Anonymous
Post 03/31/2022 13:06     Subject: Absolute Monogamy
I met my wife at 22. She was my first. Before that, I’d had a bunch of third base type relationships, which came with some embarrassing American Pie experiences (minus the webcam).

But DW taught me everything. And it was awesome, and I’ve never regretted anything. We have a great life.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2022 13:03     Subject: Re:Absolute Monogamy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anyone planning to raise healthy, emotionally sound children should choose Door #1.

Otherwise, do whatever the hell you want. Personally, I can't stand drama or randos or health or safety risk. And, it is crazy that is what OP equates to 'fun and exciting'. Someone can lead an incredibly adventurous and exciting life without banging multiple randos and getting themselves into all kinds of drama filled situations.


LOL the people I know who got married young to their HS/teenage sweetheart had the most drama filled relationships and messed up kids I’ve seen. Children shouldn’t be raising children.


Young doesn’t mean teen and no college, also getting married doesn’t mean getting pregnant right away.




That's right. Dh and I were together for 16 years before we had our dc. We travelled, vacationed, had sex in every room of our house, etc. In short, we enjoyed dating and child free marriage and now have a happy family including children.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2022 12:54     Subject: Absolute Monogamy
Anonymous wrote:Ive been absolutely monogamous with DW. I've had quite a few one night stands and LTR before I met her. Honestly I would have rather met her sooner to be able to have spent more time with someone I really cared about then hooking up with some woman from a bar


So sweet. Good for you.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2022 12:36     Subject: Absolute Monogamy
Anonymous wrote:If someone fell in love, married early and stayed monogamous all their life, did they miss out even though they were happy and content?

Would you take that option over life filled with dating, hook ups, relationships, fun, heartache, breakups, marriages,divorces, drama, uncertainty, infidelity, stress and all?
Maybe, but not from divorces and infidelity (divorces, really?). I loved the "me years" clubbing, girls trips, parties, sleepovers, meeting people, travel, etc and wouldn't trade it for the world. -Monogamous, zero one-night-stands. You do you and let singles do them. If you feel you missed out, do a "hall pass".
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2022 12:32     Subject: Re:Absolute Monogamy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anyone planning to raise healthy, emotionally sound children should choose Door #1.

Otherwise, do whatever the hell you want. Personally, I can't stand drama or randos or health or safety risk. And, it is crazy that is what OP equates to 'fun and exciting'. Someone can lead an incredibly adventurous and exciting life without banging multiple randos and getting themselves into all kinds of drama filled situations.


LOL the people I know who got married young to their HS/teenage sweetheart had the most drama filled relationships and messed up kids I’ve seen. Children shouldn’t be raising children.


Young doesn’t mean teen and no college, also getting married doesn’t mean getting pregnant right away.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2022 12:27     Subject: Re:Absolute Monogamy
Anonymous wrote:Anyone planning to raise healthy, emotionally sound children should choose Door #1.

Otherwise, do whatever the hell you want. Personally, I can't stand drama or randos or health or safety risk. And, it is crazy that is what OP equates to 'fun and exciting'. Someone can lead an incredibly adventurous and exciting life without banging multiple randos and getting themselves into all kinds of drama filled situations.


LOL the people I know who got married young to their HS/teenage sweetheart had the most drama filled relationships and messed up kids I’ve seen. Children shouldn’t be raising children.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2022 12:18     Subject: Re:Absolute Monogamy
Anyone planning to raise healthy, emotionally sound children should choose Door #1.

Otherwise, do whatever the hell you want. Personally, I can't stand drama or randos or health or safety risk. And, it is crazy that is what OP equates to 'fun and exciting'. Someone can lead an incredibly adventurous and exciting life without banging multiple randos and getting themselves into all kinds of drama filled situations.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2022 12:14     Subject: Absolute Monogamy
Anonymous wrote:If someone fell in love, married early and stayed monogamous all their life, did they miss out even though they were happy and content?

Would you take that option over life filled with dating, hook ups, relationships, fun, heartache, breakups, marriages,divorces, drama, uncertainty, infidelity, stress and all?


I vote for #2, or else we wouldn't have much to read about on this forum.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2022 10:07     Subject: Absolute Monogamy
Anonymous wrote:If someone fell in love, married early and stayed monogamous all their life, did they miss out even though they were happy and content?

Would you take that option over life filled with dating, hook ups, relationships, fun, heartache, breakups, marriages,divorces, drama, uncertainty, infidelity, stress and all?


Life is give and take, every act has consequences. You may miss out on extra fun train but also dodge extra baggage.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2022 10:00     Subject: Absolute Monogamy
Anonymous wrote:Sex is an intimate experience, making it a thoughtless occurring with random people is a questionable behavior.


It doesn’t have to be monogamy but it certainly doesn’t have to be disposable promiscuity either.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2022 09:57     Subject: Absolute Monogamy
Sex is an intimate experience, making it a thoughtless occurring with random people is a questionable behavior.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2022 09:56     Subject: Re:Absolute Monogamy
I agree, stability is 100% the best way to go.

Not interested in a long term STD, or disease for some loser wanting a hook up.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2022 09:55     Subject: Absolute Monogamy
Hollywood is to blame for glamorizing promiscuity. They are on to normalizing open marriages now.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2022 09:55     Subject: Absolute Monogamy
IMO, No. I went around the block a few times before undertaking monogamy and none of it was worth it. I’d say it was all incredibly embarassing (on my part) and a waste of time/emotion. The only thing I learned of value was what not to do, which you don’t really need to know if you got it right the first time.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2022 09:49     Subject: Absolute Monogamy
Dh and I have been together, faithfully, since we were 20. We have a 30 year history of love, fidelity, trust, support, intimacy, laughter, etc, etc. I wouldn't trade that or change a thing for some extra dick and drama.