Anonymous
03/15/2022 18:40
Subject: Am I the only one who never gets away?
You have so many advantages and are completely oblivious to them.
Anonymous
03/15/2022 13:03
Subject: Re:Am I the only one who never gets away?
No, you're not the only one. Stop with the self-pity and suck it up or figure it out. Start looking for new weekend sitters now and get your kids used to them so that eventually the sitter can stay overnight. Make it clear when hiring that this is your goal.
Anonymous
03/15/2022 12:29
Subject: Am I the only one who never gets away?
No, I travel alone every once in a while for work, but we have never had a couples get-away or anything like that. We live far from family, unfortunately, and don't have a sitter/close friend network where we currently live that I would feel comfortable leaving on a trip. It would be nice, but I think social media makes it look more common than it really is for most couples.
Anonymous
03/15/2022 12:20
Subject: Am I the only one who never gets away?
Find a sitter. Let kids acclimate. We've had the same one since 2016 - through Care.com - and since last June, have gone to 3 overnight getaways without the kids. It's amazing.
Anonymous
03/14/2022 20:42
Subject: Am I the only one who never gets away?
I was like you. Had some girl trips. Husband had some guys trips. Our first weekend trip just the two of us was our 15th anniversary. Our kids were like 9 and 11. We are still happily married and enjoying our time together now that the kids are gone. Weekends away are nice but not a requirement for a happy, healthy, long lasting marriage no matter how much people here insist the contrary.
Anonymous
03/14/2022 20:34
Subject: Am I the only one who never gets away?
Anonymous wrote:You are not alone. People who have family help have no idea.
This.
Anonymous
03/14/2022 20:12
Subject: Am I the only one who never gets away?
It doesn’t help you go on a couples trip, but have you mentioned this to friends? We have friends whose parents all live in another country. We have offered to take their kid for 1-2 nights when they are ready - they are very covid cautious.
We have local grandparents and know how nice 1 night away can be, so it’s a small favor to do for a good friend.
We have local grandparents and know how nice 1 night away can be, so it’s a small favor to do for a good friend.
Anonymous
03/14/2022 20:04
Subject: Am I the only one who never gets away?
We have been nowhere. Def don’t have a nanny either.
Anonymous
03/14/2022 20:00
Subject: Am I the only one who never gets away?
Anonymous wrote:This was us when our kids were young. It was REALLY hard. Eventually we did find a little village, and now we are lucky that we can occasionally send the kids to a neighbors house for an evening while we go out. But we are resigned to vacations with the kids at places with kids clubs for the foreseeable future as we don't have anyone to leave them with for long periods. Hang in there.
This was us for years and years. No one to watch them, not comfortable with random babysitter. We just got used to it.
Anonymous
03/14/2022 19:58
Subject: Re:Am I the only one who never gets away?
Say you normally pay your nanny $25/hr. If you offered her $2 or 3k for the entire weekend, I bet she would do it.
Anonymous
03/14/2022 19:56
Subject: Re:Am I the only one who never gets away?
Anonymous wrote:Dh and I go away on adult trips with friends but have yet to go on a couple trip with others since we have been married.
I go on 1-3 girlfriend trips. It may be a local driving trip like Salamander or Philadelphia for a night or a flying trip to Florida or Arizona.
Dh typically goes on 1-2 work related but totally social conference trips and maybe 1 guy trip per year. He has gone to super bowl, golf, milestone birthday trips.
In the 15 years we have been married, I think we have been away just us maybe 4 times. We have 3 kids now and it hard to leave them all.
I do not think couple only trips are common, at least not in our circles. My friends and I love our mom break getaways though.
Pp here. I just reread and you wrote away with SO or even as couples.
When we had 1 or 2 kids, we did get away infrequently. I have tagged along to DH’s work conference. When we had one child, my mom watched him for the weekend with my dad. When we had 2 kids, we went away twice. Both times my FT nanny worked and my parents came.
If you pay your nanny enough, she can hire/get her own childcare. It will be expensive.
Anonymous
03/14/2022 19:44
Subject: Re:Am I the only one who never gets away?
Dh and I go away on adult trips with friends but have yet to go on a couple trip with others since we have been married.
I go on 1-3 girlfriend trips. It may be a local driving trip like Salamander or Philadelphia for a night or a flying trip to Florida or Arizona.
Dh typically goes on 1-2 work related but totally social conference trips and maybe 1 guy trip per year. He has gone to super bowl, golf, milestone birthday trips.
In the 15 years we have been married, I think we have been away just us maybe 4 times. We have 3 kids now and it hard to leave them all.
I do not think couple only trips are common, at least not in our circles. My friends and I love our mom break getaways though.
I go on 1-3 girlfriend trips. It may be a local driving trip like Salamander or Philadelphia for a night or a flying trip to Florida or Arizona.
Dh typically goes on 1-2 work related but totally social conference trips and maybe 1 guy trip per year. He has gone to super bowl, golf, milestone birthday trips.
In the 15 years we have been married, I think we have been away just us maybe 4 times. We have 3 kids now and it hard to leave them all.
I do not think couple only trips are common, at least not in our circles. My friends and I love our mom break getaways though.
Anonymous
03/14/2022 18:57
Subject: Re:Am I the only one who never gets away?
I'm a single parent (24/7/365). I've never gotten time away from my child because I don't have the money. There are worse things in life.
Anonymous
03/14/2022 18:12
Subject: Am I the only one who never gets away?
It was the same for us when our kids were little. Our first time away without the kids was when our oldest was ten.
I know it's hard.
I know it's hard.
Anonymous
03/14/2022 18:07
Subject: Am I the only one who never gets away?
We’ve had a couple weekend getaways.