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Anonymous wrote:Would you feel concerned if the guy you are dating lives in a shared off campus apartment with 4 female classmates and 90% of his friends are females? I don’t see it as worrisome but feeling alarmed since a friend questioned it. Is it possible he is confused about his gender or sexuality? Is this a red flag?

It's funny how we consider someone hanging around women to be gay and around men to be hetersexual. Even though it could be the opposite!

I would say its a red flag in either case if they are both heterosexual and looking to date. Their prospective dates would probably wonder if the friends were really friends or something more. Whatever the case is, it's problematic if they can't be friends with same sex people.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't date a guy who still had roommates at this point in my life
I also don't date guys with only female friends btdt, don't care how many hit dogs holla guys like this are always fbois

Seeing as how OP describes an off-campus apartment and classmates, I’m guessing she’s still in college.

I answered Ops question. Did you? Go piss off.

He's not "blind to gender." He's gay. Like, gay gay.

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Anonymous wrote:No, that's a ridiculous conclusion.

But I wouldn't date him either. No way. I only value men with other male friends. Men who are friends with 90 percent women are trouble or weird.

This

+1 Again, THIS

Agree, same thing with women too. Anyone that can't form friendships with their own gender usually has issues.

I’m the one who thinks that OK should grow up, but I actually agree with this. Except I demand it to say that anyone who can’t be friends with both genders has issues. Women who can’t be friends with women, women who can’t be friends with men, men who can’t be friends with women, men who can’t be friends with men. All not cool.

You too need to grow up as there is no gender quota in friendships.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you feel concerned if the guy you are dating lives in a shared off campus apartment with 4 female classmates and 90% of his friends are females? I don’t see it as worrisome but feeling alarmed since a friend questioned it. Is it possible he is confused about his gender or sexuality? Is this a red flag?

It's funny how we consider someone hanging around women to be gay and around men to be hetersexual. Even though it could be the opposite!

This^ Is a good point.

Anonymous wrote:What's your insecure issue, OP? That he is secretly gay (in 2022), or a Hugh Hefner player?

Either way you should toss this one back and look for another guy - who of course you will ultimately have issues with too.

You analyzed OP well but this is not the answer to the question. Let’s separate OP from the question, it’s still a dilemma for most posters who responded to this thread.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, that's a ridiculous conclusion.

But I wouldn't date him either. No way. I only value men with other male friends. Men who are friends with 90 percent women are trouble or weird.

This

+1 Again, THIS

Agree, same thing with women too. Anyone that can't form friendships with their own gender usually has issues.

I’m the one who thinks that OK should grow up, but I actually agree with this. Except I demand it to say that anyone who can’t be friends with both genders has issues. Women who can’t be friends with women, women who can’t be friends with men, men who can’t be friends with women, men who can’t be friends with men. All not cool.

Anonymous wrote:Would you feel concerned if the guy you are dating lives in a shared off campus apartment with 4 female classmates and 90% of his friends are females? I don’t see it as worrisome but feeling alarmed since a friend questioned it. Is it possible he is confused about his gender or sexuality? Is this a red flag?

It's funny how we consider someone hanging around women to be gay and around men to be hetersexual. Even though it could be the opposite!

The title of the thread is interesting. Do you actually think that he is blind to gender?

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't date a guy who still had roommates at this point in my life
I also don't date guys with only female friends btdt, don't care how many hit dogs holla guys like this are always fbois

Seeing as how OP describes an off-campus apartment and classmates, I’m guessing she’s still in college.

I wouldn't date a guy who still had roommates at this point in my life
I also don't date guys with only female friends btdt, don't care how many hit dogs holla guys like this are always fbois

What's your insecure issue, OP? That he is secretly gay (in 2022), or a Hugh Hefner player?

Either way you should toss this one back and look for another guy - who of course you will ultimately have issues with too.

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Anonymous wrote:Men with single or stronger mothers, grandmothers and sisters tend to dislike toxic male masculinity and seek deeper intimacy most male friends can offer. Some of them are gay or feminine or players but others only want surrogate females for emotional support.

Once they start romantic relationships, their need of intimacy gets fulfilled or GF/Wife feel bothered by other females so they aren’t likely to stay this way forever.

again, we are blaming the mother

I didn't view the PP as blaming the mother. I think its a pretty good explanation about why some straight men have closer friendships with women than other men.

I used to be more open minded and dated a “nu-masculinity” guy once who was only friends with women and gay men. I don’t doubt that he was attracted to women, but he was definitely a little on the not not gay side too. Certain tendencies and habits slowly came out over time and I had to hard pass. Actually, it was relatively quick so we didn’t date very long at all. I think it’s what the kids are calling bi-phobia these days, but women are free to want what they want!

Anonymous wrote:Men with single or stronger mothers, grandmothers and sisters tend to dislike toxic male masculinity and seek deeper intimacy most male friends can offer. Some of them are gay or feminine or players but others only want surrogate females for emotional support.

Once they start romantic relationships, their need of intimacy gets fulfilled or GF/Wife feel bothered by other females so they aren’t likely to stay this way forever.

again, we are blaming the mother