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Anonymous wrote:This is the kind of thing insecure stay at home moms say. Just ignore. Go take a look at your retirement account, you’ll feel better.

She never said the friend was a mother herself. Who's insecure exactly?

+1 😂

Sounds sarcastic to me. Does the pregnant friend tend to throw herself into things and then post about them on instagram?

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Anonymous wrote: I think you do need to stay at home in order to be “the best mom ever.” That being said, you can be a pretty good mom without staying at home. I’m not sure that it’s worth giving up your entire adult life in order to be “the best mom.”

My mom was 100x better as a WOHM than a SAHM.

Same here. My mom needed to work for the sake of her mental health and went back to work when I was three months old. She told me that she would have been miserable as a SAHM and that is bad for both the kids and the mom.

Yea she sounds like a real peach. Couldn't even last three months . . .

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Anonymous wrote: I think you do need to stay at home in order to be “the best mom ever.” That being said, you can be a pretty good mom without staying at home. I’m not sure that it’s worth giving up your entire adult life in order to be “the best mom.”

My mom was 100x better as a WOHM than a SAHM.

Same here. My mom needed to work for the sake of her mental health and went back to work when I was three months old. She told me that she would have been miserable as a SAHM and that is bad for both the kids and the mom.

The best moms don’t always stay at home. Neither do the best dads.

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Anonymous wrote: I think you do need to stay at home in order to be “the best mom ever.” That being said, you can be a pretty good mom without staying at home. I’m not sure that it’s worth giving up your entire adult life in order to be “the best mom.”

Laughable comment.

I would be a better mom if I devoted another fifty hours a week to making sure all of my kids’ needs were met. How could I not be?
But I’m still a pretty good mom, and my kids are fine. I’m not going to ignore my own needs and the needs of everyone else in my community in order to devote myself to them completely. I get that some people want to do that, and I’m sure that their kids benefit from it, but it’s not me.
My kids have a stable family, educated parents, good schools, white skin, and penises. If that’s not enough, that’s on them.

Anonymous wrote:Said a friend in reference to another friend of ours who is pregnant. I was shocked and hurt at the assertion that in order to be the "best mom ever" you need to stay home?
Is this a common line of thought?

Don’t you think it depends on your options? Not everyone can find (or afford!) a stable, competent, and loving nanny.

Anonymous wrote: I think you do need to stay at home in order to be “the best mom ever.” That being said, you can be a pretty good mom without staying at home. I’m not sure that it’s worth giving up your entire adult life in order to be “the best mom.”

My mom was 100x better as a WOHM than a SAHM.

I think you're taking this too personally. I have a friend who stayed home and she's SO GOOD AT IT. Like, she organizes neighborhood SAHM's to go on educational outings and her kids get 5k outside hours a year and she seems to be happy every minute of the day. When I had a kid she sent me the most insane spreadsheet of stuff to do for free/cheap in the area, where to breastfeed at the Zoo, where to find restrooms in a hurry near parks - it was amazing. She stayed home and is the best mom ever.

I work all the time and my kid lights up like a Times Square billboard when she sees me and we have so much fun together and she's kind and curious and perfectly attached. My SAHM friend being the best mom ever doesn't impact my momhood or shortchange my kid. Plus if I stayed home I wouldn't do one-tenth of that stuff and DD and I would probably end up quoting Bluey at each other instead of forest schooling through Rock Creek Park.

Anonymous wrote: I think you do need to stay at home in order to be “the best mom ever.” That being said, you can be a pretty good mom without staying at home. I’m not sure that it’s worth giving up your entire adult life in order to be “the best mom.”

Laughable comment.

Anonymous wrote:This is the kind of thing insecure stay at home moms say. Just ignore. Go take a look at your retirement account, you’ll feel better.

She never said the friend was a mother herself. Who's insecure exactly?

I told my mother repeatedly before she passed away I was so happy I had a stay at home mom (until we were teens). As a feminist and mom who has alwys worked I realized the irony of my statement. But it was true and I wanted her to know.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she was being sarcastic

That was my first thought.

So she said something stupid. Give it time.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she was being sarcastic

That is my take -sahm