Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Relax, mothers.

Because we shouldn't care if kids don't get into dorms or miss out on the classes they want / need to take??

They should be handling all this on their own.

Anonymous wrote:If you have access to his portal, find out when the deadlines are (without telling them, of course). Maybe this information will lower your anxiety.

These are ADULTS. It’s way past time to stop this nonsense. I didn’t check my kids’ portals when they were in high school. If your college aged adult cannot navigate this on their own, they probably aren’t ready for college.

/mom of four college grads. One kid still in college.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine has major senioritis and he’s been a straight A student his whole life. Hes finding it hard to finish up with Bs in some classes. He’s done!

My A senior is fighting off a D in a core class right now. Parents of future seniors - do NOT assume your smart, organized kid is going to stay that way through the last semester.

Yes, it's very important for seniors to realize that a D could get their college acceptance rescinded or at a minimum be put on "probation". And not just elite universities. Have heard of a ~T90 send letters for senior first semester Ds and warn students.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Relax, mothers.

Because we shouldn't care if kids don't get into dorms or miss out on the classes they want / need to take??

At some point you can’t manage every aspect of their lives. There is way too much over-parenting DCUM parents. Sometimes they have to learn life lessons the hard way.

Anonymous wrote:Relax, mothers.

Because we shouldn't care if kids don't get into dorms or miss out on the classes they want / need to take??

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine has major senioritis and he’s been a straight A student his whole life. Hes finding it hard to finish up with Bs in some classes. He’s done!

My A senior is fighting off a D in a core class right now. Parents of future seniors - do NOT assume your smart, organized kid is going to stay that way through the last semester.

Same thing happened a few years back with my oldest A+ student. It got so bad her teacher called me, saying she was worried! We had a little chat, and DD pulled herself together. Big time senioritis. It's OK. DD graduated from college, and she's doing well.

Yeah, same here. I pushed DD and she got them in. But it's been a struggle, and it's not over yet. Yes, AP tests this week too, and that's been a distraction.

Relax, mothers.

Anonymous wrote:The teens TEXT.

Yes, and they also let laundry pile up and leave dishes under their beds, but we try to help them grow into healthy adult habits. I don't really want my boss texting me.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is MAY and they don't start for well over 3 months. Cut your kid some slack, they've worked hard for 13 years! Let them enjoy the end of HS, and they will get to it, eventually.

-mom of student who just finished their freshman year of colege

My kid has college registration-related deadlines before his high school graduation even happens!

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Mine too. At his school some majors have a math placement test they need to take before May 17.

I have two older kids and found that they (especially the oldest) didn't check emails/portals frequently enough. After learning with him, we've really emphasized with our other two the importance of checking (both emails and portals) EVERY SINGLE DAY.

Why don’t the schools text? They are sending emails to that generation? SMH The teens TEXT.

Anonymous wrote:Mine has major senioritis and he’s been a straight A student his whole life. Hes finding it hard to finish up with Bs in some classes. He’s done!

My A senior is fighting off a D in a core class right now. Parents of future seniors - do NOT assume your smart, organized kid is going to stay that way through the last semester.

My sister missed deadlines because she was hoping to get into a waitlisted school. She got horrible housing and only had one class on her schedule when she arrived at campus. It’s important not to miss those deadlines, especially the housing ones.

Mine has major senioritis and he’s been a straight A student his whole life. Hes finding it hard to finish up with Bs in some classes. He’s done!

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I just insist that it be done. Pick a time when they want/need something from you and say, "before I do x, I'd like you to fill out that form." This works pretty well for me, but I've been leveraging my kids' wants/needs for years lol so they are accustomed to this (and also know from experience that I am very willing to say no to requests if I don't get what I'm asking for in return. It helps--a lot-- that my kids don't have their own cars but must borrow mine. ).

+1 from a college prof. Entering college students need to learn to 1) read emails (not other forms of messages--specifically emails); 2) interpret what is required; 3) write down deadlines; 4) target actions to be completed before said deadlines; 5) complete and submit. 1, 3, and 5 should be part of executive functioning that is at least somewhat practiced in HS, but 2 and 4 require some experience with adulting, which can be the justified excuse for family collaboration at this point.

Try making a mandatory "appointment" (in the way an adviser might do) with your student to go through all of the existing material together and create a shared to-do list. While you're at it, schedule a follow-up appointment for sometime before the approaching deadlines at which you *both* will show each other what you have accomplished from the list. Don't do it for DC, but don't let it slide, either: a student who doesn't open emails is a student who is going to miss important information from professors. We can't message them on social media or text in order to communicate typical issues and deadlines.

And, yes, as an adviser I do make once-per-semester appointments with my students mandatory. I'm willing to be extremely flexible on precisely when and in what format I meet with them, but I refuse to let them slip through the cracks.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is MAY and they don't start for well over 3 months. Cut your kid some slack, they've worked hard for 13 years! Let them enjoy the end of HS, and they will get to it, eventually.

-mom of student who just finished their freshman year of colege

+1000

my own kid is moving slowly on it, but that because it's AP testing last and this week, and DC still has a Month until HS graduation. Throw in final dance competition, final dance recital, Prom, older sibling's college graduation, final band concert and rehearsals for that, and I'm sure I've missed something (yeah, there are still officially "senior finals"). They are still enjoying the end of HS. Just make sure you know key dates (like housing signup) that they really can't miss. Other than that, be kind and gentle

Agree. I pushed on an early health form deadline because there was a vaccination situation I needed to help them figure out, but I’m not going to pester them on the rest until after graduation. Thankfully, DC’s college sends emails to the parents with deadlines, etc, so it’s easy to keep an eye on it.