hers. What’s the difference?

Day care ends at a shift time, usually 6:00. She gets a tuition cut while working there. She is helping a group of kids vs just a couple of kids in a family. She gets benefits and retirement and the possibility of moving to director position if she wants. Her child gets to be in a preschool setting while she works. To me? Lots of differences.

Jesus, stop being obtuse! Our bosses have privileges that we don’t! I can’t leave my job for my kid’s soccer practice but my boss can.

You think you’re making some point about respecting nannies but you’re doing the opposite. My guess is that the nanny would have to have someone else take their kids to practice or not play in order to eat and keep a roof over their heads.

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Anonymous wrote:Do any of your Nannies have kids? How do they balance taking their own kids to practices? Do your kids take precedence since you have more money?

Just stop, PP. You want to make an issue out of something where it doesn’t exist. I don’t have a nanny but I know one of my kid’s daycare teachers has a child in another class. She’s teaching my kid while someone else is teaching hers. What’s the difference?

Day care ends at a shift time, usually 6:00. She gets a tuition cut while working there. She is helping a group of kids vs just a couple of kids in a family. She gets benefits and retirement and the possibility of moving to director position if she wants. Her child gets to be in a preschool setting while she works. To me? Lots of differences.

Anonymous wrote:Do any of your Nannies have kids? How do they balance taking their own kids to practices? Do your kids take precedence since you have more money?

Just stop, PP. You want to make an issue out of something where it doesn’t exist. I don’t have a nanny but I know one of my kid’s daycare teachers has a child in another class. She’s teaching my kid while someone else is teaching hers. What’s the difference?