Anonymous wrote:I will say that I'm grateful for the parent who measured everything! That is useful to know what will fit.

Sometimes it gets a bit entitled or dramatic or proud parent-y or complainy, but it's mostly nice.

Our Cray Cray parents asked for the seventh time for the measurements of the apartment room and bathroom. She has been answered five of those seven times, she even did a tour of the type of room her kid will be in. No one is answering her now.

The cray-cray parent on my page used monitor their snowflake child’s use of dining credits and card swipes.

I will say that I'm grateful for the parent who measured everything! That is useful to know what will fit.

Sometimes it gets a bit entitled or dramatic or proud parent-y or complainy, but it's mostly nice.

I have one DC at a smaller private college and one at a big state U and the parent pages are extremely different.

PP again/ the reason I was bothered at all is that parents would post these fabulous pictures of their dorm rooms on FB parent group.

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Anonymous wrote:Parent of a kid who just finished freshman year. Ignore the FB posts about tricking out the dorm room. DD asked me to take stuff back after about a month and to stop sending care packages because her room was tiny and they had no space. All she really needed was the basics for a bed, desk, clothing, Brita water pitcher and access to food (meal plan was terrible, so she supplemented with Uber eats a few times a week). Anything else not only wasn’t necessary, but became an annoyance and distraction when she was trying to study and live with a roommate in a tiny space.

I don’t understand how this was news to you unless you never lived in a dorm.

I felt so guilt because we didn’t have over the top decorations but rather very pedestrian stuff. I do go overboard on buying sheets and a comforter and mattress pad from one of most expensive places sleep number but that was it. My daughter was happy so that’s all the mattered.

I'm glad that the parent FB at my kid's school has been incredibly helpful. In the beginning, there was university staff there to assist and answer questions then they turned it over to the parent admins. I don't use FB much at all but I do log in every so often just to read the parent FB page.

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Anonymous wrote:How about those parents who stay on the college FB page years after their kid/s graduated? My sister is on her kids' high school and college FB pages and I just think she needs to get a life.

I’ve talked to other parents of kids at other universities and they say the Cray Cray is not just at her university.

How about the parents who talk about Our class load and our dorm and our apartment. Who is the one going to school.

Or how about the people who talk about these people on anonymous chat boards?

-1,000,000

I can do it too! Meaningless

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Anonymous wrote:How about those parents who stay on the college FB page years after their kid/s graduated? My sister is on her kids' high school and college FB pages and I just think she needs to get a life.

I’ve talked to other parents of kids at other universities and they say the Cray Cray is not just at her university.

How about the parents who talk about Our class load and our dorm and our apartment. Who is the one going to school.

Or how about the people who talk about these people on anonymous chat boards?

+1

What gets me is the mostly moms who share embarrassing details about their kids medical conditions and remind you with every post. She even recently asked if the campus police would respond to an off campus emergency her son WILL have at his new apartment. She refuses to search, asks the same questions every few weeks and yells at people who tell her to do a search.

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Anonymous wrote:How about those parents who stay on the college FB page years after their kid/s graduated? My sister is on her kids' high school and college FB pages and I just think she needs to get a life.

I’ve talked to other parents of kids at other universities and they say the Cray Cray is not just at her university.

How about the parents who talk about Our class load and our dorm and our apartment. Who is the one going to school.

Or how about the people who talk about these people on anonymous chat boards?

My kid's school is in a small city; freshmen are required to live on campus but after that most students live off campus. There is actually enough on campus housing for upper classmen too--but of course they all WANT to live off campus, fair enough. You can basically either rent some crappy apartment within walking distance, or get a much nicer "luxury" apartment (pool, hot tub, etc.) about 3 miles out.

So many parents complain about how should their kid get from their far out apartment to campus. They believe that either A) the school needs build a huge parking garage to accommodate or B) the school should have shuttles going to all the far out apartment complexes.
It's ridiculous.

My dd’s first school (she transferred) had two pages - one moderated by the school and one moderated by a parent. The answers on the school page were very polished and sometimes ignored. The parent page was originally better but then the original moderator retired bc her kid graduated and the new moderator would delete any questions that would imply anything bad took place at the school. Everyone knows no school is perfect and most of the stuff was reported in the school newspaper (so would not be news to any prospective families). The moderator basically said that the page was supposed to be a positive place to discuss the school. Clearly, a student (not a parent) should address individual complaints with the school directly but there were some systemic issues that the students were addressing with the administration and the administration was doing nothing. To have such discussions banned on the parent fb group was ridiculous. My student’s new school has a very low key fb group and I have never posted once.

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I wonder if I'm just to disconnected from my kid's college. I literally have no idea about anything nor have I sought it out. He just finished freshman year. I did a quick Google search around May 1 to find out what day moving out day was, emailed the kid to find out what day and time worked best for him and showed up. I have literally not interacted with anything to do with his college other than that all year. Am I missing something?

+1. You have a healthy relationship to the process of allowing your child to become an adult. You should feel very good about this!

Anonymous wrote:How about those parents who stay on the college FB page years after their kid/s graduated? My sister is on her kids' high school and college FB pages and I just think she needs to get a life.

The one T. Y son’s school, purges graduate parents in June.