Don't do it. Read some of the 3 kid experiences s on this forum and it sounds like absolute hell.

Anonymous wrote:My friend ended up with 2 sets of twins.

My friend was pregnant with twins but lost one early into the pregnancy. It was her 2nd pregnancy. They decided to have a 3rd child and ended up with twins. I'd say only go for #3 if you are ok with the possibility of #3 and #4.

OP here - thank you for all your responses so far! For those that decided against, how did you combat the (as one poster put it) “baby cravings”? I think long term stopping at 2 would be the right move but I’m torn and SO many of my friends are having babies or are pregnant right now. The thought of having another set is both exciting and terrifying, mostly terrifying because $$$$$.

My daughter's best friend has older sibs who are B/G twins. We've known this family for over 10 years (kids are now in HS and college) and observing from the outside, it seems like the kids all get along pretty well, though the relationship between twins is amazingly close.

I think the overall family dynamic would be easier when the twins are b/g twins. Same sex twins, this seems more complicated. So if your 3rd is a boy, he has a brother bond and if it's a girl, a sister bond. It's not the same as a twin bond, but can be. Also, all your kids would be similar genetically (meaning, no one is identical).

I think this dynamic is harder with same sex twins, and even more difficult with a set of identical twins. Of course that doesn't mean IMPOSSIBLE, just a few more degrees of challenging.

Now, would you have wanted 3 if they were all born at different times?

If I'd had twins, I would have stopped. If you are paying for 2 kid in daycare at the same time and still want another, go for it .