Anonymous
08/02/2022 21:59
Subject: Take the photos even if you’re fat…
Thank you. I tell myself this sometimes toobut today ot was good to hear it from you.
I'm not fat, but I still don't like things about how I look in a lot of photos.
I'm not fat, but I still don't like things about how I look in a lot of photos.
Anonymous
08/02/2022 21:48
Subject: Take the photos even if you’re fat…
Yes. I just found old pics of my late Mom with me 15 years ago. One where we are smiling and I was so happy to find these as she’d stopped smiling in or avoided photos after (due to weight gain etc). Lost her 3 years ago and rediscovering these photos this week overjoyed me. I am going to frame the one of us smiling together.
Anonymous
08/02/2022 21:03
Subject: Take the photos even if you’re fat…
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I agree that nothing should hold you back from getting your photo taken if you want to get your photo taken.
What I wish more people understood is that some people just…don’t like to have their photo taken so much. It’s not necessarily about weight (or all about weight). It’s just we are such a photo-obsessed society, some of us are private, and some of us would rather LIVE IN THE MOMENT than stop every 35 seconds to take pictures, post, etc.
You are completely missing the point of OP’s post. She’s not suggesting people should start snapping selfies constantly/photo documenting every event. She’s saying that the moms who don’t like getting their photo taken because they are self conscious about aging/putting on weight and hence are avoiding ever being in the family pictures (and yes this is common) will probably look back one day and regret not having/being a part those memories/keepsakes of different stages of family life.
And even if they don’t regret it, their families are missing out on mom being part of those pictures.
We live in the most photographed generation of all time. I don’t have many photos of my great-grandma, but I remember her. I have more of my grandparents, but not tons on tons on tons, and I remember them. In my family, we make memories and take a few photos—and not the other way around.
Is there some virus going around that causes pointless point missing?
Good post, OP. I have a friend who I don’t have a single picture of in the last 15 years because she always feels too fat.
Anonymous
08/01/2022 17:15
Subject: Take the photos even if you’re fat…
I'm in my 60s and I hate seeing pics of myself because it's when I realize that I actually look like that because I do not look like that when I look in the mirror. I need to lose about 30 lbs (working on it!) and my hair always looks awful (not much I can do at this point) and I cringe!
However, I'm pretty sure everybody else already knows what I look like so it's not a revelation to them, so I try to just grin and bear it!
However, I'm pretty sure everybody else already knows what I look like so it's not a revelation to them, so I try to just grin and bear it!
Anonymous
08/01/2022 17:11
Subject: Take the photos even if you’re fat…
Yes OP Yes!
I wished that I have more pictures with my kiddos when they were younger. I wished that I had done those dang Sears or JC Penney yearly photos.
It took too long for me to understand that my kids do not care that I was chubby; it’s all about capturing our memories. Having these new cell phones have helped tremendously😁
I wished that I have more pictures with my kiddos when they were younger. I wished that I had done those dang Sears or JC Penney yearly photos.
It took too long for me to understand that my kids do not care that I was chubby; it’s all about capturing our memories. Having these new cell phones have helped tremendously😁
Anonymous
08/01/2022 16:28
Subject: Take the photos even if you’re fat…
Anonymous wrote:Good point. Just because I am horrible to look at now, doesn't mean it can't get worse!
lol
I do think this is true of many women, throughout their lives.
When they are young, they compare themselves to some imagined perfection.
When they start to age, they compare themselves to when they were young.
It does not help, that society very often acts as if women''s primary value are their looks/youth/child bearing potential.
Anonymous
07/29/2022 18:12
Subject: Take the photos even if you’re fat…
I have complained so much about how I look in pictures, especially candid photos, that I have effectively conditioned DH not to take them. There are hundreds of pics of him with our kids and maybe a few dozen of me, it’s my own fault and makes me sad. I don’t even have a picture of me holding our firstborn. I have to ask him to document things now.
Anonymous
07/29/2022 17:44
Subject: Take the photos even if you’re fat…
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I agree that nothing should hold you back from getting your photo taken if you want to get your photo taken.
What I wish more people understood is that some people just…don’t like to have their photo taken so much. It’s not necessarily about weight (or all about weight). It’s just we are such a photo-obsessed society, some of us are private, and some of us would rather LIVE IN THE MOMENT than stop every 35 seconds to take pictures, post, etc.
You are completely missing the point of OP’s post. She’s not suggesting people should start snapping selfies constantly/photo documenting every event. She’s saying that the moms who don’t like getting their photo taken because they are self conscious about aging/putting on weight and hence are avoiding ever being in the family pictures (and yes this is common) will probably look back one day and regret not having/being a part those memories/keepsakes of different stages of family life.
And even if they don’t regret it, their families are missing out on mom being part of those pictures.
We live in the most photographed generation of all time. I don’t have many photos of my great-grandma, but I remember her. I have more of my grandparents, but not tons on tons on tons, and I remember them. In my family, we make memories and take a few photos—and not the other way around.
My parents refuse to stand in photos. I really can't begin to describe how sad it makes me. Perhaps your great grandma and grandparents would have avoided pictures, but you probably don't have pictures for different reasons; it was a luxury or something special back then. People who avoid pictures are opting out of pictures today for entirely different reasons.
I don't mind pictures for family purposes but I hate the sharing of them incessantly. I also don't like that people-family or friends- take pics or videos of people and then post them. Keep them, print them, reminisce but the main reason I think most people hate pictures more is because of social.media.
In the 80s you took a pic and you might see it once or twice and the only people who saw them were family or friends. Now it's just everywhere and always accessible.
Anonymous
07/29/2022 17:35
Subject: Take the photos even if you’re fat…
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I agree that nothing should hold you back from getting your photo taken if you want to get your photo taken.
What I wish more people understood is that some people just…don’t like to have their photo taken so much. It’s not necessarily about weight (or all about weight). It’s just we are such a photo-obsessed society, some of us are private, and some of us would rather LIVE IN THE MOMENT than stop every 35 seconds to take pictures, post, etc.
You are completely missing the point of OP’s post. She’s not suggesting people should start snapping selfies constantly/photo documenting every event. She’s saying that the moms who don’t like getting their photo taken because they are self conscious about aging/putting on weight and hence are avoiding ever being in the family pictures (and yes this is common) will probably look back one day and regret not having/being a part those memories/keepsakes of different stages of family life.
And even if they don’t regret it, their families are missing out on mom being part of those pictures.
We live in the most photographed generation of all time. I don’t have many photos of my great-grandma, but I remember her. I have more of my grandparents, but not tons on tons on tons, and I remember them. In my family, we make memories and take a few photos—and not the other way around.
My parents refuse to stand in photos. I really can't begin to describe how sad it makes me. Perhaps your great grandma and grandparents would have avoided pictures, but you probably don't have pictures for different reasons; it was a luxury or something special back then. People who avoid pictures are opting out of pictures today for entirely different reasons.
Anonymous
07/28/2022 20:39
Subject: Take the photos even if you’re fat…
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I agree that nothing should hold you back from getting your photo taken if you want to get your photo taken.
What I wish more people understood is that some people just…don’t like to have their photo taken so much. It’s not necessarily about weight (or all about weight). It’s just we are such a photo-obsessed society, some of us are private, and some of us would rather LIVE IN THE MOMENT than stop every 35 seconds to take pictures, post, etc.
You are completely missing the point of OP’s post. She’s not suggesting people should start snapping selfies constantly/photo documenting every event. She’s saying that the moms who don’t like getting their photo taken because they are self conscious about aging/putting on weight and hence are avoiding ever being in the family pictures (and yes this is common) will probably look back one day and regret not having/being a part those memories/keepsakes of different stages of family life.
And even if they don’t regret it, their families are missing out on mom being part of those pictures.
We live in the most photographed generation of all time. I don’t have many photos of my great-grandma, but I remember her. I have more of my grandparents, but not tons on tons on tons, and I remember them. In my family, we make memories and take a few photos—and not the other way around.
Anonymous
07/28/2022 19:23
Subject: Take the photos even if you’re fat…
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I agree that nothing should hold you back from getting your photo taken if you want to get your photo taken.
What I wish more people understood is that some people just…don’t like to have their photo taken so much. It’s not necessarily about weight (or all about weight). It’s just we are such a photo-obsessed society, some of us are private, and some of us would rather LIVE IN THE MOMENT than stop every 35 seconds to take pictures, post, etc.
You are completely missing the point of OP’s post. She’s not suggesting people should start snapping selfies constantly/photo documenting every event. She’s saying that the moms who don’t like getting their photo taken because they are self conscious about aging/putting on weight and hence are avoiding ever being in the family pictures (and yes this is common) will probably look back one day and regret not having/being a part those memories/keepsakes of different stages of family life.
And even if they don’t regret it, their families are missing out on mom being part of those pictures.
I dont have any memories of my mom related to photos but I do have them in my own head. Like when I look back at photos with my parents in my elementary and middle school years, I dont really remember the photos- they dont bring up more memories. I remember car rides with my mom, I remember talks with her, I remember her by my side during labor, etc.
I have always hated having my picture taken- its like stand still to capture this moment for everyone else to see, but what if I dont care if anyone else sees because the people that are important are right here. Candids are great but that normally means someone else is out of the experience, documenting it for everyone else.
Anonymous
07/28/2022 12:03
Subject: Take the photos even if you’re fat…
Anonymous wrote:Good point. Just because I am horrible to look at now, doesn't mean it can't get worse
Anonymous
07/28/2022 10:32
Subject: Take the photos even if you’re fat…
Good point. Just because I am horrible to look at now, doesn't mean it can't get worse!