Anonymous wrote:I recently dated a guy on and off for 6 months; I broke it off with him a few months ago because I wanted a committed relationship and he didn't. In the few months since, he's texted me a few times and I haven't responded.

Last night, he sent me a pic of a wine bottle and glass of wine and said, "I think you got me this bottle! Not sure what stage of life you're at...a lot has changed for me! If you're up for a chat, let me know!"

Do you think he is implying that he's changed his mind about wanting a relationship with me, OR that he has moved on and gotten engaged o new job, etc and wants to tell me about it?

Breadcrumbing

He tryna hit dat.

He is hoping you're at the stage of life where you're open to casual sex. What has changed for him is that he got bored enough to text you. Just ignore/block him

Anonymous wrote:He wants to bang you. His other prospects fell through at the moment so he's digging deep into his old contacts.

+1 million I think it’s a lame attempt to be romantic (with the wine bottle and sentiments). 🤮

He wants to bang you. His other prospects fell through at the moment so he's digging deep into his old contacts.

Hi OP. He wants to sleep with you.

The best answer often is the simplest. OP, if you were interested in a real relationship with someone would you send them a text like that? If no, then why not? Because it seems like childish game playing. Now, if you want childish game playing, complete with random photos, memes, probably some selfies, witty banter, running hot and cold, ambiguity, being stood up for plans because of “miscommunication,” triangulation with other people and things that he spends his time on other than you, then by all means go for it. This guy sounds like a master class in manipulation by text. But if you want to date an actual person with actual sincerity, then clugey Wine Bottle Mystery Man is not for you.

Anonymous wrote:I'd wait a bit and say something along the line of - hoping he enjoyed the wine, and not remembering if I gave it to him or not.

This is a good response. I agree with PPs who say he seems like a flake, and this will likely show you that because there will be nothing after that. If on the small chance he is really pining for you, he'll try harder, and really say that and ask for another chance, with a nice date. But please don't expect that, I really think he's just immature and doesn't know what he wants and is remembering you liked him when he looks at the bottle and looking for attention. Frankly, he sounds like you can do way better.

Anonymous wrote:Just call him or meet up for coffee. Let him talk. Listen, process, and proceed how you’d like.

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I'd wait a bit and say something along the line of - hoping he enjoyed the wine, and not remembering if I gave it to him or not.

Just call him or meet up for coffee. Let him talk. Listen, process, and proceed how you’d like.

Wants friends with benefits?
Rethinking decision?

Just to satisfy your curiosity, I would send a text offering to meet for a quick cup of a.m. coffee to chat. Keep it brief, you have a manicure appt. If he doesn’t offer anything deeper than surface pleasantries or wants to skip to dating without discussion of what’s changed- leave him in your past.

I would send back (at least 24 hours after and during the day), “wow, that’s vague”

Anonymous wrote:I’d ignore that kind of vague texting. If he has something to tell you, he should just be straight up and not drop hints. Don’t fall for it. Don’t waste your time on a man-child.

+1

He might very well have decided he wants a committed relationship with you. But he doesn’t want it enough to be remotely clear about his intentions. He could have told you he made a mistake and wants another chance and asked you on a date. You don’t want to risk wasting time with somebody who doesn’t want you enough to really pursue you.