Anonymous
Post 05/21/2022 00:06     Subject: DDs dating age?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s not up to us. They will do what they want, just like we did.

Lol. Not true. Some of us come from backgrounds where children don't do whatever they want


Trust, they do whatever they want. You just don't know about. The tighter the reins, the more kids rebel.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2022 23:55     Subject: Re:DDs dating age?
Anonymous wrote:I told my son not to date anyone until at least after finishing grad school and taking care of his health, body and mind. Focus on himself and what he wants to achieve with his life, improve his social skills, hobbies, etc... In other words, focus and improve on himself, first and foremost. If he could do that, women would come to him in droves. He can have ladies who are friends but dating and having a gf is a big distraction from what he wants to achieve his goals.


This is controlling behavior. He can decide for himself and successfully do both. Unless he is living at home, having a partner to share his journey with can be good for mental health.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2022 22:40     Subject: DDs dating age?
Anonymous wrote:It’s not up to us. They will do what they want, just like we did.

Lol. Not true. Some of us come from backgrounds where children don't do whatever they want
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2022 22:38     Subject: DDs dating age?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Best age to start dating is when you are sufficiently mature enough to maintain your other responsibilities, handle a breakup without falling part, and have met someone you like who likes you back and treats you respectfully. Same for boys and girls.


This sounds good, but in reality I fell in love before I knew if I would love someone who treated me respectfully. I also couldn’t handle the break up without falling apart. I wasn’t mature enough, but there I was, in love.

Sometimes you can’t plan this! They will figure it out, even though they may be in pain.


Kindly, perhaps our children can learn from our experiences. Maybe teaching them better especially doing away with all this in love = lose all sense and must make bad decisions BS a purely Western notion btw
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2022 21:00     Subject: DDs dating age?
Anonymous wrote:Best age to start dating is when you are sufficiently mature enough to maintain your other responsibilities, handle a breakup without falling part, and have met someone you like who likes you back and treats you respectfully. Same for boys and girls.


This sounds good, but in reality I fell in love before I knew if I would love someone who treated me respectfully. I also couldn’t handle the break up without falling apart. I wasn’t mature enough, but there I was, in love.

Sometimes you can’t plan this! They will figure it out, even though they may be in pain.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2022 20:33     Subject: DDs dating age?
It’s not up to us. They will do what they want, just like we did.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2022 20:28     Subject: DDs dating age?
Anonymous wrote:Encourage, never. Flatly deny, probably also never. Not discourage, around 15


Agree, except 16 to be going anywhere in a car with him driving
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2022 15:38     Subject: DDs dating age?
Never. I was raised in the rural South and your worth as a female person was determined by if you had a BF or not. It lead me to get married too early to someone who turned out to be abusive.

So I don't care if any of or all of my children remain single for the rest of their lives. I make sure to tell them they are worthy and complete just as they are.

I will actively discourage marriage until their Prefrontal cortex has fully developed.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2022 12:38     Subject: Re:DDs dating age?
I told my son not to date anyone until at least after finishing grad school and taking care of his health, body and mind. Focus on himself and what he wants to achieve with his life, improve his social skills, hobbies, etc... In other words, focus and improve on himself, first and foremost. If he could do that, women would come to him in droves. He can have ladies who are friends but dating and having a gf is a big distraction from what he wants to achieve his goals.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2022 12:32     Subject: DDs dating age?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I told all my kids to date before they leave high school, while they're living at home so they can use parents as an excuse for anything they don't want to do.


The "overly involved" mom.


Nope, barely involved at all except for providing Ubers and snacks.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2022 12:30     Subject: DDs dating age?
Our personal experiences and biases shouldn’t dictate lives of other adults, even if they are our children.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2022 12:29     Subject: Re:DDs dating age?
Anonymous wrote:My DD is seriously dating at 24. I would have liked for her to have waited till 32.


Our personal experiences should limit our children’s lives.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2022 12:28     Subject: DDs dating age?
It depends on individuals. Some mature early, have good environment and role models so they are better off than ones who aren’t.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2022 12:27     Subject: DDs dating age?
I think you can start casual dating around 15 but by college sophomore year you are in a better position to start serious dating or relationship.
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2022 10:10     Subject: Re:DDs dating age?
For consistency, DD should be able to date at the same age she is allowed to choose her orientation, etc...