Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please and thank you.
Written thank you notes.
Eating with mouth closed.
Men holding doors. (I know, I know, old fashioned, probably sexist, but it is a sign that the man has been taught manners at a young age.)
Being able to carry on a gracious (not braggart) conversation with an adult.

These seem like old-fashioned middle class lessons. MIL insists on written thank yous.

These are called good manners, something that is lost on some of the younger generation but never lost in wealthy circles.

You seem to be positing that the wealthy are all well-mannered. This is demonstrably false. Frankly I think that lower middle-class children from Black and Hispanic homes are better reared in terms of manners than your typical white UMC child, who is inculcated with entitlement and privilege from birth.

Anonymous wrote:Teach your kid to read and write before kindergarten

I don’t think this is necessary..:

How the stock market works
How to earn and save money
How to be resourceful and use your own skills to make money
How to budget
How to make a grocery list
How to meal plan
How to grocery shop
How to stay in a budget
How to plan a party
How to be a good hostess
How to wrap a present with a fancy bow
How to have nice handwriting
How to touch type without looking
Basic math, money, and counting change from $1
How to tie a tie
How to clean well
How to use basic tools
How to assemble furniture
How to apply basic first aid
How to pitch a tent
How to pick good fruit and vegetables from a grocery store
How to grow a garden
How to hunt for food
How to preserve food
How to identify common plants and animals in your immediate surroundings
How to cook
How to fish
How to swim
How to have good table manners
How to be grateful for what you have
How to not look down upon others that have less or envy those with more
How to respect your elders and authority figures

Most of these things are just basic parenting skills, not sure how they’re umc unless it’s an activity that costs money. Every kid should learn majority of these skills.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please and thank you.
Written thank you notes.
Eating with mouth closed.
Men holding doors. (I know, I know, old fashioned, probably sexist, but it is a sign that the man has been taught manners at a young age.)
Being able to carry on a gracious (not braggart) conversation with an adult.

These seem like old-fashioned middle class lessons. MIL insists on written thank yous.

These are called good manners, something that is lost on some of the younger generation but never lost in wealthy circles.

socialization

conversation with adults

drinking

Anonymous wrote:Please and thank you.
Written thank you notes.
Eating with mouth closed.
Men holding doors. (I know, I know, old fashioned, probably sexist, but it is a sign that the man has been taught manners at a young age.)
Being able to carry on a gracious (not braggart) conversation with an adult.

These seem like old-fashioned middle class lessons. MIL insists on written thank yous.

Whichever gender your kids are, their underwear should never show.
Teach them to make eye contact when speaking with someone
Teach them not to mumble when speaking.

Anonymous wrote:Please and thank you.
Written thank you notes.
Eating with mouth closed.
Men holding doors. (I know, I know, old fashioned, probably sexist, but it is a sign that the man has been taught manners at a young age.)
Being able to carry on a gracious (not braggart) conversation with an adult.

+1

Read for pleasure.
Visit museums for fun.
Attend concerts and plays - there are plenty of lower cost local ones.
When your child is invited out to eat, tell them they are only to order something similar in cost and type to what their host orders ( in this case the child they are friend's with) or something smaller.
Don't ask people how much money they make, how much their house or car cost.
Inside voices
Appropriate dress for the occasion and place

Teach them how to speak up and address concerns they may encounter in their lives. Being passive aggressive is a sign of what we used to call "poor breeding." . How to take perspectives of other people and not just assume that what they believe is the only possibility. How to value the feelings and values of others, rather than believing the universe revolves around them.

Anonymous wrote:Teach them to accept a compliment graciously.
Teach them how to write a thank you note.
Teach them how to behave at someone else's home (no feet on the furniture, no screaming or throwing things, no food away from the table, etc.).

I grew up UMC and many of my friends are UMC. I am a single mom and am in a “helping profession”—which is a nice way of saying I don’t make good money. So, I live in a poorer, blue collar or no collar at all neighborhood. The only kids who put their feet on my furniture and use bad manners in my house are the children of my UMC friends.

I do agree with a PP’s comment about teaching your kids to advocate for themselves. Being assertive without being aggressive or angry is something UMC people are able to do.

If someone proposes new housing in your neighborhood, be against it.

Save money, invest time into education.

Please and thank you.
Written thank you notes.
Eating with mouth closed.
Men holding doors. (I know, I know, old fashioned, probably sexist, but it is a sign that the man has been taught manners at a young age.)
Being able to carry on a gracious (not braggart) conversation with an adult.

How to swim
How to downhill ski
Get them great orthodontics

Those are the only ways I know if someone grew up with money