Anonymous
Post 07/05/2022 22:32     Subject: What's a good salary for a man in this area?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Given all this talk of men and salaries... what should a man be making in his 30s to be considered marriage material by women?


I would say $200K is the new $100K, would not date anyone who made less. Life is just too expensive. Also, it's a little less than I earn and I consider myself pretty feeble so a man earning less must have some serious issues unless involved in a high-prestige or high-creativity low-paying career, like basically science research/professional musician/published writer/working artist.

That said, a guy who is successful in one of these lesser-paid areas who is willing to shoulder more burden at home and is nice, fun/funny, brings an interesting life & social circle to the table, and is a good partner could also be appealing. Between the two of us $350+ is a nice lifestyle with the right person and 1-2 children.


And exactly what do you bring to the relationship other than sex?



Lets re-phrase it: what men who make $200K (just like the lady above) bring into relationship other than sex?
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2022 22:12     Subject: What's a good salary for a man in this area?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Given all this talk of men and salaries... what should a man be making in his 30s to be considered marriage material by women?


I would say $200K is the new $100K, would not date anyone who made less. Life is just too expensive. Also, it's a little less than I earn and I consider myself pretty feeble so a man earning less must have some serious issues unless involved in a high-prestige or high-creativity low-paying career, like basically science research/professional musician/published writer/working artist.

That said, a guy who is successful in one of these lesser-paid areas who is willing to shoulder more burden at home and is nice, fun/funny, brings an interesting life & social circle to the table, and is a good partner could also be appealing. Between the two of us $350+ is a nice lifestyle with the right person and 1-2 children.


And exactly what do you bring to the relationship other than sex?
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2022 22:03     Subject: What's a good salary for a man in this area?
I don’t understand why it’s so bad to want a spouse with significant earning potential. I want a spouse that’s taller than me, is that bad too? My spouse should also be the same religion as me.

Money makes life much easier. Why make life harder than it has to be?

Men can say they want a pretty spouse—is that wrong? What about when they say they want her not to be fat or enthusiastic in bed?

Everyone has preferences. It’s okay to know what you want.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2022 21:51     Subject: What's a good salary for a man in this area?
This stupid thread again. Marriage material for whom?

If you want to have a SAHP one of you needs to make about $250-$300k in the DC area. So a man could make $0 if he’s got good house-husband qualifications and a wife with drive.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2022 20:47     Subject: Re:What's a good salary for a man in this area?
Look, money can't buy me love, but love can't buy me groceries and gas either. The biggest issues in troubled marriages is money. More is better than less.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2022 20:46     Subject: What's a good salary for a man in this area?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Given all this talk of men and salaries... what should a man be making in his 30s to be considered marriage material by women?


I would say $200K is the new $100K, would not date anyone who made less. Life is just too expensive. Also, it's a little less than I earn and I consider myself pretty feeble so a man earning less must have some serious issues unless involved in a high-prestige or high-creativity low-paying career, like basically science research/professional musician/published writer/working artist.

That said, a guy who is successful in one of these lesser-paid areas who is willing to shoulder more burden at home and is nice, fun/funny, brings an interesting life & social circle to the table, and is a good partner could also be appealing. Between the two of us $350+ is a nice lifestyle with the right person and 1-2 children.


Lol you sound absolutely miserable to be around. The amount of single men making 200k is so small that you are limiting your dating pool to maybe 1% of the the entire US population. I guarantee you are not a 1% catch either.

I am so happy I moved out of DC years ago to get away from people like this.



I'm the above poster and I wasn't really referring to someone who is 30 or 32. When my DH was that age we both made $75K. But but late 30s you should be looking at $180K or above, and in your 40s $200K and above ideally.


If you work in the government - which is a great, secure job with a lot of benefits - it’s unlikely you’ll ever make $200k plus. But two GS-15s or equivalent making $300k still have a very good QOL in this area and are doing better than the vast majority of Americans.

I can’t believe the kind of stuff i read on here sometimes!



The big selling point for Feds is the pension and lifelong healthcare. If they work long enough to get it. And the stability. But it's a big tradeoff for no geographic mobility, staying in a HCOL area, and having a salary cap. This is as close as you can get these days to being a 1950s "company man."
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2022 20:35     Subject: What's a good salary for a man in this area?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Given all this talk of men and salaries... what should a man be making in his 30s to be considered marriage material by women?


I would say $200K is the new $100K, would not date anyone who made less. Life is just too expensive. Also, it's a little less than I earn and I consider myself pretty feeble so a man earning less must have some serious issues unless involved in a high-prestige or high-creativity low-paying career, like basically science research/professional musician/published writer/working artist.

That said, a guy who is successful in one of these lesser-paid areas who is willing to shoulder more burden at home and is nice, fun/funny, brings an interesting life & social circle to the table, and is a good partner could also be appealing. Between the two of us $350+ is a nice lifestyle with the right person and 1-2 children.


Lol you sound absolutely miserable to be around. The amount of single men making 200k is so small that you are limiting your dating pool to maybe 1% of the the entire US population. I guarantee you are not a 1% catch either.

I am so happy I moved out of DC years ago to get away from people like this.


I'm the above poster and I wasn't really referring to someone who is 30 or 32. When my DH was that age we both made $75K. But but late 30s you should be looking at $180K or above, and in your 40s $200K and above ideally.


If you work in the government - which is a great, secure job with a lot of benefits - it’s unlikely you’ll ever make $200k plus. But two GS-15s or equivalent making $300k still have a very good QOL in this area and are doing better than the vast majority of Americans.

I can’t believe the kind of stuff i read on here sometimes!


And, civil servants may well have more remunerative and secure retirements, if their private sector counterparts failed to save and invest sufficiently from their higher working career cash flow.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2022 20:26     Subject: What's a good salary for a man in this area?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Given all this talk of men and salaries... what should a man be making in his 30s to be considered marriage material by women?


I would say $200K is the new $100K, would not date anyone who made less. Life is just too expensive. Also, it's a little less than I earn and I consider myself pretty feeble so a man earning less must have some serious issues unless involved in a high-prestige or high-creativity low-paying career, like basically science research/professional musician/published writer/working artist.

That said, a guy who is successful in one of these lesser-paid areas who is willing to shoulder more burden at home and is nice, fun/funny, brings an interesting life & social circle to the table, and is a good partner could also be appealing. Between the two of us $350+ is a nice lifestyle with the right person and 1-2 children.


Lol you sound absolutely miserable to be around. The amount of single men making 200k is so small that you are limiting your dating pool to maybe 1% of the the entire US population. I guarantee you are not a 1% catch either.

I am so happy I moved out of DC years ago to get away from people like this.


I'm the above poster and I wasn't really referring to someone who is 30 or 32. When my DH was that age we both made $75K. But but late 30s you should be looking at $180K or above, and in your 40s $200K and above ideally.


If you work in the government - which is a great, secure job with a lot of benefits - it’s unlikely you’ll ever make $200k plus. But two GS-15s or equivalent making $300k still have a very good QOL in this area and are doing better than the vast majority of Americans.

I can’t believe the kind of stuff i read on here sometimes!
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2022 20:21     Subject: What's a good salary for a man in this area?
Anonymous wrote:I’m a type A personality. I want to be with someone who is driven to succeed. Like it or not, the measure of success is financial in the country.

I’m always trying to improve at work and am looking at what it takes to get to the next level. I don’t think I would be happy with a beta personality. So my answer is if I can earn $200k, why can’t he?


This is so short-sighted. To give you a real-life example: I make more than my spouse, but he spent many years in the military (getting two degrees along the way) so hasn’t had nearly as much time in the corporate world as I have. I just took a more traditional path. On the other hand, his service will give us some retirement benefits, healthcare for life, etc. and that peace of mind is worth a lot.

Making someone out to be a dollar amount is so demeaning. I’d rather have a good partner who makes $100k than a crappy one who makes a million.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2022 20:20     Subject: What's a good salary for a man in this area?
Anonymous wrote:I’m a type A personality. I want to be with someone who is driven to succeed. Like it or not, the measure of success is financial in the country.

I’m always trying to improve at work and am looking at what it takes to get to the next level. I don’t think I would be happy with a beta personality. So my answer is if I can earn $200k, why can’t he?


Date/marry someone who is a doer/has drive toward something that matters. The money will follow.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2022 20:17     Subject: What's a good salary for a man in this area?
Anonymous wrote:I’m a type A personality. I want to be with someone who is driven to succeed. Like it or not, the measure of success is financial in the country.

I’m always trying to improve at work and am looking at what it takes to get to the next level. I don’t think I would be happy with a beta personality. So my answer is if I can earn $200k, why can’t he?


You've just excluded almost everyone in public service of any kind. Just as well, since your highest personal value is evidently avarice.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2022 20:08     Subject: What's a good salary for a man in this area?
Anonymous wrote:I’m a type A personality. I want to be with someone who is driven to succeed. Like it or not, the measure of success is financial in the country.

I’m always trying to improve at work and am looking at what it takes to get to the next level. I don’t think I would be happy with a beta personality. So my answer is if I can earn $200k, why can’t he?


You sound like someone I would actively avoid and I make 450k
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2022 19:58     Subject: What's a good salary for a man in this area?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Given all this talk of men and salaries... what should a man be making in his 30s to be considered marriage material by women?


I would say $200K is the new $100K, would not date anyone who made less. Life is just too expensive. Also, it's a little less than I earn and I consider myself pretty feeble so a man earning less must have some serious issues unless involved in a high-prestige or high-creativity low-paying career, like basically science research/professional musician/published writer/working artist.

That said, a guy who is successful in one of these lesser-paid areas who is willing to shoulder more burden at home and is nice, fun/funny, brings an interesting life & social circle to the table, and is a good partner could also be appealing. Between the two of us $350+ is a nice lifestyle with the right person and 1-2 children.


Lol you sound absolutely miserable to be around. The amount of single men making 200k is so small that you are limiting your dating pool to maybe 1% of the the entire US population. I guarantee you are not a 1% catch either.

I am so happy I moved out of DC years ago to get away from people like this.


I'm the above poster and I wasn't really referring to someone who is 30 or 32. When my DH was that age we both made $75K. But but late 30s you should be looking at $180K or above, and in your 40s $200K and above ideally.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2022 19:42     Subject: Re:What's a good salary for a man in this area?
“I Don’t Need No Man But Only A Rich One Will Do.” 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2022 19:39     Subject: What's a good salary for a man in this area?
Salary alone is probably $80k by 28, $100 by 30 and $150+ bonus and upside by 35 or the family size and opportunities are limited

What other assets does he have? Condo/Starter home? Investments from when he was younger and living the lean life?