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Anonymous wrote:My DC is still deciding. They are upset because their top two schools did not give any merit, so we said they need to decide between the other schools. They have other options that we feel are good but a little less selective. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? We have two younger children and just can’t justify an extra $100k for these schools. We feel like we would have to spend the same amount on their siblings.

Yes - we are turning down Ivy for an out of state public school. Not as prestigious as Ivy, but public has smaller class size and better career placement opportunities. Also public less $$$. Total of $145K for public vs $332K for Ivy. It was a no brainer

Wow! which public is this (or at least which part of the country)? Does the $145K total include some merit?

Why does it have better career opportunities?

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Anonymous wrote:My DC is still deciding. They are upset because their top two schools did not give any merit, so we said they need to decide between the other schools. They have other options that we feel are good but a little less selective. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? We have two younger children and just can’t justify an extra $100k for these schools. We feel like we would have to spend the same amount on their siblings.

Yes - we are turning down Ivy for an out of state public school. Not as prestigious as Ivy, but public has smaller class size and better career placement opportunities. Also public less $$$. Total of $145K for public vs $332K for Ivy. It was a no brainer

Wow! which public is this (or at least which part of the country)? Does the $145K total include some merit?

Anonymous wrote:My DC is still deciding. They are upset because their top two schools did not give any merit, so we said they need to decide between the other schools. They have other options that we feel are good but a little less selective. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? We have two younger children and just can’t justify an extra $100k for these schools. We feel like we would have to spend the same amount on their siblings.

Yes - we are turning down Ivy for an out of state public school. Not as prestigious as Ivy, but public has smaller class size and better career placement opportunities. Also public less $$$. Total of $145K for public vs $332K for Ivy. It was a no brainer

Anonymous wrote:My DC is still deciding. They are upset because their top two schools did not give any merit, so we said they need to decide between the other schools. They have other options that we feel are good but a little less selective. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? We have two younger children and just can’t justify an extra $100k for these schools. We feel like we would have to spend the same amount on their siblings.

Yes, I had to turn down a top school for a no-name school that gave me a ton of merit aid. It was a great choice for me, and I did very well there. In fact, I met some of my closest friends at our first job, and many of them were double ivy degreed -- in other words, we ended up in the same place. Just don't let your child believe that because his stats are higher than the average at his school that this will have anything to do with the difficulty or rigor of the work or the actual abilities of the other students at the school he chooses. College is college in the end, and he will still need to work hard to rise to the top, but being one of the big fish in a smaller pond can actually be quite helpful in getting where you want to go.

We finally decided yesterday, after an admitted student visit on Saturday. The admitted student was at his ED school where he initially was deferred and then later accepted.

DS was pretty sure where he was headed going into the student visit, but wanted to do his due diligence. The visit confirmed his decision and he pulled the trigger yesterday. DS also waited listed at two schools that could change his decision.

All I have to say is the ED school should have accepted him early. The deferral gave him space and time to find an even better fit in the end.

My DC is still deciding. They are upset because their top two schools did not give any merit, so we said they need to decide between the other schools. They have other options that we feel are good but a little less selective. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? We have two younger children and just can’t justify an extra $100k for these schools. We feel like we would have to spend the same amount on their siblings.

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Anonymous wrote:Say she is still undecided but keeps wearing a hoodie with the logo of the college we think she is most likely to choose.

People buy their kids college gear before they actually decide where to go?

We bought something from some of the schools (on clearance) and some gave swag. DD has a younger sis, so she will keep whatever DD doesn't want (any college gear is cool in HS)!

Mine is bouncing between two and would really like a third where he's wait listed. I'm pretty sure I know where he's going to decide, but he has to figure it out for himself.

Anonymous wrote:My kid started by declining some schools she knew she didn’t want. Baby steps!

This is where we are. And declined two waitlist offers (but sent a LOCI for a third, ugh!). I think she has actually decided, but just hasn’t articulated it yet. Hoping that will happen in the next couple of days. There’s one clear front runner.

Anonymous wrote:Say she is still undecided but keeps wearing a hoodie with the logo of the college we think she is most likely to choose.

People buy their kids college gear before they actually decide where to go?

Mine! I think we're down to 2. #1 has better classes for intended major but less flexibility (she had several potential major interests). It is higher rank on USN but probably less prestigious name wise #2 is an Ivy w/ lots of flexibility and support which is great, since she has a variety of interests, but it offers less for the area she is most interested (though she could design something or lobby for something or do summer programs to fill gaps). We visit #1 tomorrow, and then she needs to figure it out! It may come down to cost. Right now #2 is $10k less than #1.

We are in the same boat. Our DS is torn between 2 schools.

My kid started by declining some schools she knew she didn’t want. Baby steps!

Anonymous wrote:Another undecided here. DD is dragging it out, and it's stressing all of us out. But the harder we push her to decide, the further she seems to be from a decision.

Us, too!! I thought decision days were going to be the hardest part of this journey. Feeling stressed for our daughter who keeps waffling and can't decide. Best of luck to all ins the same place! They will make a choice soon and we can move on from this point in the process, finally!

My DD decided at the last minute (a few years back). It was okay, but she was placed in a less desirable dorm.