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Anonymous wrote:A newborn shouldn’t be on a strict feeding schedule. That’s the only issue I see here.

This. You say you "follow on demand (except for a strict feeding routine.)" it seems contradictory, unless I'm misunderstanding.

+1 on demand a strict feeding routine are opposites.

OP here. I do follow on-demand ( feed him whenever he wants, follow wake windows but put him down earlier if tired, let him decide how much he wants to eat, etc.) I follow a strict feeding schedule meaning that I was told not to go more than 3 hours without feeding during day. My mom and sister said they never woke their babies and to just feed when they wake up, but we wake him if he isn’t up by 3 hours to feed. We let him wake up on his own for the night, but we feed him every 2-3 hours during the day.

How old is your baby? Past the first week or two, waking them during the day to feed shouldn’t be this much of an issue? Is this happening a lot where you have to wake him from naps to eat?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A newborn shouldn’t be on a strict feeding schedule. That’s the only issue I see here.

This. You say you "follow on demand (except for a strict feeding routine.)" it seems contradictory, unless I'm misunderstanding.

+1 on demand a strict feeding routine are opposites.

OP here. I do follow on-demand ( feed him whenever he wants, follow wake windows but put him down earlier if tired, let him decide how much he wants to eat, etc.) I follow a strict feeding schedule meaning that I was told not to go more than 3 hours without feeding during day. My mom and sister said they never woke their babies and to just feed when they wake up, but we wake him if he isn’t up by 3 hours to feed. We let him wake up on his own for the night, but we feed him every 2-3 hours during the day.

Anonymous wrote:Did you post a few weeks ago about your slow let down….?
I agree if your baby is in the snoo, your husband holds him all evening, and you have a babysitter 3 afternoons a week, then you are on the low end in terms of holding your baby. So… just own it?

Thanks. I’ll keep that in mind.

If they don’t get a clue I would ask them to leave the next time it happens.

I had to have a “conversations” with my Mom that went something like this.

“I am DS’s Mom. I will be making decisions on how to raise him. Just like you made decisions on how to raise me.”

“You are not the Mom. You don’t get to decide.”

“If you have a problem with my decisions, we can solve that by you not seeing him anymore.”

Tell them to either shut their traps and keep their comments to themselves or you will be scheduling time to meet with them at a park of your choice to see the baby. Honestly, I made some decisions when my kids were babies that I would not have done and wish I never did because I listened to sidecar parents. Do this, not that. Don't spoil the baby. Let her cry it out. I knew what was right for my child even though it was not always convenient. GO with your gut. You are the Mom and will have to answer for what you did and did not do when they are older. Also, FWIW, you need to take care fo you as well and if that means hiring someone to give you time to rest, then so be it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A newborn shouldn’t be on a strict feeding schedule. That’s the only issue I see here.

This. You say you "follow on demand (except for a strict feeding routine.)" it seems contradictory, unless I'm misunderstanding.

+1 on demand a strict feeding routine are opposites.

Did you post a few weeks ago about your slow let down….?
I agree if your baby is in the snoo, your husband holds him all evening, and you have a babysitter 3 afternoons a week, then you are on the low end in terms of holding your baby. So… just own it?

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with your family (since you put all the details out there) but just ignore them.

+1

I agree with your family too, but it could be you're over reacting to it too much. You're still super hormonal so sometimes it's easy to feel offended/overly sensitive/super defensive about something that you'd ordinarily wouldn't bother you.

You can ask yourself if maybe you feel your family might be sorta right on the things you listed. It's a hard pill to swallow admitting your "luxery" things (a douka, the snoo, etc).

"Yea, I'm still trying to figure things out, Sis. He'll outgrow the Snoo soon and the doula's final day is next Wednesday ".

(Look, OP! Here is a chance to practice!)

Thanks for your input, PP. I’ll keep that in mind.

Anonymous wrote:To be totally honest, I see where they are coming from on some of the comments. But guess what? How you raise your baby isn't my business. And it isn't their's either.

The "thanks, I'll keep that in mind" pp is spot on.

I agree with this poster. I think you have a lot of expensive baby stuff I don’t see the point of BUT ALSO it’s your life and your baby and your money. Enjoy it all however you want and repeat some variant of “thanks for your input” as necessary.

Anonymous wrote:I agree with your family (since you put all the details out there) but just ignore them.

+1

I agree with your family too, but it could be you're over reacting to it too much. You're still super hormonal so sometimes it's easy to feel offended/overly sensitive/super defensive about something that you'd ordinarily wouldn't bother you.

You can ask yourself if maybe you feel your family might be sorta right on the things you listed. It's a hard pill to swallow admitting your "luxery" things (a douka, the snoo, etc).

"Yea, I'm still trying to figure things out, Sis. He'll outgrow the Snoo soon and the doula's final day is next Wednesday ".