Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why you feel you have domination over his non working time.. so what if he ended work at 12 and your kid was to be picked up at 3? I imagine at 30, he is an autonomous adult. Is there something else at play. Like he lives with you, is not paying rent, and picking up your kid is part of the arrangement?

You'd be surprised at how many people feel this way about relatives/friends/coworkers without kids.

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Anonymous wrote:This is why I hate asking people for favors. Absolutely hate it. Even the most well-intentioned people can mess it up.

That's why I hate doing favors, even with all my good intentions they will still find a way to make me feel bad that I did not do it up to their standards.

Showing up on time to pick up a child from school is a pretty low bar.

Only when you are a SAHM. Some of us have to work.

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Anonymous wrote:This is why I hate asking people for favors. Absolutely hate it. Even the most well-intentioned people can mess it up.

That's why I hate doing favors, even with all my good intentions they will still find a way to make me feel bad that I did not do it up to their standards.

Showing up on time to pick up a child from school is a pretty low bar.

Anonymous wrote:This is why I hate asking people for favors. Absolutely hate it. Even the most well-intentioned people can mess it up.

That's why I hate doing favors, even with all my good intentions they will still find a way to make me feel bad that I did not do it up to their standards.

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Anonymous wrote:BIL was supposed to pick up our child from school and was 30 min late. I can’t imagine being 5 min late, let alone 30 min late. DS was standing outside with a teacher for 25 min after the last kid was picked up.

BIL is 30 and single and thinks we are overreacting. I’m just so mad. Dh is mad.

What pisses me off is that BIL was working a half day and had 3 hours to pick up our child, which is why we asked him in the first place.

He doesn't get it. Don't ever ask him again.

+1..Not his responsibility. Your the parent and ultimately you are to blame…at least that is how the school will see it.

+2. Now you know. Don’t ask him again. In the grand scheme of things this is nothing but I’d still be a bit annoyed.

-1 It became his responsibility once he agreed to do it - presumably OP didn't hold a gun to his head and force him to accept this task. I would be pissed too, and would never trust him with childcare again.

A fact for which I am sure he will be inordinately grateful.

What goes around comes around.

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Anonymous wrote:Lesson learned. He is unreliable for this task. Don’t ask him ever again.

And he will appreciate it.

Was he without free choice to say no if he didn’t want to do it?

This is why I hate asking people for favors. Absolutely hate it. Even the most well-intentioned people can mess it up.

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Anonymous wrote:BIL was supposed to pick up our child from school and was 30 min late. I can’t imagine being 5 min late, let alone 30 min late. DS was standing outside with a teacher for 25 min after the last kid was picked up.

BIL is 30 and single and thinks we are overreacting. I’m just so mad. Dh is mad.

What pisses me off is that BIL was working a half day and had 3 hours to pick up our child, which is why we asked him in the first place.

He doesn't get it. Don't ever ask him again.

+1..Not his responsibility. Your the parent and ultimately you are to blame…at least that is how the school will see it.

+2. Now you know. Don’t ask him again. In the grand scheme of things this is nothing but I’d still be a bit annoyed.

-1 It became his responsibility once he agreed to do it - presumably OP didn't hold a gun to his head and force him to accept this task. I would be pissed too, and would never trust him with childcare again.

I disagree. Family dynamics are strange. It could be he did feel like there were his brother and SIL holding a gun to his head to go pick up their kid from school. The kid wasn't in any danger. There was a teacher with him the whole time. Now SIL knows that her BIL is not the best choice for picking up her kid.

And he was so threatened that he did a shitty job? No.

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Anonymous wrote:BIL was supposed to pick up our child from school and was 30 min late. I can’t imagine being 5 min late, let alone 30 min late. DS was standing outside with a teacher for 25 min after the last kid was picked up.

BIL is 30 and single and thinks we are overreacting. I’m just so mad. Dh is mad.

What pisses me off is that BIL was working a half day and had 3 hours to pick up our child, which is why we asked him in the first place.

He doesn't get it. Don't ever ask him again.

+1..Not his responsibility. Your the parent and ultimately you are to blame…at least that is how the school will see it.

+2. Now you know. Don’t ask him again. In the grand scheme of things this is nothing but I’d still be a bit annoyed.

-1 It became his responsibility once he agreed to do it - presumably OP didn't hold a gun to his head and force him to accept this task. I would be pissed too, and would never trust him with childcare again.

A fact for which I am sure he will be inordinately grateful.

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Anonymous wrote:BIL was supposed to pick up our child from school and was 30 min late. I can’t imagine being 5 min late, let alone 30 min late. DS was standing outside with a teacher for 25 min after the last kid was picked up.

BIL is 30 and single and thinks we are overreacting. I’m just so mad. Dh is mad.

What pisses me off is that BIL was working a half day and had 3 hours to pick up our child, which is why we asked him in the first place.

He doesn't get it. Don't ever ask him again.

+1..Not his responsibility. Your the parent and ultimately you are to blame…at least that is how the school will see it.

+2. Now you know. Don’t ask him again. In the grand scheme of things this is nothing but I’d still be a bit annoyed.

-1 It became his responsibility once he agreed to do it - presumably OP didn't hold a gun to his head and force him to accept this task. I would be pissed too, and would never trust him with childcare again.

I disagree. Family dynamics are strange. It could be he did feel like there were his brother and SIL holding a gun to his head to go pick up their kid from school. The kid wasn't in any danger. There was a teacher with him the whole time. Now SIL knows that her BIL is not the best choice for picking up her kid.

You people SUCK. They asked BIL if he could pick up child from school and BIL agreed. If a grown adult has agreed to do something, then they should do it otherwise decline. You don't have to have children, much less be just a person that has attended any school in their lifetime to know school ends at a specific time. I can assume none of you on here has asked anyone for any help ever in your lifetime and never plan to, correct?

Anonymous wrote:Lesson learned. He is unreliable for this task. Don’t ask him ever again.

And he will appreciate it.

Anonymous wrote:Lesson learned. He is unreliable for this task. Don’t ask him ever again.

This. Now you know.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why you feel you have domination over his non working time.. so what if he ended work at 12 and your kid was to be picked up at 3? I imagine at 30, he is an autonomous adult. Is there something else at play. Like he lives with you, is not paying rent, and picking up your kid is part of the arrangement?

Are you this clueless IRL or are you just being obtuse on purpose?

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Anonymous wrote:BIL was supposed to pick up our child from school and was 30 min late. I can’t imagine being 5 min late, let alone 30 min late. DS was standing outside with a teacher for 25 min after the last kid was picked up.

BIL is 30 and single and thinks we are overreacting. I’m just so mad. Dh is mad.

What pisses me off is that BIL was working a half day and had 3 hours to pick up our child, which is why we asked him in the first place.

He doesn't get it. Don't ever ask him again.

+1..Not his responsibility. Your the parent and ultimately you are to blame…at least that is how the school will see it.

+2. Now you know. Don’t ask him again. In the grand scheme of things this is nothing but I’d still be a bit annoyed.

-1 It became his responsibility once he agreed to do it - presumably OP didn't hold a gun to his head and force him to accept this task. I would be pissed too, and would never trust him with childcare again.