*not wanting to look too much older

I think having a younger husband is a flex. Women I know who have one (my DH is two years younger than me and I'm including myself) so make an extra effort to stay fit and healthy and slim, and I wonder if has something to do with not wanting to look too much younger.... But staying healthy is a great thing for the women so it's kind of a win for everyone.

Anonymous wrote:DH is 3.5 years younger. I look younger. Intellectually we are equals.

PS we joke all the time about it. Why wouldn’t you?

DH is 3.5 years younger. I look younger. Intellectually we are equals.

Anonymous wrote:Do you see any issues with a long-term relationship/marriage when the woman is a few years (e.g., 3) older than the man? For example she is 42 and he is 39.

I am in this situation now (we're both divorced with similar age kids), and I see potential for a long relationship, although he has made a few jokes about me being older and maybe I'm slightly self-conscious about it.

First of all, he sounds like an ass for joking about it. 3 year gap is nothing. If it were other way around, would he joke that he’s robbing the cradle? Probably not; keep you eyes and options open.

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Anonymous wrote:3 of my sisters are married to younger men. One is 3 years younger, one is 4 years younger and one is 10 years younger. These are long term relationships and my sisters are in their 50's. When you love someone, age is just a number. My dh's bday is one month before mine. We are the same age but, for that month, I call him a cradle robber. Sounds like your guy is joking around. 3 years isn't a huge difference.

OP: that's great to hear. Did they all meet their husbands in 20s/30s, or later? I guess I worry about aging, like if he will look younger than me, or want to go for a younger woman, but that is my own issue.

I think you need some therapy. How could anyone tell that he looks 3 years younger than you? I have friends who are 5 years younger than me but look 10 years older.

People here are oddly obsessed with age. I don’t even know how old the guy I’m seeing is. I assume around my age. Who cares?

This is such a stupid question, no, of course 2-3 years doesn't matter. I'm two years older than my husband, has never been an issue. It's probably a good thing because women tend to live 2-3 years longer than men on average.

Older women who are high 8-10 can pull this off but they end up staying in shape and getting things to look like super models to make sure their slightly you get men don't stray

What a silly question. I’m sure you wouldn’t think twice if you were dating someone ten years your senior.

Pp here. Also, you mentioned concerns about younger women. I know a handful of men who left their spouses for younger women, and in every case, the wife was already younger than him. That kind of thing is more related to your particular relationship and the strength of it than your age. People don’t leave a good relationship simply because they find someone younger, they have a bad relationship and they have the opportunity to be with someone younger and they take it. It’s not just about a number.

I know so many couples like this, and many long-term couples in my extended family like this. Three years is nothing.

My ex-h and I are 4 years apart. We were together 20+ years. Our reason for divorce was non-age related.

Anonymous wrote:Best guy I dated was 2 years younger than me, will go up to 4 years younger. Though I do wonder like a previous poster what would happen if I marry younger, go through menopause and have little interest in sex, how that would end up.

The whole menopause = little interest in sex is a huge myth. Huge.

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OP: that's great to hear. Did they all meet their husbands in 20s/30s, or later? I guess I worry about aging, like if he will look younger than me, or want to go for a younger woman, but that is my own issue.

Wow, you are incredibly insecure. I bet you're a blast.