Anonymous
Post 03/20/2022 18:31     Subject: Re:If you had a bad sleeper but didn’t sleep train…
Never sleep trained and she finally started sleeping 6 or so hours at a time at 22 months. I wasn’t against sleep training exactly, I just always thought it would just be a little longer until things got better so why go through sleep training? It almost destroyed my marriage, hurt my DH’s career, and I was not a particularly good parent because I was so exhausted all the time. I wish I would have sleep trained and will for my second.
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2022 18:23     Subject: If you had a bad sleeper but didn’t sleep train…
I am not a crunchy mom, I am more a Cheetos-and-Cocomelon mom, but I just could not do anything that even vaguely approached sleep training. Kid woke up every 90 min for two solid years. I lived in the city and I didn’t work so it was doable.

Magically kid started sleeping thru the night at 2. Really nothing had changed, he just one day? out of no where? slept all night. It was and is glorious. That day will come for you, too.
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2022 18:22     Subject: If you had a bad sleeper but didn’t sleep train…
Anonymous wrote:I didn’t bedshare until 14 months because I wasn’t comfortable with it until then but that’s what turned things around for us.


Same, waited until after a year, and then it helped.
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2022 18:11     Subject: Re:If you had a bad sleeper but didn’t sleep train…
Anonymous wrote:Never. He woke up at least once a night until like 8.


This is what happened at our house.
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2022 18:10     Subject: Re:If you had a bad sleeper but didn’t sleep train…
To answer your initial question - yes. Second child was an awful sleeper. Up every 45 mins from bedtime and then for the next 3 to 4 hours. And then would sleep 2 to 3 hours max at a time after that. We did not sleep train. I simply got up every time, nursed him back to sleep for 5 mins and then went back to bed. Around 8 months he stopped the every 45 min wakeups and would sleep 2 to 3 hours at a time. He did not sleep through the entire night until he was 14 months old. We never co slept with the exception of when he would wake between 5 and 6 am, I would take him back to bed with me so I could go back to sleep until 7 or so.

After that 14 month point he slept fine. We had a phase around 3 years old where he would magically appear in our bed around 3 or 4 am and we just made room and let him sleep there. He quit doing it after a couple months.

He is 10 now. Goes to bed fine alone and sleeps for around 10 hours a night.

So there was no special solution that fixed his sleep. Just time.
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2022 17:51     Subject: If you had a bad sleeper but didn’t sleep train…
I didn’t bedshare until 14 months because I wasn’t comfortable with it until then but that’s what turned things around for us.
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2022 17:37     Subject: Re:If you had a bad sleeper but didn’t sleep train…
Usually around age one (9-15 mo) for mine and my nieces and nephews, with one exception.

One of mine didn't sleep through the night until after age 3. He was sleep trained once, and then subsequent attempts failed. Co-sleeping helped.
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2022 17:31     Subject: If you had a bad sleeper but didn’t sleep train…
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just ignoring the pro-sleeping training people for now. No energy to explain why I don’t want to. I appreciate your opinion.

We tried co-sleeping. It was even worse with baby seeking the breast all night, waking every 5-15 minutes and ending up hysterical with exhaustion by morning.


You do not want to sleep train. You do not even want to hear about it. You do not want to hear about so called obvious things to try. So what exactly do you want? All I can say is, your baby needs sleep and it is up to you to help provide her that.


What an annoying post. I stated exactly what I want; please re-read my OP. I am not asking for advice here because obviously I have already read lots of books, blog posts, etc and posted here and many other places, talked to people etc. I am already aware of sleep training, how, why, etc.


The annoying one is you. You have a long road ahead of you with this child. Best of luck to it
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2022 17:31     Subject: If you had a bad sleeper but didn’t sleep train…
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just ignoring the pro-sleeping training people for now. No energy to explain why I don’t want to. I appreciate your opinion.

We tried co-sleeping. It was even worse with baby seeking the breast all night, waking every 5-15 minutes and ending up hysterical with exhaustion by morning.


You do not want to sleep train. You do not even want to hear about it. You do not want to hear about so called obvious things to try. So what exactly do you want? All I can say is, your baby needs sleep and it is up to you to help provide her that.


What an annoying post. I stated exactly what I want; please re-read my OP. I am not asking for advice here because obviously I have already read lots of books, blog posts, etc and posted here and many other places, talked to people etc. I am already aware of sleep training, how, why, etc.


There are no other options. Your baby doesn’t understand or know how to sleep. He or she desperately neeeds your help but you refuse to give it. You’ve made this about you and are depriving your child of sleep.
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2022 17:30     Subject: If you had a bad sleeper but didn’t sleep train…
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just ignoring the pro-sleeping training people for now. No energy to explain why I don’t want to. I appreciate your opinion.

We tried co-sleeping. It was even worse with baby seeking the breast all night, waking every 5-15 minutes and ending up hysterical with exhaustion by morning.


You do not want to sleep train. You do not even want to hear about it. You do not want to hear about so called obvious things to try. So what exactly do you want? All I can say is, your baby needs sleep and it is up to you to help provide her that.


What an annoying post. I stated exactly what I want; please re-read my OP. I am not asking for advice here because obviously I have already read lots of books, blog posts, etc and posted here and many other places, talked to people etc. I am already aware of sleep training, how, why, etc.


You are the annoying one OP.

Want sleep? SLEEP TRAIN.

It's for your baby's sake. You wouldn't deny her food, right? But you are denying her rest. She needs to be taught how to sleep. You said yourself -- your family is breaking down.

Fix it. No whining.


Seriously! OP - what’s your problem?
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2022 17:28     Subject: If you had a bad sleeper but didn’t sleep train…
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just ignoring the pro-sleeping training people for now. No energy to explain why I don’t want to. I appreciate your opinion.

We tried co-sleeping. It was even worse with baby seeking the breast all night, waking every 5-15 minutes and ending up hysterical with exhaustion by morning.


You do not want to sleep train. You do not even want to hear about it. You do not want to hear about so called obvious things to try. So what exactly do you want? All I can say is, your baby needs sleep and it is up to you to help provide her that.


What an annoying post. I stated exactly what I want; please re-read my OP. I am not asking for advice here because obviously I have already read lots of books, blog posts, etc and posted here and many other places, talked to people etc. I am already aware of sleep training, how, why, etc.


You are the annoying one OP.

Want sleep? SLEEP TRAIN.

It's for your baby's sake. You wouldn't deny her food, right? But you are denying her rest. She needs to be taught how to sleep. You said yourself -- your family is breaking down.

Fix it. No whining.
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2022 17:27     Subject: If you had a bad sleeper but didn’t sleep train…
Never. Ended up with a terrible sleep training when baby 3 came along and I needed to be there for the baby instead of a 7 year old. They still aren’t a good sleeper. Baby 3 was a bad sleeper too. Bad. We sleep trained at 5 months and they’ve slept through the night since. I believe in sleep training now
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2022 17:26     Subject: If you had a bad sleeper but didn’t sleep train…
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just ignoring the pro-sleeping training people for now. No energy to explain why I don’t want to. I appreciate your opinion.

We tried co-sleeping. It was even worse with baby seeking the breast all night, waking every 5-15 minutes and ending up hysterical with exhaustion by morning.


You do not want to sleep train. You do not even want to hear about it. You do not want to hear about so called obvious things to try. So what exactly do you want? All I can say is, your baby needs sleep and it is up to you to help provide her that.


What an annoying post. I stated exactly what I want; please re-read my OP. I am not asking for advice here because obviously I have already read lots of books, blog posts, etc and posted here and many other places, talked to people etc. I am already aware of sleep training, how, why, etc.
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2022 17:26     Subject: If you had a bad sleeper but didn’t sleep train…
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just ignoring the pro-sleeping training people for now. No energy to explain why I don’t want to. I appreciate your opinion.

We tried co-sleeping. It was even worse with baby seeking the breast all night, waking every 5-15 minutes and ending up hysterical with exhaustion by morning.


You do not want to sleep train. You do not even want to hear about it. You do not want to hear about so called obvious things to try. So what exactly do you want? All I can say is, your baby needs sleep and it is up to you to help provide her that.


What an annoying post. I stated exactly what I want; please re-read my OP. I am not asking for advice here because obviously I have already read lots of books, blog posts, etc and posted here and many other places, talked to people etc. I am already aware of sleep training, how, why, etc.
Anonymous
Post 03/20/2022 17:23     Subject: If you had a bad sleeper but didn’t sleep train…
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just ignoring the pro-sleeping training people for now. No energy to explain why I don’t want to. I appreciate your opinion.

We tried co-sleeping. It was even worse with baby seeking the breast all night, waking every 5-15 minutes and ending up hysterical with exhaustion by morning.


Try this book..she’s very practical, and it’s an easy read.


https://themilkmeg.com/product/e-book-boobin-all-day-boobin-all-night-a-gentle-approach-to-sleep-for-breastfeeding-families/


OP here. Thanks. Will definitely read.