Anonymous
Post 04/20/2022 17:52     Subject: If one of your children is gifted/advanced
Anonymous wrote:Eldest is gifted with learning disabilities. It's hell, literally the worse to parent. He needs challenge yet also support for his disabilities. Most people don't understand him.

Youngest is gifted. So easy to parent!


My dog is gifted. And my cat.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2022 17:49     Subject: If one of your children is gifted/advanced
Eldest is gifted with learning disabilities. It's hell, literally the worse to parent. He needs challenge yet also support for his disabilities. Most people don't understand him.

Youngest is gifted. So easy to parent!
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2022 17:47     Subject: Re:If one of your children is gifted/advanced
Unless you’re the parents of the likes of Stephen Hawking, Edward Witten, or Maryam Mirzakhani, you can pump the brakes of the gifted/advanced label.
They will still be okay, I’m sure your children are clever and smart.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2022 17:35     Subject: Re:If one of your children is gifted/advanced
We thought one of our kids was much brighter than the other. Then we had them evaluated (one for ASD, one for ADHD - both included FSIQ tests) and they were within a couple of points of each other. Both in the gifted-but-not-insanely-so range. The one still performs consistently better in school due to better organizational skills.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2022 17:30     Subject: Re:If one of your children is gifted/advanced
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To look at adults, out of my family with four kids, three of us have hard science PhDs, one also has a JD, and one has an MFA from Yale. Only one of us was flagged as gifted growing up (the JD/PhD). Two were on IEPs for learning disabilities. All of us are in above average jobs and excelling professionally now.



Those are not traits determining one’s giftedness.

One sibling was identified as gifted, other siblings weren't. You don't consider being tested and identified as gifted as relevant? The rest is context.


Gifted people do not need a test to determine.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2022 17:25     Subject: Re:If one of your children is gifted/advanced
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To look at adults, out of my family with four kids, three of us have hard science PhDs, one also has a JD, and one has an MFA from Yale. Only one of us was flagged as gifted growing up (the JD/PhD). Two were on IEPs for learning disabilities. All of us are in above average jobs and excelling professionally now.



Those are not traits determining one’s giftedness.


NP. One of my kids has a FSIQ of 121 and the other has a GAI of 147. So while they are both bright, they are not equally gifted. If that is acceptable as a determinor of giftedness.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2022 17:24     Subject: Re:If one of your children is gifted/advanced
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To look at adults, out of my family with four kids, three of us have hard science PhDs, one also has a JD, and one has an MFA from Yale. Only one of us was flagged as gifted growing up (the JD/PhD). Two were on IEPs for learning disabilities. All of us are in above average jobs and excelling professionally now.



Those are not traits determining one’s giftedness.

One sibling was identified as gifted, other siblings weren't. You don't consider being tested and identified as gifted as relevant? The rest is context.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2022 17:21     Subject: Re:If one of your children is gifted/advanced
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To look at adults, out of my family with four kids, three of us have hard science PhDs, one also has a JD, and one has an MFA from Yale. Only one of us was flagged as gifted growing up (the JD/PhD). Two were on IEPs for learning disabilities. All of us are in above average jobs and excelling professionally now.



Those are not traits determining one’s giftedness.

The question was advanced or gifted.


Yes, and?
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2022 17:20     Subject: Re:If one of your children is gifted/advanced
Anonymous wrote:People are confusing gifted with bright. There are very few gifted people, likely none of which yours are. That’s not to say they aren’t bright, but nonetheless, they are not gifted. They are not Bill Gates or Marilyn vos Savant who are rightfully gifted.

"gifted" definition is not set in stone. What's the IQ cut off?

My DC got a 1590 on the SAT, straight As in magnet programs, 5s on all APs, reading by 2.5, chapter books by 4, zero outside tutoring or prepping; solving puzzles for 8 yr olds by 2. I don't know what DC's IQ is. Never bothered to get DC tested.

Would this qualify as "gifted"?
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2022 17:19     Subject: Re:If one of your children is gifted/advanced
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:To look at adults, out of my family with four kids, three of us have hard science PhDs, one also has a JD, and one has an MFA from Yale. Only one of us was flagged as gifted growing up (the JD/PhD). Two were on IEPs for learning disabilities. All of us are in above average jobs and excelling professionally now.



Those are not traits determining one’s giftedness.

The question was advanced or gifted.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2022 17:16     Subject: Re:If one of your children is gifted/advanced
Anonymous wrote:To look at adults, out of my family with four kids, three of us have hard science PhDs, one also has a JD, and one has an MFA from Yale. Only one of us was flagged as gifted growing up (the JD/PhD). Two were on IEPs for learning disabilities. All of us are in above average jobs and excelling professionally now.



Those are not traits determining one’s giftedness.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2022 17:15     Subject: Re:If one of your children is gifted/advanced
People are confusing gifted with bright. There are very few gifted people, likely none of which yours are. That’s not to say they aren’t bright, but nonetheless, they are not gifted. They are not Bill Gates or Marilyn vos Savant who are rightfully gifted.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2022 17:12     Subject: Re:If one of your children is gifted/advanced
To look at adults, out of my family with four kids, three of us have hard science PhDs, one also has a JD, and one has an MFA from Yale. Only one of us was flagged as gifted growing up (the JD/PhD). Two were on IEPs for learning disabilities. All of us are in above average jobs and excelling professionally now.

Anonymous
Post 04/20/2022 17:10     Subject: Re:If one of your children is gifted/advanced
All four skipped a grade. Some were then still bored in AP classes while some were happily challenged. Some were more well-rounded than others in younger stages, but I'm seeing now it's starting to even out now that some are young adults.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2022 17:09     Subject: Re:If one of your children is gifted/advanced
Anonymous wrote:My kids are both advanced, but in different ways.

One has a spectacular memory, such that she's quickly picked up a second language despite us only speaking English at home. She's 5 yo and learned by watching cartoons in Spanish. She's taught herself to read in Spanish too and can recite from memory long passages from books in Spanish. Her conversation skills are still emerging, but it's impressive how much she's taught herself in a few months.

The other excels at solving problems and strategy games. She was beating adults at Settlers of Catan as a 5 yo and loves Suduko, math and games like Mastermind and Labrynth.

They clearly have different strengths. I don't expect either to graduate from high school at 12 yo or anything, but they're both really smart kids.


Your kid will graduate on time. They may be bright but not gifted.