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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do. My friends never want to talk about weight, clothing sizes, shoe sizes or random other helpful information. Sometimes I just want to vent to someone on something personal and they are incredibly against discussing many topics so I refrain from many discussions. For gifts, they don’t like to be given clothing or shoes or anything personal, so I struggle there as well.

Talking about weight and clothing sizes? Shoes for gifts? Huh?

I just want a friend I can talk to anything about. If I lose 5lbs (I am currently obese) to just be able to tell them or if I find an outfit that I think would be perfect for them to pick it up and send it to them as a surprise.

Don’t do that.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do. My friends never want to talk about weight, clothing sizes, shoe sizes or random other helpful information. Sometimes I just want to vent to someone on something personal and they are incredibly against discussing many topics so I refrain from many discussions. For gifts, they don’t like to be given clothing or shoes or anything personal, so I struggle there as well.

Talking about weight and clothing sizes? Shoes for gifts? Huh?

I just want a friend I can talk to anything about. If I lose 5lbs (I am currently obese) to just be able to tell them or if I find an outfit that I think would be perfect for them to pick it up and send it to them as a surprise.

Anonymous wrote:I do. My friends never want to talk about weight, clothing sizes, shoe sizes or random other helpful information. Sometimes I just want to vent to someone on something personal and they are incredibly against discussing many topics so I refrain from many discussions. For gifts, they don’t like to be given clothing or shoes or anything personal, so I struggle there as well.

Talking about weight and clothing sizes? Shoes for gifts? Huh?

I do. My friends never want to talk about weight, clothing sizes, shoe sizes or random other helpful information. Sometimes I just want to vent to someone on something personal and they are incredibly against discussing many topics so I refrain from many discussions. For gifts, they don’t like to be given clothing or shoes or anything personal, so I struggle there as well.

Anonymous wrote:I pretty much dislike everyone, all the time now.

Blame trump. He created this.

Me too. Also blame the pandemic.

My friends annoy me more as I've aged. Either their bad traits are worse or I'm less tolerate. Maybe both.

Anonymous wrote:I have friends that get on my nerves at times or they have personality traits that I dislike, but I still socialize with them. Sometimes I don't even like them, but I can have fun with them doing an activity every few weeks. Is that par for the course? Do you sometimes dislike things about your friends but hang with them anyways? Do I need better friends?

I think this is a symptom of aging. As I get older I have less tolerance for things that in the past didn't really annoy me that much. One of my close friends annoys the heck out of me at least once a week, but I love her dearly and would never not be friends with her. I'm sure she's also annoyed by me at times too. NBD.

Anonymous wrote:I pretty much dislike everyone, all the time now.

Blame trump. He created this.

What does Trump have to do do with liking your friends!?

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely! I’ve especially had a hard time with them the past 18 months or so. My mom died last year and I made a major career change around the same time. I went through so much and have changed so much that it can be difficult to relate to them. They can be incredibly immature at times. I don’t want to listen to them complain about a TV show not being on or the shoes they want being too expensive when I had to watch my mom die from cancer at age 60. Most of them don’t work at all or have very part-time jobs, so they don’t get that I don’t want to talk on the phone at 10:00 at night or can’t make to lunch on a Thursday. Additionally, there is so much going on in this country and in the world but all they can talk about is Masked Singer and comic books. Grow up, already!

You aren’t the only one with issues. I lost my husband recently. It was a shock. I don’t expect my friends to stop being themselves because my life sucks.

Yes, especially as we age and move to different stages of life. I have a friend who was the most critical of parents before she had kids. She would talk crap about women who didnt work with nannies, about pacifiers, about sucking t humbs, about lazy parenting, about anything.
Then she had a kid. And suddenly she is staying at home with a full time nanny. And ordering pre made baby food even though she is at home all day.

It is getting grating, honestly. All the things she was so critical of...she has become...and more.

I love my friends, but each of them has personality traits that I find annoying. I also have many weird traits that I am sure annoy people.

I will say I don't ever dislike them.

But sure, I can get annoyed or irritated by them. Usually a mixture of my mood and their personality traits.

Yes but usually it turns out to just be that I am irritable. If a friend has a personality trait I just don't like, I'd try to minimize my interactions so that I didn't encounter that side of her or at least not as much. And if there is a dynamic between us that I didn't like (say she has a habit of always giving me advice even when I don't ask for it) then I will try to address it ("not looking for advice today -- I'll let you know if I need it") and if it still doesn't change, I'll fade out.

This was something I didn't get when I was younger. I don't have to be friends with anyone. If I don't really like someone or I don't enjoy my time with them, I just don't spend time with them. Easy.

But despite this, I still get annoyed with my friends sometimes. But I'll just take a break for a bit and then when I come back I realize that the issue was just me. Like I have a friend who occasionally gets on my nerves because he'd very argumentative. But then I take a break and come back and realize I actually LIKE that he enjoys arguing (he's not a jerk about it, he enjoys friendly discussion) and is passionate about things. I just have to be in the right headspace for it.

Yup. Same for me.

Of course. If you’re expecting to never be annoyed by something you probably wont have any friends. Having similar values and having fun together are important, if you have that it’s worth it. Shrugging off minor annoyances are part of life and friendship