Anonymous wrote:That isn’t maternity leave. You’re dropping out of the workforce (or in this case -school) unpaid.

Agree, this isn't 'maternity leave' as most people would understand the term.

Enjoy the time! In the early days I would nap once a day when the baby napped. Go for walks together, putter in the yard, get a few things done around the house. Visit with friends and family.

Op I did something similar, I took a one year leave from my government job when my daughter was born and it was amazing! My suggestions- get to know other parents and build community. I'm still so close to many of the mom friends I made 5 years ago despite our kids now being in all different schools etc. I did the same thing but for only 7 months when my son was born, 3 years ago. I'm incredibly fortunate to have a job that will let me do this, but seniority and a generous policy around leave made it doable (among other things like financial security). I'm in an academic role too, and I really loved the time off both times but also never really considered becoming a permanent sahm.

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Anonymous wrote:That isn’t maternity leave. You’re dropping out of the workforce (or in this case -school) unpaid.

Lol I agree I was wondering wow what company gives a year maternity leave …but…it’s just a new mommy student who’s not even going to school.

PS you lose a lot of time with young children and it would be wise to take your classes and do childcare.

OP here. No, it’s fine. I finished my JD, passed the bar, and all class work for my doctorate. It’s a perfect time to take a break and a great reason! I’m not losing anything.

I like you, OP!!

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Anonymous wrote:Have you spent significant time with young kids? Sounds kind of torturous to me.

I totally agree. I was thrilled to go back to work at 12 weeks. I cut my leave short because I couldn’t stand it. The first 8 weeks are easy since all they do is sleep. It’s month 4-9 where they want to be entertained all the time. They aren’t mobile, but want to be and get so frustrated.

-mom of 3

Do you have nothing to add either.

I have a different perspective. Buck up buttercup. Not all women are the same.

So why not give us your perspective on athletes foot or extra body weight while you’re at it since it’s equally relevant, buttercup.

She wasn’t asking for your opinion on her decision and you never did what she’s asking about do you’re totally ignorant of her situation.

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Anonymous wrote:That isn’t maternity leave. You’re dropping out of the workforce (or in this case -school) unpaid.

Lol I agree I was wondering wow what company gives a year maternity leave …but…it’s just a new mommy student who’s not even going to school.

PS you lose a lot of time with young children and it would be wise to take your classes and do childcare.

OP here. No, it’s fine. I finished my JD, passed the bar, and all class work for my doctorate. It’s a perfect time to take a break and a great reason! I’m not losing anything.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you spent significant time with young kids? Sounds kind of torturous to me.

I totally agree. I was thrilled to go back to work at 12 weeks. I cut my leave short because I couldn’t stand it. The first 8 weeks are easy since all they do is sleep. It’s month 4-9 where they want to be entertained all the time. They aren’t mobile, but want to be and get so frustrated.

-mom of 3

Do you have nothing to add either.

I have a different perspective. Buck up buttercup. Not all women are the same.

Anonymous wrote:That isn’t maternity leave. You’re dropping out of the workforce (or in this case -school) unpaid.

Lol I agree I was wondering wow what company gives a year maternity leave …but…it’s just a new mommy student who’s not even going to school.

PS you lose a lot of time with young children and it would be wise to take your classes and do childcare.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you spent significant time with young kids? Sounds kind of torturous to me.

You think staying home with your own baby for a year sounds torturous?! What did you do with your kids aged 0 to 12 months?

Yes. I returned to work at 6 months. I left the house running. Love spending time with my kids but not interested in 24-7 care.

Love spending time with your kids? It think not.

Anonymous wrote:Have you spent significant time with young kids? Sounds kind of torturous to me.

Np Not sure this is the right thread for you!

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Anonymous wrote:Have you spent significant time with young kids? Sounds kind of torturous to me.

I totally agree. I was thrilled to go back to work at 12 weeks. I cut my leave short because I couldn’t stand it. The first 8 weeks are easy since all they do is sleep. It’s month 4-9 where they want to be entertained all the time. They aren’t mobile, but want to be and get so frustrated.

-mom of 3

Do you have nothing to add either.

OP you are lucky. I was in a similar situation and really appreciated having extra time with my baby. Yes, it can be difficult, but it's not torture like these people are saying. Also you are super lucky that your DH will be there to help for 9 weeks. You will want to join some classes or groups to get to know other moms, and I also recommend finding someone who can babysit occasionally, because there will be times when you need to go to appointments or errands.

I'm wrapping up a six month leave now and honestly can't imagine being away from work for longer. I'm not cut out to be a SAHP and the last couple months have been really draining and lonely. I hope you have a good experience. Mommy and me groups could work, but it's tough because those are typically SAHMs and IME they aren't really interested in connecting with someone who's going back to work, even in a year.

Anonymous wrote:Have you spent significant time with young kids? Sounds kind of torturous to me.

I totally agree. I was thrilled to go back to work at 12 weeks. I cut my leave short because I couldn’t stand it. The first 8 weeks are easy since all they do is sleep. It’s month 4-9 where they want to be entertained all the time. They aren’t mobile, but want to be and get so frustrated.

-mom of 3

Anonymous wrote:That isn’t maternity leave. You’re dropping out of the workforce (or in this case -school) unpaid.

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