Are you even serious? No, obviously.

Has the nastiness on DCUM always been this bad or is there an increase? It's just awful. I understand things can get heated when talking about politics, for example, but even posts on mundane topics become a battlefield. Twice in recent weeks I posted completely innocuous comments in discussions and someone responded in such a sarcastic manner that I didn't go back. I've seen people who post a question about a health matter get ridiculed, and know not to open some threads because it is so toxic. I wonder how much of this is attributable to just a few people (there does seem to be some commonalities) but surely no one has that much time on their hands. I also wonder if they are like this in real life, which is kinda scary.

Absolutely.

good god, no, nobody would. people can't even let people know whether their child is a male or female!

i have been on another message board for close to 20 years. you do have to have a screen name. yes, people "know" who certain screen names are and how they act. it doesn't stop people from being mean or being jerks.

No. You have to sort though the rudeness, but in return you get more honest & open answers to questions that I don't see on other boards.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. But I would love it if each user was assigned a random number for each thread so we know who is OP and who is posting multiple times.

No need to track people from thread to thread.

I would leave if that happened.

Anonymity is that entire point, and it’s important within and across threads.

It’s only important within a threat if you are being a jerk.

Not necessarily. I have a high profile job. I wouldn't risk it somehow coming out that I am stating my opinion.

I still use Reddit and there is a username attached. The issue is when you post in one subreddit and someone clicks on your name and sees you’re active in another one they can piece together your identity. Add to that the “local” component of DCUM and it would feel riskier. At least Reddit is typically people from all over the world.


(Yes I know anyone can access DCUM from anywhere, but generally people don’t know about it in, Italy for example. Just as I’m sure there are site specific to other metro areas. I’ve never seen those site because it doesn’t come up in my searches or my local friends aren’t talking about them)

No

Yes. I think there would be more helpful information posted rather than rudeness, which really wears me down after a while. The issue is I don't know where else there's a local(ish) forum with the breadth of topics DCUM has.

Yes. I post on Reddit, which is like that.

No

No

By the time “Maplesyrup” has posted in their school district’s forum and the age group forums about their kids, talked about their neighborhood in the real estate forum, asked about suggestions for baby names, talked about vacations in travel, given career advice, talked about their cars, gardens, recipes, home improvement projects, etc., they will be pretty identifiable. The anonymity is what makes DCUM invaluable.

I don’t like the meanness, either, which is why I call it out when I see it. If you want to call out a poster for meanness, and I see it, I will happily support you if I agree.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. But I would love it if each user was assigned a random number for each thread so we know who is OP and who is posting multiple times.

No need to track people from thread to thread.

I would leave if that happened.

Anonymity is that entire point, and it’s important within and across threads.

+1

No. I enjoy being able to participate with out knowing who you are or you know who I am
Also OP you are probably clicking on the juicy stuff so maybe stick to more simple forums like dads soccer.
What I find weird is that there are folks from all over the country maybe even the world on here which is where many of those troll posts come from

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. But I would love it if each user was assigned a random number for each thread so we know who is OP and who is posting multiple times.

No need to track people from thread to thread.

I would leave if that happened.

Anonymity is that entire point, and it’s important within and across threads.

It’s only important within a threat if you are being a jerk.