Anonymous wrote:Doggie daycare

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Anonymous wrote:She just brought the dog into your house without asking you? She either needs to find a new permanent home for the dog or board it. I don’t know of many nanny employers who would be okay with having a barking, scratching dog in their home.

She asked us and said it was a very temporary solution
But it’s been a month and she really has no options
She doesn’t want to leave but the dog can’t stay

What about giving her one more month - or three more weeks - to find a solution. Work with a trainer to get the dog to bark less and pee not on the floor, or find the dog a new home. Just realistically, it is going to be hard to find this dog a home. I'm sure your nanny knows that. This has got to be awful for her, as it is for you, too. But maybe she has a friend who will keep the dog - she could even pay a friend to keep the dog. Just, try to work with her so the dog isn't in a shelter. Old pets don't belong in shelters. It's summer, shelters are full. If she is going to euthanize the dog because there is nowhere for him to live, then it would be kinder to have a vet do it and not outsource that to a shelter.

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Anonymous wrote:She just brought the dog into your house without asking you? She either needs to find a new permanent home for the dog or board it. I don’t know of many nanny employers who would be okay with having a barking, scratching dog in their home.

She asked us and said it was a very temporary solution
But it’s been a month and she really has no options
She doesn’t want to leave but the dog can’t stay

Anonymous wrote:She just brought the dog into your house without asking you? She either needs to find a new permanent home for the dog or board it. I don’t know of many nanny employers who would be okay with having a barking, scratching dog in their home.

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to re-home the dog. Part of her employment is housing, but she knew the dog was not welcome when she accepted the job or got the dog. This is why it wasn’t living with her before. It sounds like you tried to make it work, but it’s disruptive to your husband’s job - the job that pays her salary.

It sounds like it is distracting her from her duties during the work day.

Yes it is distracting her, plus she’s upset because of the break up
We all appreciate her but we can’t afford to pay her anymore
She studies a few evenings a week and between paying for her education and sending money to her family she can’t afford to live in our city, which is where she goes to school

Then the cost of a dog, especially an elderly one, is more than she can afford. It sucks for her, but it was a risk she took when she accepted a live-in position knowing she had a dog. I know I am being harsh, but she is an employee. This is not your problem to solve for her and she needs to do her job or you can find a new nanny.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, pay your nanny enough so that she can get her own apartment.

It's perfectly legit to include an en suite apartment as part of a compensation package. OP is not cheap to do so.

Anonymous wrote:Barking habits when a dog feels isolated is bad for their vocal chords and psychological state. When my teen dog started to bark when he was left alone, we got an electronic dog collar that gives a little zap when the dog barks - I tried it on myself first, and it didn't hurt, but make sure you calibrate it at a low setting. It took two barks for him to stop barking. He hasn't barked since when left alone, and is left alone only rarely since one of us is usually always home. He occasional barks when we're here, usually when someone is at the door, or he senses a fox at night, and of course that's all right, we don't mind - it's "normal" barking.

You have more than a barking problem, however. It's cruel to leave a dog all day in one room without interacting with anyone. The dog will not be well-behaved when let out, because he will have pent-up mental and physical energy.

If you can tolerate it and the dog doesn't get into things, it's best that the dog be allowed to roam part of the house where there are people. Right now, you're probably not seeing their good side, because isolation is making them act out.

If you can't take it anymore, then you should discuss rehoming.

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to re-home the dog. Part of her employment is housing, but she knew the dog was not welcome when she accepted the job or got the dog. This is why it wasn’t living with her before. It sounds like you tried to make it work, but it’s disruptive to your husband’s job - the job that pays her salary.

It sounds like it is distracting her from her duties during the work day.

Yes it is distracting her, plus she’s upset because of the break up
We all appreciate her but we can’t afford to pay her anymore
She studies a few evenings a week and between paying for her education and sending money to her family she can’t afford to live in our city, which is where she goes to school

Anonymous wrote:Pay for the dog to be boarded a few days a week (or heck, all week).

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Anonymous wrote:Why can't the dog be around your family?

You know what the options are: Either find a way to make this work - by letting the dog stay, by paying her enough for her to get her own place, by having the dog go to doggy daycare during the day, etc - or your nanny is going to have to choose between working for you and her dog. She will have to find herself a new job and apartment, or find the dog a new home, or bring the dog to the shelter.

It can’t be around the family because it’s old and doesn’t like kids, so it doesn’t ever stop barking

This just doesn't sound tenable for anyone then. I think you have to ask your nanny to rehome the dog, if she wants to keep living with you. What else is there?

Anonymous wrote:She needs to re-home the dog. Part of her employment is housing, but she knew the dog was not welcome when she accepted the job or got the dog. This is why it wasn’t living with her before. It sounds like you tried to make it work, but it’s disruptive to your husband’s job - the job that pays her salary.

It sounds like it is distracting her from her duties during the work day.

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Anonymous wrote:Why can't the dog be around your family?

You know what the options are: Either find a way to make this work - by letting the dog stay, by paying her enough for her to get her own place, by having the dog go to doggy daycare during the day, etc - or your nanny is going to have to choose between working for you and her dog. She will have to find herself a new job and apartment, or find the dog a new home, or bring the dog to the shelter.

It can’t be around the family because it’s old and doesn’t like kids, so it doesn’t ever stop barking

Anonymous wrote:Why can't the dog be around your family?

You know what the options are: Either find a way to make this work - by letting the dog stay, by paying her enough for her to get her own place, by having the dog go to doggy daycare during the day, etc - or your nanny is going to have to choose between working for you and her dog. She will have to find herself a new job and apartment, or find the dog a new home, or bring the dog to the shelter.