Anonymous
05/09/2022 17:34
Subject: texting moms
Anonymous wrote:Do all of you not have husbands? Do all of your kids' friends not have dads? Why are you acting like this is all "mom work"?[/quote
Honestly playdates of younger kids are always scheduled with moms. But of course some working moms think it’s someone else’s job…
Anonymous
05/09/2022 17:02
Subject: texting moms
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't know why one text back and forth, at most two, isn't enough. Choose a plan and stick to it.
It doesn’t work like that with a lot of the moms I’ve texted, they want a long back and forth and lots of smiley emojis. I would love a once back and forth text and be done but it doesn’t work like that unfortunately.
I have 3 kids. If I am arranging a play date with a mom I don’t know, I stick with the details. If we can make it or they can make it, great. If not, I won’t try that hard.
We moved when my oldest was in 4th. He is now in 7th grade. I am not friends with his friends’ moms. There are no smiley emojis, just logistics and times.
My middle child is ultra social and I have varying relationships with parents of his friends from when he was a toddler to now. Some of the moms are my friends and kids aren’t anymore. There are a lot more laughing 😂 and mad 😡 emojis. A lot of these people we have known for many years. We hang out as families, carpool, sign up for activities together, moms may go out without kids.
There is one mom I don’t like and I hate all her group texts. I never respond but I’m included in the group texts.
Anonymous
05/09/2022 15:51
Subject: texting moms
Anonymous wrote:I don't know why one text back and forth, at most two, isn't enough. Choose a plan and stick to it.
It doesn’t work like that with a lot of the moms I’ve texted, they want a long back and forth and lots of smiley emojis. I would love a once back and forth text and be done but it doesn’t work like that unfortunately.
Anonymous
05/09/2022 15:27
Subject: Re:texting moms
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I get annoyed with this, even when the mom in question is my friend and I like her. It's not an efficient way to do anything. My preference would be:
1) Make plans via a conversation or, if we must, email
2) Put plans on calendar and make mental commitment to them
3) Only cancel or no-show in case of emergency or issue, not simply poor planning, which yes can be communicated via text
Instead everyone does this insane and stressful thing where all plans are constantly in flux at all times, and many people can't even commit to basic details of the plans (like when or where we will meet) until like the morning of, and will want to change specific things last minute to accommodate things that they should have known or thought of but didn't because they either weren't paying attention, or have more organizations skills, or just think this is a good way to do things. I do not get it. Just make plans and then show up for them! It can be very straightforward.
It isn’t so easy with the plans. I have 3 kids and all 3 kids are in activities and sports and most everyone else has multiple siblings and activities as well.
There is this one mom who texts to arrange a play date but they are so busy that they have like one time slot for the whole week that doesn’t work for us. Then she will text me again week after week trying to arrange a time and our schedule just doesn’t work.
I invited a group of boys over and the mom let her son come. He must have missed his activity.
Anonymous
05/09/2022 15:23
Subject: Re:texting moms
When I used to work, I disliked text message as method of communication. I preferred emails or phone calls. Once upon a time, I would use AIM or messenger to chat with my friends but it was all on the computer.
Now I stay home and I text other moms to make plans.
I could see texting being annoying to a person on conference calls and in meetings while their phone keeps buzzing.
Now I stay home and I text other moms to make plans.
I could see texting being annoying to a person on conference calls and in meetings while their phone keeps buzzing.
Anonymous
05/09/2022 15:06
Subject: Re:texting moms
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I get annoyed with this, even when the mom in question is my friend and I like her. It's not an efficient way to do anything. My preference would be:
1) Make plans via a conversation or, if we must, email
2) Put plans on calendar and make mental commitment to them
3) Only cancel or no-show in case of emergency or issue, not simply poor planning, which yes can be communicated via text
Instead everyone does this insane and stressful thing where all plans are constantly in flux at all times, and many people can't even commit to basic details of the plans (like when or where we will meet) until like the morning of, and will want to change specific things last minute to accommodate things that they should have known or thought of but didn't because they either weren't paying attention, or have more organizations skills, or just think this is a good way to do things. I do not get it. Just make plans and then show up for them! It can be very straightforward.
100% agree with you. I can't with the super flaky moms. I get if something comes up, but there's a Curb Your Enthusiasm episode that mercilessly makes fun of the social norm of the "confirmation text" and it's hilarious/so spot on. It's like no one can just make a plan and show up at the pre-discussed time. Love phones obviously but it makes it soooo easy to just feel like you can constantly be flexible.
Anonymous
05/09/2022 14:53
Subject: Re:texting moms
Yes, I get annoyed with this, even when the mom in question is my friend and I like her. It's not an efficient way to do anything. My preference would be:
1) Make plans via a conversation or, if we must, email
2) Put plans on calendar and make mental commitment to them
3) Only cancel or no-show in case of emergency or issue, not simply poor planning, which yes can be communicated via text
Instead everyone does this insane and stressful thing where all plans are constantly in flux at all times, and many people can't even commit to basic details of the plans (like when or where we will meet) until like the morning of, and will want to change specific things last minute to accommodate things that they should have known or thought of but didn't because they either weren't paying attention, or have more organizations skills, or just think this is a good way to do things. I do not get it. Just make plans and then show up for them! It can be very straightforward.
1) Make plans via a conversation or, if we must, email
2) Put plans on calendar and make mental commitment to them
3) Only cancel or no-show in case of emergency or issue, not simply poor planning, which yes can be communicated via text
Instead everyone does this insane and stressful thing where all plans are constantly in flux at all times, and many people can't even commit to basic details of the plans (like when or where we will meet) until like the morning of, and will want to change specific things last minute to accommodate things that they should have known or thought of but didn't because they either weren't paying attention, or have more organizations skills, or just think this is a good way to do things. I do not get it. Just make plans and then show up for them! It can be very straightforward.
Anonymous
05/09/2022 14:46
Subject: texting moms
I don't know why one text back and forth, at most two, isn't enough. Choose a plan and stick to it.
Anonymous
05/09/2022 14:22
Subject: texting moms
Anonymous wrote:Why are so many people incapable of interacting with others? I now know why so many kids are so mentally unwell.
+1 The generation being raised now will be atrocious at human interaction
Anonymous
05/09/2022 14:14
Subject: texting moms
Anonymous wrote:Why are so many people incapable of interacting with others? I now know why so many kids are so mentally unwell.
Look at you, up on that high horse.
Nobody said anything about incapable.
Anonymous
05/09/2022 13:58
Subject: texting moms
Anonymous wrote:I hate texting. Prefer email.
I used to prefer email. Now I prefer texting. It is less formal and able to go back and forth quicker.
Anonymous
05/09/2022 13:22
Subject: texting moms
Why are so many people incapable of interacting with others? I now know why so many kids are so mentally unwell.
Anonymous
05/09/2022 12:47
Subject: texting moms
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have pretty severe social anxiety, so it is pure torture. I second guess every word and am convinced everyone thinks I am a total weirdo. And they wouldn't be wrong.
This. Too many back and forths with blushing smiley emojis. Too many negotiations about where, when, etc.. I'd rather hand this task off to someone else.
Here's a tip: don't use emojis. You're not a 12 year old girl.
AMEN. Women need to stop with the smiling emojis. Even worse if you are doing this same thing at work. just stop.
Anonymous
05/09/2022 12:32
Subject: texting moms
Don’t plan play dates and have an awkward unsocial child, that’s your alternative to complaining, just pick it and stop whining
Anonymous
05/09/2022 11:56
Subject: texting moms
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have pretty severe social anxiety, so it is pure torture. I second guess every word and am convinced everyone thinks I am a total weirdo. And they wouldn't be wrong.
This. Too many back and forths with blushing smiley emojis. Too many negotiations about where, when, etc.. I'd rather hand this task off to someone else.
Here's a tip: don't use emojis. You're not a 12 year old girl.