Listen to your body and take the time you need. We are not robots. Having a c section is major surgery. You have an infant at home and no one is sleeping. Take the time you need if time is what you need. If you want more pelvic support etc… I agree with seeing pelvic specialist. Acupuncture and post c section massage could also help. I did not feel fully up for sex until 11 months after a c section. I am NOT saying this is normal and I am not advocating that people wait that long. I had a hard a long post c section recovery. But I do think it’s ridiculous to pop a woman through a 6 week check up and then just give them the a-okay to resume all activities like they didn’t just have major surgery and aren’t taking care of a whole new human.

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Anonymous wrote:I would get a pelvic floor workup, and I would get better lube.

Who gets a pelvic floor work up before having sex ? So odd.

Someone who is worried about painful sex postpartum?

Lordy, can we just let the women heal from the physical trauma before forcing more penetration with lube and what not? If you need that much help (wine, drugs, lube, ice packs), isn't nature telling you it's too soon?

It's not just down there, but if you are breast feeding, don't be surprised if you unexpectedly want to slap him when he touches you. Honestly, you are not yourself yet. Good luck! lol!

You’re still really early postpartum. I had horrible tearing (pelvic floor muscles and also inside of my vagina - the side walls, one of my labia, and second degree) and fractured my tailbone during delivery. I could not have sex for 7 months and when we did, it was horribly painful. I spent years in pelvic PT and had a scheduled C section for my next delivery. It’s now been years for me since my first delivery and I still have pain sometimes with sex and pain sitting. Wish I had just had two scheduled C sections and never delivered vaginally. I also can’t wear tampons anymore. Sucks. Don’t rush it one bit. I was also super dry because of nursing so try a lubricant like Replens before and a water based lube during sex. Pre seed sucks and is not what you want to use right now.

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Anonymous wrote:I did vaginal births and everything bounced back to normal very easily. I also ended up being able to have organisms way more quickly. Apparently has to do with more blood flow down there. Just throwing this in in case anyone thinks vaginal births permanently change things down there for everyone. I think it varies. I also breastfed and it definitely shrinks the uterus.

That's so interesting, truly. First time I have ever heard a positive physical result from childbirth.

This happened to me, as well! I wasn't sure of the reason, but since my second kid mine my have been much stronger and easier to achieve.

I waited 11 weeks after my first, traumatic c-section. Even then it was uncomfortable, I was still very emotional, and it just wasn't great. With my second and third births (one VBAC and another CS) we had sex sooner and it was fine.

Also if you're breastfeeding, just be aware that some women leak when aroused. I didn't, but I had an aversion to DH going anywhere near my chest while I was BFing!

Anonymous wrote:I would get a pelvic floor workup, and I would get better lube.

Who gets a pelvic floor work up before having sex ? So odd.

I would get a pelvic floor workup, and I would get better lube.

Anonymous wrote:I did vaginal births and everything bounced back to normal very easily. I also ended up being able to have organisms way more quickly. Apparently has to do with more blood flow down there. Just throwing this in in case anyone thinks vaginal births permanently change things down there for everyone. I think it varies. I also breastfed and it definitely shrinks the uterus.

That's so interesting, truly. First time I have ever heard a positive physical result from childbirth.

Anonymous wrote:The low estrogen from breastfeeding is why you will be dry so definitely use lube!

This.

I did vaginal births and everything bounced back to normal very easily. I also ended up being able to have organisms way more quickly. Apparently has to do with more blood flow down there. Just throwing this in in case anyone thinks vaginal births permanently change things down there for everyone. I think it varies. I also breastfed and it definitely shrinks the uterus.

The low estrogen from breastfeeding is why you will be dry so definitely use lube!

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Anonymous wrote:I had a C but sex was painful until I stopped breastfeeding. Things just felt too dry and tight, even with lube. Maybe that’s just me and my hormones.

Op here: I’m exclusively breastfeeding, I didn’t even think about that! My best friend had a c section and she said her and her husband had sex 4 weeks PP and it was fine for her so I had high hopes for myself! Definitely going to get some lube just incase. My husband and I haven’t been intimate since March so it’s way over due.

If it is on your mind I have a feeling your hormones are on your side.

I thought I might have problems. Had a repeat C with a known isthmocele (poor healing of the first C).

I couldn't tell I'd had a C section at all.

Try solo first.

Why not do non penetration activities?