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Anonymous wrote:Op, your post makes so sense

What don’t you understand? My oldest brother stole the money my mom left for my younger/middle brother, so he would be able to start his life over after spending so many years caring for her.

People don’t understand because you did not use names( make them up) so we do not fully understand who did what.Confusing.

OP, your brother is very lucky to have you on his side. Keep looking out for him. He'll climb out of his depression and be in a better place financially with your help. He seems like a good, decent person. So do you. And karma will come for your a$$ of an oldest brother.

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Anonymous wrote:Is there something wrong with middle brother? How was he so easily taken advantage of?

He just isn’t sophisticated. He trusts easily. He spent time with and cared for my mom, which was always his strongest talent. My oldest brother made up some story about how it would be a loan etc. It’s not a loan. He spent all of it and had no plans to pay him back.

Come on, most people are so easily duped. Something else is going on with your brother.

He has barely a high school education if that’s what you’re getting at. We were raised dirt poor. Not DCUM poor. Like food stamps and housing projects poor. I made it “out” because I always excelled academically and was super focused and didn’t want to live in the hood the rest of my life. My brother didn’t have the same drive, so he got stuck. As a result, he’s spent most of his life around people who DCUM people try very hard to avoid.

I think the best thing you can do, if possible, is take your middle brother in. Let him live with you for a set amount of time and help him find a decent job. It also sounds like you need to help him learn some life lessons.

Yes, I can do this and it’s what I’m planning to do. I flew him here to visit w/me and my kids. While he’s here we are going to work on his resume and look at some possible jobs together and I’ll help him apply and prep him for some interviews should he get any. I’ve talked to him about the importance of sticking up for himself and telling people no — even with his own brother. I’ll keep talking to him. It’s weird because I’m the youngest, but it’s always felt like I’m so much older than him. He was crying because he said he messed up and shouldn’t have given the money away, but didn’t know what to do/how to say no.

Anonymous wrote:So you as a lawyer left your poorly educated, unsophisticated brother to manage his money all on his own? What does he do that he makes good money but has no business sense to avoid predatory financial moves?

You don’t know how hard I tried to “control” the money and how much resistance I was met with. I even tried to challenge the insurance payout so that I would have greater control, but wasn’t successful. Now my younger brother has apologized and said he wished he had listened to me and allowed me to help him. And he doesn’t make good money. That’s the point. This money from my mom was his only nest egg. He had frankly never had that much money in his life, so I knew it would be a disaster. I didn’t anticipate my oldest brother pressuring him to hand the money over to him though. I thought he would just be irresponsible with it.

So you as a lawyer left your poorly educated, unsophisticated brother to manage his money all on his own? What does he do that he makes good money but has no business sense to avoid predatory financial moves?

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Anonymous wrote:Is there something wrong with middle brother? How was he so easily taken advantage of?

He just isn’t sophisticated. He trusts easily. He spent time with and cared for my mom, which was always his strongest talent. My oldest brother made up some story about how it would be a loan etc. It’s not a loan. He spent all of it and had no plans to pay him back.

Come on, most people are so easily duped. Something else is going on with your brother.

He has barely a high school education if that’s what you’re getting at. We were raised dirt poor. Not DCUM poor. Like food stamps and housing projects poor. I made it “out” because I always excelled academically and was super focused and didn’t want to live in the hood the rest of my life. My brother didn’t have the same drive, so he got stuck. As a result, he’s spent most of his life around people who DCUM people try very hard to avoid.

I think the best thing you can do, if possible, is take your middle brother in. Let him live with you for a set amount of time and help him find a decent job. It also sounds like you need to help him learn some life lessons.

Hire some local capo to break the older brother's knees.

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Anonymous wrote:Is there something wrong with middle brother? How was he so easily taken advantage of?

He just isn’t sophisticated. He trusts easily. He spent time with and cared for my mom, which was always his strongest talent. My oldest brother made up some story about how it would be a loan etc. It’s not a loan. He spent all of it and had no plans to pay him back.

Come on, most people are so easily duped. Something else is going on with your brother.

^ are NOT so easily duped.

Eh. My oldest BIL is a experienced pharmacist with a non-negligible amount of brains, and he's been swindled multiple times in his life, by contractors and once, by a professional colleague with whom he co-owned a pharmacy. He's also GIVEN away money to friends and acquaintances when they asked. Like OP's younger brother, he's a people-pleaser and finds it hard to say no.

Ok. Most people are not easily duped, some are. The ones who are duped are soon parted with their money.

PP you replied to. Absolutely. And he only keeps getting swindled because he makes good money and people still coax him out of it. It makes my husband go batshit crazy. I try to keep out of it - I know my dear BIL is not going to change...

Anonymous wrote:I am a lawyer who happens to be licensed in the jurisdiction where the older brother currently lives. I am contacting other lawyer friends there to help me file suit against him. I’m just so disgusted and angry.

Good!

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Anonymous wrote:Is there something wrong with middle brother? How was he so easily taken advantage of?

He just isn’t sophisticated. He trusts easily. He spent time with and cared for my mom, which was always his strongest talent. My oldest brother made up some story about how it would be a loan etc. It’s not a loan. He spent all of it and had no plans to pay him back.

Come on, most people are so easily duped. Something else is going on with your brother.

He has barely a high school education if that’s what you’re getting at. We were raised dirt poor. Not DCUM poor. Like food stamps and housing projects poor. I made it “out” because I always excelled academically and was super focused and didn’t want to live in the hood the rest of my life. My brother didn’t have the same drive, so he got stuck. As a result, he’s spent most of his life around people who DCUM people try very hard to avoid.

So start a Go Fund Me to help him out.

I don’t need to do that. I will help him/am helping him. It’s more the principle. The idea that his own brother could do this to him.

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Anonymous wrote:Is there something wrong with middle brother? How was he so easily taken advantage of?

He just isn’t sophisticated. He trusts easily. He spent time with and cared for my mom, which was always his strongest talent. My oldest brother made up some story about how it would be a loan etc. It’s not a loan. He spent all of it and had no plans to pay him back.

Come on, most people are so easily duped. Something else is going on with your brother.

He has barely a high school education if that’s what you’re getting at. We were raised dirt poor. Not DCUM poor. Like food stamps and housing projects poor. I made it “out” because I always excelled academically and was super focused and didn’t want to live in the hood the rest of my life. My brother didn’t have the same drive, so he got stuck. As a result, he’s spent most of his life around people who DCUM people try very hard to avoid.

So start a Go Fund Me to help him out.

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Anonymous wrote:Is there something wrong with middle brother? How was he so easily taken advantage of?

He just isn’t sophisticated. He trusts easily. He spent time with and cared for my mom, which was always his strongest talent. My oldest brother made up some story about how it would be a loan etc. It’s not a loan. He spent all of it and had no plans to pay him back.

Come on, most people are so easily duped. Something else is going on with your brother.

^ are NOT so easily duped.

Eh. My oldest BIL is a experienced pharmacist with a non-negligible amount of brains, and he's been swindled multiple times in his life, by contractors and once, by a professional colleague with whom he co-owned a pharmacy. He's also GIVEN away money to friends and acquaintances when they asked. Like OP's younger brother, he's a people-pleaser and finds it hard to say no.

Ok. Most people are not easily duped, some are. The ones who are duped are soon parted with their money.

I agree that a suit would likely not prevail, but really anything to scare my oldest brother into paying some of the money back is more what I’m after. I’m just angry. My brother said he wanted to call me sooner to tell me, but he was embarrassed that he let someone take advantage of him.

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Anonymous wrote:Is there something wrong with middle brother? How was he so easily taken advantage of?

He just isn’t sophisticated. He trusts easily. He spent time with and cared for my mom, which was always his strongest talent. My oldest brother made up some story about how it would be a loan etc. It’s not a loan. He spent all of it and had no plans to pay him back.

Come on, most people are so easily duped. Something else is going on with your brother.

^ are NOT so easily duped.

Eh. My oldest BIL is a experienced pharmacist with a non-negligible amount of brains, and he's been swindled multiple times in his life, by contractors and once, by a professional colleague with whom he co-owned a pharmacy. He's also GIVEN away money to friends and acquaintances when they asked. Like OP's younger brother, he's a people-pleaser and finds it hard to say no.

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Anonymous wrote:Is there something wrong with middle brother? How was he so easily taken advantage of?

He just isn’t sophisticated. He trusts easily. He spent time with and cared for my mom, which was always his strongest talent. My oldest brother made up some story about how it would be a loan etc. It’s not a loan. He spent all of it and had no plans to pay him back.

Come on, most people are so easily duped. Something else is going on with your brother.

He has barely a high school education if that’s what you’re getting at. We were raised dirt poor. Not DCUM poor. Like food stamps and housing projects poor. I made it “out” because I always excelled academically and was super focused and didn’t want to live in the hood the rest of my life. My brother didn’t have the same drive, so he got stuck. As a result, he’s spent most of his life around people who DCUM people try very hard to avoid.