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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I defined her as a nanny because she was not the one paying for the class and she’s not the one desperately lonely and in need of adult conversation during the day!!! I don’t think if her as the help!!!

I think people are being hard on you. If you only spoke briefly and softly, I think everyone needs to relax. People forget what it’s like to be home all day with a young child (or they never did it so can’t relate). It’s tough and sometimes you make friends in a toddler music class & want to say hi for a quick minute.

I stayed home with my kids so I get it but, I did not chat when I was at music together or a show or library event. I saved it for another place and time. How about op saying to the friend "do you have time AFTER class to grab a coffee for us and snack for kids?

Yes, OP, YTA.

Kindly step outside and have your conversation with your friend outside so that you don't disrupt the class.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I defined her as a nanny because she was not the one paying for the class and she’s not the one desperately lonely and in need of adult conversation during the day!!! I don’t think if her as the help!!!

Talk after or before anywhere else! It doesn't matter who pays! I have been in those classes with chatty moms and it is very annoying and distracting.

Anonymous wrote:My friend and I take our toddlers to a Music Together class. We weren’t talking loudly and certainly were not talking during the whole class. When we were leaving this nanny came up to me and asked me to please not talk to my friend during class. The teacher never said anything so we clearly weren’t bothering her. I was kinda speechless when this nanny scolded me!

Was she rude? WWYD?

No, op you and your friend were rude. You go to a coffee shop to talk. At music together you focus on the teacher/class/participating. The reason the teacher didn't say anything isn't because you weren't being annoying. they may be worried you would pull your kids and write a negative comment and scare away future clients.

Nanny was right. Do not talk to your friend!

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I defined her as a nanny because she was not the one paying for the class and she’s not the one desperately lonely and in need of adult conversation during the day!!! I don’t think if her as the help!!!

I think people are being hard on you. If you only spoke briefly and softly, I think everyone needs to relax. People forget what it’s like to be home all day with a young child (or they never did it so can’t relate). It’s tough and sometimes you make friends in a toddler music class & want to say hi for a quick minute.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I defined her as a nanny because she was not the one paying for the class and she’s not the one desperately lonely and in need of adult conversation during the day!!! I don’t think if her as the help!!!

Then don’t do the class and meet your friend for coffee instead. I absolutely understand how you’re feeling, btdt, but the others are right, the class is not the time for chatting. Meet your friend before or after. At the class, focus on the teacher and your child, not your friend.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I defined her as a nanny because she was not the one paying for the class and she’s not the one desperately lonely and in need of adult conversation during the day!!! I don’t think if her as the help!!!

Who cares who is paying for what? If I give my friend movie tickets as a present, you'd still be rude to talk in the theater.

I'm sorry you're desperately lonely, I genuinely am, but get coffee and go to a playground with your friend from Music Together afterwards; the 45 minutes of class time isn't for you to socialize, even if you really do need it.

Even if the teacher doesn't say anything, other people paid their money to enjoy the class, not to listen to you complain and blabber on. If you want to talk to your friend, go out for coffee. Incredibly entitled up down and sideways, from referring to the person who asked you politely not to talk during class, to saying that her opinion is not important because she "didn't pay." I hope you learn from this experience that your behavior was rude and change it from now on.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I defined her as a nanny because she was not the one paying for the class and she’s not the one desperately lonely and in need of adult conversation during the day!!! I don’t think if her as the help!!!

So stay at home moms need adult conversation during the day but nannies don't?? It doesn't matter if she's paying for the class or not. If you were disturbing her and was polite about it, she was not rude. Do your socializing after class. A music class isn't the time for your chit chat with your friend.

Anonymous wrote:You are being rude. Save your conversation for after the class.

+1.
It's actually an explicit instruction in those classes

Ugh - I always hated mommy and me classes because of moms like you who came just to chit-chat with their friends and not be engaged with their kid.

OP here. I defined her as a nanny because she was not the one paying for the class and she’s not the one desperately lonely and in need of adult conversation during the day!!! I don’t think if her as the help!!!

Referring to her as "this nanny" as if she is less important than you says everything we need to know about you.

I was a nanny for many years and I'm very familiar with moms like you who look down their noses at "the help." Yes, you were rude.

The woman, nanny or not, was right. You were the rude one OP.