Anonymous wrote:This is what “no drama please” translates to most of the time:
· I lack the depth to handle any form of conflict, healthy or otherwise
· I have outrageous intimacy issues
· I have huge amounts of unresolved baggage that I don’t plan to address but will most likely project on to my newfound partner, subconsciously or otherwise
· I am misogynistic and find my partner’s emotions are irrelevant
· I’m a laid back, drama free dude with zero self-awareness
· I lack emotional intelligence
· I was seriously just after a one-night stand and nothing else, no strings huh?

“No drama please” is a request or order.

Saying one is No Drama is different, means they are straight shooter.

Looking for No Drama means looking for straight shooters who have their $hit together.

Anonymous wrote:Work hard/play hard

+1 And the "partner in crime", too

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 45 yo straight woman who’s started OLD … some buzz words / phrases that are turnoffs: “partner in crime” (do you also wear pleated khakis?) and “drama-free”/“no drama” (from a man I take this to mean, no talking about feelings or the relationship itself).

You?

"Moderate/Conservative/Apolitcal"
Like to cuddle
Love jazz

If they don't have anything written, it is a no

Agree you are guaranteed drama with someone who writes that or they expect you to put up with their BS

Felt cute, might delete later - Left.

What does this mean?

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Anonymous wrote:This is what “no drama please” translates to most of the time:
· I lack the depth to handle any form of conflict, healthy or otherwise
· I have outrageous intimacy issues
· I have huge amounts of unresolved baggage that I don’t plan to address but will most likely project on to my newfound partner, subconsciously or otherwise
· I am misogynistic and find my partner’s emotions are irrelevant
· I’m a laid back, drama free dude with zero self-awareness
· I lack emotional intelligence
· I was seriously just after a one-night stand and nothing else, no strings huh?

Who tries to date looking for conflict? Save the conflict for when you’ve got some sort of commitment. If you give someone a reason to walk away from a relative stranger, he will walk away.

Who tries to date looking to not have conflict and growth? A long term relationship is growth with someone. You are basically advertising that you can't handle a long term relationship.

Guy here.

Anyone putting their social media profile on their bio. Snapchat, IG, Twitter. Immediate Left. My experience says they're just looking for followers.
Any mention of sugar daddy. Left.
All pics look photoshopped. Left.
Pics with many friends. Left. I get it. We all have friends. I want to see you, not solve a puzzle to see which one is you.
I'm sure there's more but the one that makes me chuckle is when someone says, No hookups or FWB. But then all the pics are racy and show a bunch of skin. Left.
Unverified profiles - Left.
Felt cute, might delete later - Left.
If a bio literally says, I'm not good at bio's, ask me - Left.

Anonymous wrote:This is what “no drama please” translates to most of the time:
· I lack the depth to handle any form of conflict, healthy or otherwise
· I have outrageous intimacy issues
· I have huge amounts of unresolved baggage that I don’t plan to address but will most likely project on to my newfound partner, subconsciously or otherwise
· I am misogynistic and find my partner’s emotions are irrelevant
· I’m a laid back, drama free dude with zero self-awareness
· I lack emotional intelligence
· I was seriously just after a one-night stand and nothing else, no strings huh?

Who tries to date looking for conflict? Save the conflict for when you’ve got some sort of commitment. If you give someone a reason to walk away from a relative stranger, he will walk away.

Work hard/play hard

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Anonymous wrote:Pronouns in bio

+1. MAGA references as well. Either political extreme is a no-go for me.

Agreed. When you call someone names in your bio, it's not a turn on.

Anonymous wrote:Pronouns in bio

+1. MAGA references as well. Either political extreme is a no-go for me.

This is what “no drama please” translates to most of the time:
· I lack the depth to handle any form of conflict, healthy or otherwise
· I have outrageous intimacy issues
· I have huge amounts of unresolved baggage that I don’t plan to address but will most likely project on to my newfound partner, subconsciously or otherwise
· I am misogynistic and find my partner’s emotions are irrelevant
· I’m a laid back, drama free dude with zero self-awareness
· I lack emotional intelligence
· I was seriously just after a one-night stand and nothing else, no strings huh?

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Anonymous wrote:Assume what you want, but “No drama” means precisely that.

But what is drama? Jerry Springer? Or run of the mill conflict at times? Or a woman being bothered when he’s checking out other women?

When I see "no drama", I think it means "I seem to attract chaos but have no ability to see the ways that I contribute to that chaos."

+1 and I also assume you're a little bit of a misogynist.

Anonymous wrote:I would say that a man writing “no drama” is probably the equivalent of a woman writing “no rapists.”

It sounds like you have some of your own stuff to work on, and that baggage is keeping you from being interested in what I’m looking for in this relationship.

One is a crime. The other isn't. So no these aren't equal. And equal might be no money stealers or something of that sort. That said, I agree it's basically saying no chaotic female behavior in the same way rapists is chaotic male behavior however I wouldn't put these on equal footing.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assume what you want, but “No drama” means precisely that.

But what is drama? Jerry Springer? Or run of the mill conflict at times? Or a woman being bothered when he’s checking out other women?

Manic bipolar behavior, requesting to sit with the woman on the anniversary of her husband’s death, requesting to provide comfort while she is crying over arguments with her kids or her ex husband. Requesting help getting her car back from a friend who is too high or drunk to produce information.

These are not exactly fun dates. Drama.

Don’t date to solve problems at home. Date to share a good time.

IE. I'm too chaotic myself to handle anyone else's chaos and can't acknowledge my own chaos and so all I'm looking for is pleasure from you.

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Anonymous wrote:Assume what you want, but “No drama” means precisely that.

I thought No Drama means a more direct, clear communicator?

Has that been taken over to subliminally mean shut up and don’t talk about things ever?

This is OP - I take it to mean the opposite. And why not then write that in a profile? "I am a direct, clear communicator, and looking for the same." I just found this article online (after I made my OP), and her perspective definitely resonates with me! Also love that she called out "partner in crime"

https://medium.com/@auntysal/no-drama-please-a-womans-response-to-your-online-dating-bio-e9599a8dad3a