Anonymous wrote:It’s like she read my mind. I just got a barrage of texts out of the blue starting with the double exclamations about not telling DH again, followed by more details about what’s going on with the cousin. I’m going to respond to her that I hope things will get better soon but there’s no reason to be yelling in her texts and I won’t go out of my way to tell him but I won’t lie either if it comes up one day.
Wish me luck this won’t go well. Yes my mom is insane, much like a lot of moms on this board. I’ve been married over 20 years so it’s not like DH isn’t one of the family.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I do keep friend's secrets from him. If my friend tells me she's going through a scary divorce and asks me not to tell anyone, it does her no good and me no good to immediately tell
My dh. If someone asks you not to tell, and it has nothing to do with you and your life, I would keep it to yourself.
+1. I do not keep my secrets from him, I keep other people's secrets from him.
OP again. Yes to this. If someone tells me something in confidence then of course I honor that. But this is different. This is something about a random family member and my mom is just embarrassed about it.
I did tell her I won’t lie if it comes up one day. She then asked why on earth it would come up. And then - if it does come up, just say that she is going through some hard times and I don’t know the details.
Correct me if I’m wrong, mom, but that’s lying.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I do keep friend's secrets from him. If my friend tells me she's going through a scary divorce and asks me not to tell anyone, it does her no good and me no good to immediately tell
My dh. If someone asks you not to tell, and it has nothing to do with you and your life, I would keep it to yourself.
+1. I do not keep my secrets from him, I keep other people's secrets from him.
OP again. Yes to this. If someone tells me something in confidence then of course I honor that. But this is different. This is something about a random family member and my mom is just embarrassed about it.
I did tell her I won’t lie if it comes up one day. She then asked why on earth it would come up. And then - if it does come up, just say that she is going through some hard times and I don’t know the details.
Correct me if I’m wrong, mom, but that’s lying.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I do keep friend's secrets from him. If my friend tells me she's going through a scary divorce and asks me not to tell anyone, it does her no good and me no good to immediately tell
My dh. If someone asks you not to tell, and it has nothing to do with you and your life, I would keep it to yourself.
+1. I do not keep my secrets from him, I keep other people's secrets from him.
Yep. This is not your secret, OP. No need to tell.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I do keep friend's secrets from him. If my friend tells me she's going through a scary divorce and asks me not to tell anyone, it does her no good and me no good to immediately tell
My dh. If someone asks you not to tell, and it has nothing to do with you and your life, I would keep it to yourself.
+1. I do not keep my secrets from him, I keep other people's secrets from him.